Advice? In the past before my hocd started, I used to think it was "cool" to be in lgbt since my a lot of my friends where in it , and the main thing that's bothering me is that when someone used to ask me (my friends only mainly) if I was straight, I said "I think" or something like that but not yes which is really triggering my ocd even though I don't say that anymore as I promised myself that I'd stop saying that cause it's wrong, False and affects my ocd a lot so now obviously I just say yes if someone asked me if I'm straight but I'm now ruminating whether I still think it's "cool" to be in lgbt , I haven’t told anyone this as Ik it’s wrong and idk what my parents, friends reaction would be as they’re homophobic and they might think I’m in lgbt or smthing idk. Please help me with this!!!!

anonymoususe...

Date posted: 3y

hey, so I’m not an expert when it comes to the lgbtq community and I’m not apart of it but I’m an ally. First, thinking being in the lgbt is cool is different from being in it. In our minds, we only imagine the good or ‘cool’ parts and don’t consider the less cool parts. The majority of people question sexuality as children and even as adolescents and sometimes adults. I’m not saying you were or weren’t but saying “I think” is reasonable considering all we hear abt the lgbtq community and toxic people who say doing certain things or acting a certain way makes you gay. It’s ok to be confused or second guess and even that doesn’t determine your sexuality. The only thing that defines ur sexuality what you say your sexuality is. Only you can decide your sexuality and if you’re not sure that’s ok too. So if you say you’re straight, you’re straight and thinking the lgbtq community is ‘cool’ doesn’t change that. Hope this helps :)

Aシ

Date posted: 3y

It’s still triggering me tho as i said things like “I think” even though I know I’m straight, and knew when I said that. And I did say that because I thought people in lgbt where cool people as my friends where in it , which I know now is wrong, and that’s why I said “I think” instead of yea. + I know I wouldn’t say that now, and if just say yes if someone asked me if I’m straight but it’s still triggering me a lot on why I didn’t just say yes. + triggering me if someone asked me that if I’d say something like I thibk again , advice ?

anonymoususe...

Date posted: 3y

@Aシ I get that. I don’t know why you would’ve said I think but it could’ve been what I said in my previous comment or mindless. Try not to be triggered, it was a while ago from what you’ve said and there isn’t a need to hyper analyze everything. You can’t change the past so just continue living like it didn’t happen and if someone asks you again, say yes. Again, try not to overthink it. :)

Aシ

Date posted: 3y

@briannakailey Thanks :) this helped a lot! I’m mainly ruminating tho if I would do it now, even though I know I wouldn’t but would I???

anonymoususe...

Date posted: 3y

@Aシ glad I could help. I know it’s technically reassurance which is terrible for people with ocd but if I could help then I had to try. That is the worst part of ocd too, not knowing and the pertrifying uncertainty of “would I” or “is this true” :(

Aシ

Date posted: 3y

@briannakailey Yeah definitely! Thanks for all the help:) it really did help me a lot + good luck with ocd we can get thru this!!!

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