Feel rejected and ugly 😞

I just went out with friends, I’m still a bit sad about the breakup of me and my boyfriend 6 months ago (I know long) and I’m really insecure. I went to a club and had a great time but I got sad because all my friends get the attention from boys and nobody comes to me, or they talk about my friends that they’re pretty etc. I’m so sad I want to do something about my appearance but I try so hard already and i don’t get what’s wrong with me I don’t even look that bad and people tell me not to worry. But why doesn’t I get attention from boys? I feel so rejected al the time 😞😞

Username: BeverlyBeverly

Date posted: 2y ago

Um I’m sorry but, if these boys don’t wanna talk to you, I just feel bad for them! Boys are immature and stupid half the time. You’re gonna meet a wonderful man, it could be tomorrow, a week from now, or whenever it happens. Just because you didn’t meet someone yet, doesn’t mean you’re not pretty! I already know you’re beautiful and I don’t even know what you look like!

Username: Kiersin_Kiersin_

Date posted: 2y ago

I think what helps me to feel confident is dressing how I want to or even yk try something that you'll probably never wear or think of trying. I didn't like wigs but once I tried it and had a nice outfit with makeup it just felt amazing and I felt myself. I think the "beauty hurts" is a lie and I got taught that a lot, to change how I thought I actually get some of my clothes from theft stores because they feel great because I don't feel pressured to be perfect. I think self love is important, and it's the first step and people would see and notice. Also what helps a lot is finding that hype song that's all about self love and accepting who u are. I was actually feel insecure today so I wore something I usually wouldn't and it felt great.

Username: Kiersin_Kiersin_

Date posted: 2y ago

Thrift stores*

Username: BeverlyBeverly

Date posted: 2y ago

Exactly! I think that stepping out of your comfort zone is literally amazing. I feel like people have to try to at least step out of their comfort zone to find what they like! Just reading about you trying new things is honestly inspiring.

Username: Kiersin_Kiersin_

Date posted: 2y ago

Yeah, stepping out of your comfort zone or even just being comfortable with whatever you wear is a good way to feel less insecure. Just not caring what anyone thinks and focus on yourself 😊

Username: Kiersin_Kiersin_

Date posted: 2y ago

@Kiersin_ Also just listening to a inspirational podcast or yt video is also a great way to feel positive. Surrounding yourself with positive things

Username: FlyandteachFlyandteach

Date posted: 2y ago

There’s nothing wrong with you if you are being who you want to be and that you feel that you’re being genuine. It’s no good to get attention from being something you don’t want to be or comfortable being. Any guys that don’t see you are missing out.

Username: Anonymously2 Anonymously2

Date posted: 2y ago

Thank you so much everybody😊 it really helps. It’s just, I don’t want an relationship atm but I just want to get over my ex and just want to have a night of fun with a guy, but they just don’t come to me (the guys I find attractive) and they all go to my friends it makes me feel insecure. But I’m going to try the positive vibes and trying something new, maybe that helps. Really appreciate you comments 🙂

Username: puzzled_nut

Date posted: 4y ago

I have obsessions about my appearance that I am ugly. I check my face in the mirror and seek reassurance from others. I am constantly comparing myself to my friends and thinking they’re so beautiful and I am disgusting. It’s so hard to not hate myself when I feel like this :(

"Pure" OCD

Username: garden

Date posted: 4y ago

(Not OCD) - All of the guys in my friendship group have gone off to another group of girls. These other girls are prettier and more fun and I’m honestly very jealous of them! But overall I’m feeling quite defeated and insecure and upset. I feel like we’re just not good enough and we can’t compete. And idk what to do anymore. These are meant to be the best years of my life yet I’m having no fun.

Username: Faye June

Date posted: 3y ago

Hey, just looking for some none-OCD advice, as at the moment I don’t really have anyone to talk to. I’m gonna try and keep it short, so I don’t bore you! So, I’m from England, and I’m 16. At 16 in the UK, you go from high school to 6th form, where you spend two years doing something called your ‘A levels’, and then you go to university at 18, like all countries. I’ve been in college for 8 months now, but I’d say 65-70% of my time has been spent online - so I’ve only had a relatively small amount of time to make true friends. I had solid friends throughout high school, and I say I tilt quite a lot towards being an extravert. Ever since coming to 6th form, a lot of the people who I was friends with, went to a different school, and some of the people who were acquaintances I barely see now, because the school is so large. Basically, since coming to college I only have 2 true friends, and one of those has basically separated herself from me (she’s a bit of a bitch, but that’s another story - we’ve basically been best friends since we were 4 but she routinely ditches me) I’ve found that no one ever messages me anymore. I’ve got plans to go to the city with me and 3 other girls next Sunday - but I organised it. They were all excited, but I’ve only been invited out once by one of my other friends. I just feel like no one likes me, and that I’m repulsive to people - I know it’s irrational, but the fear that I’m just unlikeable terrifies me, as I want nothing more than a big group of friends and that’s not what I have at the minute. I’m desperate for someone to be like “hey, Ellie do you wanna come and sit with us”, but they don’t. And I’m usually just sat with one of my close friends, who I love. She’s popular, and people like her more than me but she’s self-admittedly introverted and I’m not. Ugh, this is long now. But does anyone have any advice? I’ve made a lot of acquaintances, but they all have their own friendship groups from high school - but I don’t because a lot of my friends went to a different school. I’m miserable because of this at the moment, and I feel worthless.

Be a part of the largest OCD Community

Share your thoughts so the Community can respond

Feel rejected and ugly 😞

Related posts

Be a part of the largest OCD Community

Be a part of the largest OCD Community