Hi, I'm new here :) I haven't yet met someone with the same type of OCD as me. I have relationship OCD and my obsessions switch between doubting my love for my partner and wondering whether my partner will leave me. I become obsessed with their physical flaws until I convince myself I'm not attracted to them and I struggle to feel connected. Currently, I'm afraid my partner will fall out of love with me and I'm afraid that they can't promise me that they'll stick around. I feel really alone and I don't have many people to talk to. Can anyone relate?

I have struggled from the same theme and am still in recovery but I can tell you that your going through this because your relationship is important to you! Your ocd is trying to convince you the exact opposite of what you want! That’s what it does. It’s bully’s you. Recognize your compulsions... ruminating, over analyzing, trying to figure out what made you this way, avoidance.. these are all compulsions. Hope this helps

Thank you all so much!! Just knowing I'm not alone is so comforting. For me, my fear is rooted in my difficulty with uncertainty; I want to be sure that I'm fully attracted and at the same time I'm terrified I'll be dumped. But this is a start to overcoming those fears ?? My compulsion is reassurance seeking, so when my partner doesn't text back I panic ☹️☹️ but this is so so helpful

i’m going through the exact same thing and although i don’t have any answers yet about why I’m going through this and why these constant doubts and worries make me feel disconnected from my partner i do know that you shouldn’t lose hope... if the person you’re with is worth fighting for and you know that deep down in you heart and mind then getting through this phase will be worth it!

Hi! I have relationship OCD too. There's definitely a number of us on here who have similar struggles. You're not alone!

easbrink: thank you so much for reaching out ?? i know how terrifying it is. and I've heard a lot of people say that their emotions shut off. This is perfectly normal :) it happens to me when my anxiety is really bad. I'm here if you ever need to talk

flowergirlglow: i'm here for you too if you ever need it :) and i'm new here too, so we can be new together ;p ?❤❤

Aww, thank you so much!! ?♥️♥️♥️

I feel like I judge people on appearances so much. For example, there is this boy who I know and quite like, but I feel that I will never LIKE like him, if you know what I mean, because he has lots of spots and not very good hygiene

I feel the same way :( hygiene is definitely important, and if someone doesn't keep clean it can be a real turn off, lol. I think we all do that to some degree, me included: it's only a problem when it becomes an obsession ? you're not a bad person, don't worry, I think everyone can relate :)

Ty?

i definitely can relate! i've had some really bad days these last days too.. one moment i'm scared to death he'll leave or stop loving me and the next i'm telling him to leave before i ruin his life or just (even if it's hard to say cuz logically i know he's the best thing that's ever happend to me) feel nothing at all for him and just shut my emotions off completely. so you are not alone ❤