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I heard Christian’s saying god can call someone out to be single forever. I‘m scared. Is this true ?
I heard Christian’s saying god can call someone out to be single forever. I‘m scared. Is this true ?
God is for you. He has plans to prosper you and to give you a hope and a future. He wants to have a loving relationship with you. If you don’t want to be single, tell Him. He loves to hear all of our thoughts and even worries. He is waiting to listen to you without judgement. His heart cares for what’s on our hearts because He loves us. He will listen to you.
We all have free will, it’s up to us to decide what we want to do with it. Here are some verses I appreciate (Bible translations may differ, but the message stays the same) Galatians 6:4,5,7 “ let each one examine his own actions, and then he will have cause for rejoicing in regard to himself alone, and not in comparison with the other person. 5 For each one will carry his own load. 7[…] For whatever a person is sowing, this he will also reap”. Our life course depends on the choices we make, and in this case of relationships, it’s up to you whether or not you’d like to be single or not. If you choose to be single and not reach out to others to attempt a relationship, then it’s logical that you would “reap” singleness. But if you really want to be in a relationship, then that is something that will be determined by the effort you make to look for a relationship. You got this!
Hey Jana we can’t be scared of the future?
I’m not a christian anymore, but when i was i believed that there was someone painting out life paths, but WE always had free will and a choice in everything, Your life and Your story is not written yet, you’re on your way to write it.
hi! christian here!! i believe that if you have the desire to be with someone in the future and that is what you want, then that is God-given! a lot of people who are single forever have wanted that and chosen that! don’t be scared/worried about it. His timing is perfect. Jesus loves you so much and will never disappoint you if you trust Him ☺️
Girl I had the same fear for a LONG time and I was worried I’d be destined to loneliness for the rest of my life.sometimes I still do. Some people are built different and can function without a partner and they often find that singleness brings them closer to God and makes them feel more fulfilled. But for many such as myself that makes me feel hopeless and lonely. I also think that God designed us for community and also know what is best for each person and how he designed them. If being single makes you feel lonely or discouraged Then that isn’t what God wants for you either. I agree with the comments that you should talk to God and tell him your fears and discomfort. Also ask yourself how would it make you feel to be single for the rest of life? God wants you to acknowledge your feelings he gave them to you for a reason to indicate the different areas in your life that need healing and peace. God is a God of peace.
This comment makes me anxious kind of
But thank you for your answer :)
God’s plans are bigger than we expect them to be.
It’s just waiting patiently
And never losing hope
Thank you :)
No. God is something incomprehensible to human mind. God doesn't lead your every action as a human being, God just strives for balance. All the controlling is done by religion and religion is made by humans with wish to control. Main reason why I'm an agnostic.The church could say anything they want that counts and then say it was ordered by God. I say bullshit. Just to be clear, this is solely my opinion and i respect your choice to be religious. I by no means wish to forcefully change your view on this matter. I'm just offering you a different view on it.
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WARNING THIS IS A +18 POST I'm 24 years old and I never had a girlfriend, and in the past I felt bad about it but now i'm glad that I didn't had sex yet. I feel like I won't find a girl who is virgin too at this point, maybe it's because this is what people around me say, but even if I don't I have to work on accepting that people can change and the past doesn't matter. I wasn't a christian when i was in highschool so the reason that I didnt had sex was because I was shy and I didnt had confidence. Now because of ocd alot of times i feel mentally tired, i barelly can care for myself and those times i question how could i care for my girlfriend,I would feel alot of shame that I cant be a man for her, so maybe its good that im still single. My view about wainting until marriage changed however i still struggle sometimes with questions, I don't have close christian friends, people I go out with arent believers and it doesnt seem like not waiting until marriage had a bad effect on them. I dont believe that theres a thing that you cant connect with someone sexually,cause they always say what if you cant connect with them and you find it after marriage, I dont believe in that,I think you can work on it with anyone,however there are alot of stories of christian couples who cant connect sexually and they get divorced... so sometimes this question bugs me. Another reason is,I feel like planning your wedding and the whole party its just too much for me now, I dont say I wont have it, its just im 24 now and i feel like im too young for that,I feel weird about it, maybe when I will be 28 it will