Tomorrow me and my “bf” of a year are talking to decide to get back together or not. We been on a break for two months and so I asked if we could talk and establish it you know. And he agreed and said he’d evaluate how the last 2 weeks have been because we started to hangout a lot and talk every day again. So technically it’s his decision. He said either we get back together or u never speak to me again. And it’s just really nerve wrecking for me. He’s trying to keep the same light headed funny energy but it’s hard to go along with that when not certain what the answer will be. I’m just scared. I want to be with him. And I know I’ll be okay whatever the outcome but I don’t want it to end. So I can only hope he doesn’t either. It’s scary.

Tell him that. Tell him the outcome you want and maybe it’ll lead to more of a convo.

I feel like both of you might be holding back, it’s ultimately both of your decision to get back together or not, but if you both had wanted to be together 100% then why the hesitation? Has whatever caused you both to take a break in the first place been resolved? The point where you said he mentioned it’s kind of all or nothing (together or never speaking again) sounded a bit manipulative to me. Kind of like he was pushing you to feel like this was an urgent decision, and being rushed makes us desperate for an answer even if we’re not 100% sure it’s the right one. If there was no date set to talk, and no timeline, and had he not said that, would you currently want to be with him? Or would you need more time to figure yourself out? The last time someone gave me an ultimatum like that, I was told that I “would never find someone who will accept [me] for the things [i’ve] done in the past” so I should just hurry up and decide to be with him. That was obvious manipulation, but it still made me feel like crap and that I did have to be with him because maybe he was right (he was wrong obvs lol). Not saying that your ex is intending to be manipulative here, but just breathe and take your time. And if the talk tomorrow goes the opposite way and he’s not ready to get together again, take this as an opportunity to find yourself, then find someone who won’t hesitate even for a second about being with you. Someone who will love you and not need a formal break from you, and not cause you to feel scared or unsure of yourself. You got this, whatever you decide is up to you, you don’t need to validate yourself and your decisions to others-just yourself. Make sure this is what you want, and are happy with, and that you’re willing to experience this discomfort in the future should another break happen again.