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hey, so I’m not an expert when it comes to the lgbtq community and I’m not apart of it but I’m an ally. First, thinking being in the lgbt is cool is different from being in it. In our minds, we only imagine the good or ‘cool’ parts and don’t consider the less cool parts. The majority of people question sexuality as children and even as adolescents and sometimes adults. I’m not saying you were or weren’t but saying “I think” is reasonable considering all we hear abt the lgbtq community and toxic people who say doing certain things or acting a certain way makes you gay. It’s ok to be confused or second guess and even that doesn’t determine your sexuality. The only thing that defines ur sexuality what you say your sexuality is. Only you can decide your sexuality and if you’re not sure that’s ok too. So if you say you’re straight, you’re straight and thinking the lgbtq community is ‘cool’ doesn’t change that. Hope this helps :)
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It’s still triggering me tho as i said things like “I think” even though I know I’m straight, and knew when I said that. And I did say that because I thought people in lgbt where cool people as my friends where in it , which I know now is wrong, and that’s why I said “I think” instead of yea. + I know I wouldn’t say that now, and if just say yes if someone asked me if I’m straight but it’s still triggering me a lot on why I didn’t just say yes. + triggering me if someone asked me that if I’d say something like I thibk again , advice ?
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@Aシ I get that. I don’t know why you would’ve said I think but it could’ve been what I said in my previous comment or mindless. Try not to be triggered, it was a while ago from what you’ve said and there isn’t a need to hyper analyze everything. You can’t change the past so just continue living like it didn’t happen and if someone asks you again, say yes. Again, try not to overthink it. :)
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- 3y
@briannakailey Thanks :) this helped a lot! I’m mainly ruminating tho if I would do it now, even though I know I wouldn’t but would I???
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@Aシ glad I could help. I know it’s technically reassurance which is terrible for people with ocd but if I could help then I had to try. That is the worst part of ocd too, not knowing and the pertrifying uncertainty of “would I” or “is this true” :(
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@briannakailey Yeah definitely! Thanks for all the help:) it really did help me a lot + good luck with ocd we can get thru this!!!
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- 15w
i had recently been triggered to have so-ocd. its been on my mind non-stop. (i am a heterosexual female) and my mind has been all over the place questioning if i have been in denial the entire time. ive always had people tell me they sort of got that vibe it it never really affected me until my own mother had her suspicions. so i would constantly get triggered un public around the same gender, while knowing my true sexuality. ive always been attracted to men but as of recently ive been having super bad anxiety to where i cannot eat or sleep and feel weak all the time. it was like that for a week or so. now im in the calm where i have been trying accept the uncertainty but it still isnt fair as im getting triggered. im a little worried because it feels like i have been lying to my parents the entire time although ive never had the desire to be with the same gender. and i keep getting intrusive thoguhts that make me feel anxious and uncomfortable. its all starting to affect my friendships as im constantly getting triggered with the intrusive thoguhts. i feel a little less anxious compared to how i was a couple days ago. im really scared on why im having these thoughts now when i have been having romantic feelings for a guy the past year or so. ive also been struggling with false attraction and loss attraction to men. it makes me feel uncertain of my life the entire time
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- 14w
I’ve recovered from HOCD before and got my attraction and my usual actual identity back. I was recovered from end 2022- start 2025 until I got triggered UGHHH😭 My HOCD is REALLY trying to convince me and it’s SO annoying cause I genuinely don’t want these thoughts. I know I naturally like men and always have done so. I can’t wait for my first therapy session in two days Omg! I need your advice, not necessarily reassurance, but more advice? My HOCD is throwing random “proof” I did/ saw as a child in my face, which back then had no meaning in my life and I continued to live a perfectly heterosexual life. I’ve educated myself about arousal non concordance / child’s play, but it still doesn’t remove the HOCD. I’ve read therapists great explanations on how it’s not a sexuality issue, BUT ITS AN OCD BRAIN ISSUE. So basically I’ve been straight and i will die as straight. But my ocd is still continuing with the intrusive thoughts/flashbacks. I’ve had some moments where I haven’t done as many compulsions and had less anxiety but still had those damn thoughts and I DO NOT want those damn thoughts. I have so much proof and factual/logical explanations but HOCD is still continuing to thrive. I absolutely hate this and I feel so alone. I wish there was a reset button cause I don’t want these thoughts to happen. I want a man and I stand by that. How do y’all deal with these situations? Cause sitting with the thoughts is clearly not helping.
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- 8w
I really need help understanding what I’m going through. For a long time now, I’ve been struggling with thoughts and feelings about women that confuse and scare me. Sometimes I feel this strange emotional or mental ‘pull’ toward certain women — it’s not exactly sexual, and not clearly romantic either, but it feels like something, and it triggers deep anxiety. When I see a beautiful woman or a WLW (woman-loving-woman) couple, I feel something that I can’t explain — sometimes I think it’s just admiration or aesthetic appreciation, but OCD keeps telling me: “You felt something, so you must be gay,” or “You’re hiding something.” I get stuck in endless loops, trying to analyze these moments and label them. Even when I feel physical or emotional reactions, they don’t feel natural or aligned with who I am. They feel like a reaction to the idea of women, not real attraction. I try to be honest with myself — I even told a friend I might be bisexual at some point, just to test if that felt more comfortable. But it didn’t. It made things worse, and I felt like I lost touch with who I am. I don’t want to lie to myself or live in denial, but I’m exhausted. It feels like I’m being mentally forced to feel something that isn’t mine. I’m 14, and I understand that things might still be developing, but I can’t help feeling like I’ve always been drawn to men, and never naturally wanted women that way. Still, I keep doubting everything. Is this real attraction or OCD feeding false feelings and thoughts? Can OCD create emotional or mental sensations that feel like desire? I’m so scared that I’ll lose myself, or find out something I never wanted. I just want peace and to feel like myself again.
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