feel okay, but then if I get a gf, waiting for 3-4 years would be really hard.As I know myself I wont be able to tolerate the sexual tension more than a year, so I struggle with these things, you might say im childish, I accept that, maybe in time these will change. So if you are still here thank you, I made it really long cause I think its still important for you to know these details cause now i talk about what triggered me today. I watched a podcast about sex and how to prepare yourself for it(cause I dont like that people say as a single christian you should stay away/run away from that topic) and at one point they talked about "debuking the myths of sex" and the first one was that if you will wait until marriage, you will have a good sex life and good marriage. And i was like but thats the point, but dont misunderstand me, im not viewing this like there will be no struggles and growing is not needed, yes offcourse but stay with me cause then they said "sex at the first time should be akward(im okay with this,but then...) it should make you feel shame and discusted/discomfort, and this triggered me. I know for girls its usually painful but I heard alot of people said first time was really good, even christians on the internet who says they waited for it says it was really good. But I find the other group too who says its much harder, its akward and im like then whats the point of the honeymoon? I dont day honeymoon should be perfect but somewhat good,no? If its just a struggle that kind off takes away the beauty. You still have to find what is best for both of you but if you feel shame,discust,and akward thats a bad experience. And what should make your relationship stronger, it actually gives you more problems.When I was watching this, I got hit by those feelings cause in the past I felt shame and discust when i thought about sex and i didnt liked that cause sex is holy and its a good thing,but you say after wating so much,fighting with lust and sexual tension, finally waiting until marriage I will feel shame and discust about having sex? What if then it will be hard to do it again and it damages the marriage? Alot of these christians who make these videos had sexual life in the past so they wont feel shame and discust but we who are still virgins dont know anything about it and this is why sometimes i question is it worth to wait until marriage...
I posted a comment on a video on tiktok and got super super attacked by it and it’s making me feel like I deserve to go to hell because I typed it wrong. The context of the video is that basically this girl is saying she’s never met a genuinely non judgmental Christian and I said:”Every single time I mention not waiting for marriage with my boyfriend I’m suddenly scolded and shoved with all the benefits of waiting down my throat. It honestly drives me further away from Christ” and people were reading it my boyfriend was the one shoving the benefits down my throat when that isn’t the case at all. My boyfriend does not claim to be a Christian. He is discovering his beliefs as am I as a semi-Christian still figuring things out for myself. I meant this comment as other Christian’s scolding me for not knowing if I want to wait and it driving me further from Christ. But one of the comments said this: “these are non negotiables if you’re a follower of Christ. He’s standing firm in his convictions, if you’re unequally yoked in faith the relationship will not work. You know his convictions, you know his Faith, yet you’re pushing him into temptation and sin that’s clearly defined in scripture. That’s being disrespectful to him and his faith. If you’re not on the same page on such a crucial thing, it’s okay to not be with him.” And a couple more comment such as this. This was SUPER triggering for me. I eventually commented back saying that wasn’t how I meant the comment and should’ve worded it better, but now I feel like I have to be miserable with Christ and follow everything they said and break up with my boyfriend because this person said I’m like horrible for shoving it down his throat when that isn’t the case. What if I’m a horrible person and deserve eternal damnation and just don’t know it. What if I’m secretly like a demonic creature that is ruining everyone’s lives and just don’t know it? I’m so scared for my future and that everyone hates me now
I have been constantly ruminating about if God wants me to be with my boyfriend. I am so hyper fixated on Gods will for my life that I often overthink every move. I have constant “what if” thoughts or “if God wanted him in your life you wouldn’t be having these thoughts”. I can’t differentiate Gods voice with my thoughts. What if this is God speaking? I also keep seeing TikToks that say if God wanted this person in your life they wouldn’t do blah blah blah. I am just not sure what to think anymore. I want to be with my boyfriend and he wants to be with me. However, as of lately we have been having some issues because we show our love differently. Then I see these TikToks saying that the right person will love you the way you need to be loved naturally, nothing will ever need to be forced, rhat I’m forcing a rib into the wrong man, etc. and then I’m like is this God talking through these videos saying I shouldn’t be with my boyfriend? I am not sure what to think. I just feel like my mind is in a constant spiral and I get so confused.
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