Is this ocd?

There's someone that likes me and I like them too. I have such strong feelings for them that it literally brings me anxiety which I can kind of compare to the anxiety I get from ocd. It's so intense. The problem is that I always feel like I'll betray them. I always fear that I'm going to start having feelings for another person. Today someone that I used to like texted me and I smiled at his text and I feel like I did something wrong. I have fears and doubts that my crush would get tired of me if we get into a relationship, but as I said I also fear that I will betray him.

Redyroo

Date posted: 3y

Do you know yourself to be someone who betrays others?

Kiran.09

Date posted: 3y

I mostly get betrayed by people. Most of my friendships end because they do something terrible to me. But the thing is it's been stressing me before and then when that guy texted me it wasn't funny but I still laughed. And I might've been happy he texted me but Idk.

Redyroo

Date posted: 3y

@not_me It’s okay to have mixed feelings, as you are not in a relationship at the moment, you are free to explore and do as you want (this is subjective, every woman does this differently). If it has only been others that has betrayed you and you havw remained loyal, which part of you believes you would be the betrayer if there is solid proof you are loyal?

Kiran.09

Date posted: 3y

@Redyroo Yk how some people thrive on academic validation? I think I have that problem with male validation. But at the same time, ever since I knew for sure I have feelings for him and he also has feelings for me I started getting scared like why did I look at a person? Does it mean anything? Or did I feel differently when I spoke to this guy? And not just with one but more. I keep overthinking it.

Kiran.09

Date posted: 3y

@not_me But ik for a fact that he's the one I want. If anyone else tells me they like me I will 100% push them away. He makes me feel different. I love talking to him. I love how he overthinks stuff. I love how he told my friend he would never get tired of me. I love his sense of humor. I love his smile. That's what ik for sure.

Redyroo

Date posted: 3y

Well first of all, to help you with this, I believe most, if not all women, especially if young, deal with that male validation problem, it’s completely normal especially being a woman in these times, it’s so difficult not to be!! So relax, i’m glad you are aware of this aspect of yourself, it took me a while to actually recognise it in myself. After recognizing then comes trying to spot all the ways you do it then accepting the part of yourself that needs it. It’s the part of yourself that needs it from yourself but instead you seek it externally because you haven’t yet come to terms with how to give it to yourself. It takes time. It isn’t as simple as “love yourself”

Kiran.09

Date posted: 3y

But is it normal tho? Like I see on tv shows that the woman would be married or in a relationship and still feel happy when a guy provides her attention. Like apart from me having that problem, did I actually betray him when I smiled at the text? Now I feel like maybe I smiled again in that conversation I'm not sure

Redyroo

Date posted: 3y

Yes it’s normal because it’s so prevalent among young women in society due to the fact that we need their attention to feel wanted and loved. It’s a direct result of not giving it to ourselves in the first place, once we give it to ourselves we no longer desire male attention or at least, it isn’t a strong desire, it’s more neutral.

Redyroo

Date posted: 3y

a smile is a smile, it could be friendly, not romantic at all

user36373738

Date posted: 25w

Has anyone felt

I’m really anxious because I know my ocd is really bad right now so I shouldn’t try to figure it out cause my thinking is a mess but I’ve been having feelings of like I’m not sure if I love him anymore or worrying that I haven’t felt a lot like numb (a lot because ocd has been getting worse and worse) and thinking of like how I’ve been focusing on the negatives and only been looking at him through that lens and analyzing and also feeling like I don’t want this anymore. Basically just like negative thinking in feeling like I’m really scared it’s that it’s I don’t love him cause I don’t want it to be over and the thought of having someone replace him makes me ill. But like it feels like I’m not seeing him how I used to and it makes me upset. Today I was near someone I was like oh this person is cute and then I was thinking that the possibility of meeting someone new sounds exciting and now I’m freaking out because this in combination with feeling like maybe I don’t love him anymore is bad. Also my thoughts keep changing. and like sometimes it feels like I don’t care at all and this has happened but like worst it’s ever been and then other times I’m like I do care I do still feel. I’m just really anxious has anyone else felt this before and it was still ocd? 😭😭

Relationship OCD

Sillygoose27

Date posted: 19w

Intrusive thoughts about others

I am in a relationship but I cannot stop getting thoughts about this new coworker I met, my mind convinces me they are so attractive and so great and I hate it so much. My current relationship has its imperfections (as every one does) but I am so happy with her and have always been so loyal. Would OCD target those imperfections and exploit this situation? Additionally I believe I’m feeling ROCD fears of cheating but I know in every opportunity I’ve talked with other women I am loyal to my partner by bringing her up. Does anyone experience the same thing? Is this really OCD or other subconscious intrusive thinking?

Mk3

Date posted: 15w

ROCD

I adore my partner. There’s this other guy my ocd has been triggered by from the start. He hangs out with my friends, we used to hangout before my partner. I feel like I’m so wrong for still hanging around him in social settings. Its just fun sometimes. I have fleeting feelings and there’s kind of a flirtatious vibe? I’m scared I’ve flirted. I’m scared of the “feelings” I get even though I know feelings can have zero significance when I love my partner so much. I overanalyze everything. The guilt is overwhelming. I want to be with my partner not this other guy. I feel like a terrible partner. I know this could all be OCD why does it feel so hard. I think my brain has so much worked up over this other person no wonder I feel so much guilt. My OCD makes everything into a big deal.

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