Gaslighting

If it's exactly as you say, sounds like this person has really low empathy, something which is extremely important if you want to work on mental health. Empathy makes you see different perspectives and act appropriately depending on the context of every discussion.Next time they decide to gaslight you, tell them that they should really work on seeing different perspectives because with the level of empathy they currently have, they won't go that far in this line of work. Afterwards, end the discussion and if they insist on talking to you, tell them that's It's your right to end a discussion, that's it's not your problem that they got hurt over advice and that they really should learn how to accept criticism instead of simply giving it.

I'm in a similar situation, not the same because my family member doesn't have a degree in psychology, but she keeps doing the victim and gaslight me and my dad. I get very hangry every time. Than i used to dissociate myself. Now i learned the most important things: We do not have to fear emotions, we simply need to feel them. Don't fight them, nor accepting them as a confirmation of something else. Simply feel them! Triggers are by our side, not against us! A trigger is like a target that shows you where to work to keep grow and healing! So when you find something that triggers you; it is actyally a very positive thing, it's like free erp! So my tip is to not get mad at yourself for being triggered by your parents; but simply acknowledge your emotions and sit with your frustration, your anger etc!

I have had very close to the same exact situation with a loved one who is in the field of mental health, and their actions seem to come from their own insecurity/jealousy, and they use their degree and age etc, an emotional weapon against me. Eventually they cut me off, after I literally did nothing wrong, to prove some sort of point, and even though I love them and miss the person I love, the distance has been an important aspect of my healing journey. And I’m able to start accepting that I will never be able to convince them otherwise about how wrong they are about me. Unless they do the work on themselves, they will always find the problem in me. And I’ve given up and surrendered on trying to explain myself to them because of this acceptance. It’s taken a long while though for me to get to this point, and I still struggle with it when I ruminate on the situation for too long.

Also, in general, I feel that a lot of people who disagree with me now just dump everything I say into the box if “oh it’s just her OCD” and it’s like no! I have OCD but that doesn’t mean i don’t also have my own core values and beliefs outside of it. It’s so frustrating and stressful. It nearly makes me want to bang my head into a wall. We need to work on distancing ourselves from this/accepting they are the way they are, bc trying to convince folks only makes things harder for us. Will our these people come around eventually? Maybe. But we aren’t the ones who can change their stance on us overnight, esp if they themselves are the ones who aren’t working on themselves

ERP has helped me somewhat with not trying to get to bottom of things/solve issues perfectly

I am a therapist and my best friend was a therapist and she used to do the same shit to me all the time. There was never any room for discussion for my opinion. She was always right. Eventually I just cut her out of my life.

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