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Which ocd do you have x
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I’ve experienced a lot of different themes throughout the years! It started with ROCD & more recently has been harm OCD & suicidal OCD.
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Hey! I’m glad you’re doing better. What has helped you the most?
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Mindfulness & wisdom. I can so easily allow my thoughts to ruin my days, but I choose to be mindful and empathetic towards myself on my bad days. Don’t get me wrong, some days are still really hard but I try to stay true to myself and move on with my day.
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following.
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I think i really need support for my ROCD Can we chat ?
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Sure!
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How are you struggling?
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@Anxiousmindsthinkalike I'm having really intrusive thoughts about my relationship from 1 month. I'm in a healthy and loving relationship and my partner is amazing. But I'm fixating on someone else (in my.mind, not acting on it) and it got really bad lately. I'm also asking myself if it's ocd or no I'm trying to do the compulsion of.imagining myself with this person to see if it fits, but this compulsion is making me more anxious cz im doubting if I'd be happier ! Although, i know very bad things about this person, but it's the kind of guys who are flirty and who are studying a major that I love, and when I was younger I used to have crushes on this type of guys and wanting to "fix them and change them". I never could and I always had crushes from 1 side and i had really bad self esteem So i think this explains why i get attracted to this type But yeah. Im thinking things like : what if I'd be happier with him? What if i change him and he becomes amazing bcz of me? What if... what if.. what iff... And these thoughts are 24/7 and are really disturbing me because i love what we had me and my partner to the point that from 2 months I was feeling really in love and connected but idk what happened then..
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@Anxiousmind And it disturbs me a lot when the thoughts pop.in while I'm with my partner so its like my mind stops me from enjoying everything and it sucks. Im having anxiety attacks often because of my thoughts and im tired and lost
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@Anxiousmind I’m sorry you’re going through this. When I was dealing with ROCD the “what ifs” consumed a lot of my days. The best piece of advice I can give you is maybe you would be happier with someone else, maybe you wouldn’t be. Although this may be triggering, there is no way for you to be 100% certain of these things! Lean into the uncertainty, allow it to make you uncomfortable and then move on.
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@Anxiousmindsthinkalike Thank you! And also one thing. I'm catastrophising and afraid to stay like this all my life. When i think like this, any advice?
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@Anxiousmind And note that i have a lot of obsessions from when i was little who go from theme to another
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@Anxiousmind Practice leaning into uncertainty and enjoying your life even when you feel uncomfortable or uncertain. It is up to you to determine how you will feel moving forward.
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Im new here. How can we chat? In the comment section or is there an inbox or something?
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There is no way to chat directly unfortunately
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In this thread ♥️
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I’m struggling a lot with tocd it’s awful idk who I am anymore… the worst are the triggers there’s so many… any advices to not respond to them or to ignore them ?
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Hi! Unfortunately I’m unfamiliar with tocd. Can you explain it to me? I hope I can help!
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@Anxiousmindsthinkalike Transgender ocd basically the fear of being transgender haha
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@melissaaa Got it! The way that I would deal with this is by thinking “maybe I am, maybe I am not but it’s not my job to figure it out right now”. The worst thing for you to do is to ignore your triggers. I would actually lean into triggers and over time the anxiety around these triggers should decrease. You got this!
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@Anxiousmindsthinkalike Hmm thanks the problem is that my thoughts are very certain it’s always I am… I am… so it’s hard to find uncertainty and sm it’s the disconfort who’s bad if you know what I mean when I’m trigger it’s not really a thought it’s more a feeling a disconfort and ocd the fact that it feels réels even if it’s not. Theses r my bigger issues
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Hey, I’m struggling a lot with ROCD and HOCD. My OCD has changed themes a lot since I was about 18, but has been present for as long as I can remember. It really feels like I’ll never be happy in a relationship and never be able to feel present in my life in general. It gets worse whenever I’m slightly out of my comfort zone which makes my life so restricting. I’m just so sad it’s impacting my relationship with my lovely boyfriend. I try so hard to enjoy our time together, how do you practice mindfulness? Any advice? Thank you and I’m glad you’re doing so much better x
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I’m sorry you’re struggling. Take a step back and breathe! Tell yourself that even if you feel uncertain and uncomfortable that you’re going to go out with your boyfriend and make the best out of your time spent with him. I’d highly recommend journaling and going for walks- both of these things have helped me significantly.
