For anyone struggling right now, I’m here to talk. I’ve been doing significantly better these past couple months and am ready to help others through their recovery process with tips and advice ♥️

I’ve experienced a lot of different themes throughout the years! It started with ROCD & more recently has been harm OCD & suicidal OCD.

Mindfulness & wisdom. I can so easily allow my thoughts to ruin my days, but I choose to be mindful and empathetic towards myself on my bad days. Don’t get me wrong, some days are still really hard but I try to stay true to myself and move on with my day.

Sure!

How are you struggling?

@Anxiousmindsthinkalike I'm having really intrusive thoughts about my relationship from 1 month. I'm in a healthy and loving relationship and my partner is amazing. But I'm fixating on someone else (in my.mind, not acting on it) and it got really bad lately. I'm also asking myself if it's ocd or no I'm trying to do the compulsion of.imagining myself with this person to see if it fits, but this compulsion is making me more anxious cz im doubting if I'd be happier ! Although, i know very bad things about this person, but it's the kind of guys who are flirty and who are studying a major that I love, and when I was younger I used to have crushes on this type of guys and wanting to "fix them and change them". I never could and I always had crushes from 1 side and i had really bad self esteem So i think this explains why i get attracted to this type But yeah. Im thinking things like : what if I'd be happier with him? What if i change him and he becomes amazing bcz of me? What if... what if.. what iff... And these thoughts are 24/7 and are really disturbing me because i love what we had me and my partner to the point that from 2 months I was feeling really in love and connected but idk what happened then..

@Anxiousmind And it disturbs me a lot when the thoughts pop.in while I'm with my partner so its like my mind stops me from enjoying everything and it sucks. Im having anxiety attacks often because of my thoughts and im tired and lost

@Anxiousmind I’m sorry you’re going through this. When I was dealing with ROCD the “what ifs” consumed a lot of my days. The best piece of advice I can give you is maybe you would be happier with someone else, maybe you wouldn’t be. Although this may be triggering, there is no way for you to be 100% certain of these things! Lean into the uncertainty, allow it to make you uncomfortable and then move on.

@Anxiousmindsthinkalike Thank you! And also one thing. I'm catastrophising and afraid to stay like this all my life. When i think like this, any advice?

@Anxiousmind And note that i have a lot of obsessions from when i was little who go from theme to another

@Anxiousmind Practice leaning into uncertainty and enjoying your life even when you feel uncomfortable or uncertain. It is up to you to determine how you will feel moving forward.

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Hi! Unfortunately I’m unfamiliar with tocd. Can you explain it to me? I hope I can help!

@Anxiousmindsthinkalike Transgender ocd basically the fear of being transgender haha

@melissaaa Got it! The way that I would deal with this is by thinking “maybe I am, maybe I am not but it’s not my job to figure it out right now”. The worst thing for you to do is to ignore your triggers. I would actually lean into triggers and over time the anxiety around these triggers should decrease. You got this!

@Anxiousmindsthinkalike Hmm thanks the problem is that my thoughts are very certain it’s always I am… I am… so it’s hard to find uncertainty and sm it’s the disconfort who’s bad if you know what I mean when I’m trigger it’s not really a thought it’s more a feeling a disconfort and ocd the fact that it feels réels even if it’s not. Theses r my bigger issues

I’m sorry you’re struggling. Take a step back and breathe! Tell yourself that even if you feel uncertain and uncomfortable that you’re going to go out with your boyfriend and make the best out of your time spent with him. I’d highly recommend journaling and going for walks- both of these things have helped me significantly.