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I wanted to share with you guys some of the things that have helped me in the past few weeks! If you’re open to it, maybe try a few and see how you feel! First I would really recommend leaning on God. If you’re not a believer you may be skeptical but if you’ve never tried to read the Bible, prayer or even just talking with God, I would recommend so much! My relationship with God has gotten so much better through this terrible illness and in turn I have noticed a lot of positivity, I feel substantially better since I’ve been trying to bring this to God instead of worry about it myself. If you can give your worries to God and learn to have faith that he is with you, loves and forgives you. You have a great step towards recovery and even just a more positive life. Next, try going outside! I know it sounds kinda dumb but I mean it! Some of my best days started with just going outside, reading a book and or listening to music. I went out and tanned, ate some fruit with some lemonade and read “Girl Wash Your Face” it was a great book! I would spend HOURS and it helped me so much! Take a walk, hike, etc.! This leads into the next thing…READING! I recently bought the new book “don’t believe everything you think” and the workbook and it is amazing! This also applies to reading your Bible and other books, specially ones targeting self help and things like that! Another thing is fitness! Try out the gym, I know there is days that you just can’t bring yourself to get up but in those days, make yourself go to the gym! Even if you just go walk on the treadmill or bike! Anything is better than nothing! Keep yourself active, I promise it will make you feel better! Find a good podcast! I have been listening to (The OCD Stories on Spotify), sometimes I’ve even listened while I was going to sleep and let it play through the night! Go on YouTube and follow Chrissie Hodges, NOCD and look for other people who help! Go on instagram and follow Chrissie Hodges, NOCD, iocdf, sincerelyocd, recoverocd, letstalk.ocd, my lovely ocd and there are so many more! Find good music! Again I’m going to bring up worship music some of my favs being ( I Thank God, Move of God, Hard fought Hallelujah, The Truth, Made for more, Thy Will, and there is so many more!) if you would like I can share my playlist! But overall music is so helpful and if you are not a believer or want something different I would recommend songs by Katy Perry, Lady Gaga, Kesha, Rihanna, Demi Lovato, Kelly Clarkson, even Billy Joel, Queen, Beck, and things of that nature that are gonna get you PUMPED UP! Lastly, hang out with PEOPLE! Don’t let OCD rule your life, put your ocd in a box best you can and go live your life! Get lunch with a friend, join a bible study, go get a massage, even just meet up with a friend and talk in a parking lot while shoving your face with fast food! You NEED interaction as much as you don’t want to! I know some of these are hard, some is triggering or you’re nervous that you’re gonna spiral, but step out of your comfort zone! That’s the way to get better! Do things that make you feel uncomfortable, the things that are unknown, the things you used to do before this! You can still live and love your life you don’t have to keep just “surviving”! And this isn’t a fix all, trust me I still have my days where I’m like nope I’m staying in bed and crying, but you need to push yourself! No one is coming to hold your hand and walk you out of this, you have to want to help yourself too! And you can do that! I know it’s scary and uncomfortable but you got this! We’re gonna kick some OCD butt! I hope you find this helpful and I wish you the most luck! Comment if you have questions and whatnot! 🫶
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Let’s talk, if you have an answer/need advice/ want to vent, go ahead, I’ll answer. Remember, we are never the thoughts that play in our heads no matter how real or scary they feel ❤️
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Good morning to my fellow community members ☕️ I hope everyone reading this is having an enjoyable summer to the best of their abilities 🌞 After responding to a post of mine from three years ago that someone just commented on; I wanted to take the time to put myself out there and share a brief update on where I’m at in both my recovery and remission status. Overall, I’m in a night and day different place with my OCD from three years ago and I’m thankful, grateful and blessed for that 🙏 Many factors have come into play in order for me to be where I’m at today and able to write this very post 💯 However, I have been met with trials and tribulations along the way and it’s been a very challenging process, but I’ve done my best along the way to take each year on with both stride and grace ☮️ And so, I wanted to speak on as of very recently; not going over my entire journey over the past few years. Hence, the title of this post being “Harm OCD Spike” and it’s exactly that. For me, it’s minimal, but it might be major for someone else who is experiencing Harm OCD and so I wanted to share it with you all and let everyone know that no matter where we’re at in our OCD journeys; unfortunately, it’s never going to be 100% perfect because as we all know; nothing in life is ever 100% perfect and that’s just the reality and that’s entirely okay ✅ It’s a tough pill to swallow in general, but especially for someone like me who has been challenged by the subtype of Perfectionism since my teenage years as well. And so, yes; as of late I have noticed a very-slight increase of random Harm OCD thoughts. Very similar and very comparable to others from throughout my past dealing with Harm OCD. That said, I’m aware of them; I don’t at all like the fact that they’ve sporadically presented themselves, but I’m not at all going to beat myself up about them the way I once did and let’s use “Three years ago” for example (referencing the intro to this post) and that in it and of itself is a win 💪 I’ve acknowledged these few random thoughts that have presented themselves based upon now known triggers. And as we all know; anyone, anything, anytime and at any place can trigger us and that also entirely okay because OCD is not specific when it comes to subtypes nor triggers 📢 No one nor anything is off limits when it comes to OCD and as unfortunate as that may be; it’s the factual reality that we all have to acknowledge, accept and embrace 📶 And again, entirely okay 👍 In conclusion, regardless of your random harm thought, the anxiety that comes to follow, the rumination after that, the want to perform compulsions; whether they’re mental and/or physical that we all experience and/or the assurance seeking that we all feel that we both want and need both in that moment and sometimes even after the fact; the fact of the matter is that no matter where we’re at in our journeys, this is ultimately what happens when having to live with this mental disorder/illness and that’s also entirely okay 🫶 I wish, hope and pray each and every single day since formally being diagnosed years ago that one day a 100% cure will be either discovered or made for us, but until if/when that day comes and God willing it does; we all have each other and our entire community with resources like the life changing/saving NOCD, etc. And THAT’S, what needs to be highlighted and focused in on 💛 Not the overall amount of time that OCD either attempts and/or does steal from us 💔 Why? Because we’re stronger than that! We deserve better than that! And we will continue to fight ourselves and our lives because we all owe it to, ourselves 💗 Sending love, compassion and support to all those suffering from the monster and battling the beast that is OCD 💌
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