I have pure ocd and My son is 5 and has autism. He's having a hard time at school. He will yell, make noises, just about everyday does not want to participate in anything and has a hard time just listening period. Does anyone know of ABA therapy will help he will probably start by end of summer or does this sound like he needs to go to a special needs school rather than regular school, or can this be outgrown? Any advice please...
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Thank you for your response. You must be a very strong person for you to had to act normal and yet not receive the extra services you needed. I dont think my son could do that. His teacher knows my son has autism and we asked her to send home everyday a daily report with how he did for that day. Everyday she will circle the either happy face or sad face with a comment next to it as to why he received that face. Typically his happy faces are during recess lunch and pack up backpack time before dismal time. His sad faces are during reading time, science time computer time math time and that's when the teacher will say he excessively made noises or tapped his pencil or refused to sit with the kids at the rug. Do you think I should talk to the teacher to cut him some slack and understand where he is coming from or is she right?
@Jesus I trust in you I think your kid, you, and the teacher would benefit from viewing it not as a behavioral issue but simply a response to his environment. We don't have the answers because we don't know your kid like he knows himself but know that him stimming (tapping pen, yelling and making noises, etc) may be self regulation and self regulation (stimming) cannot be compared to incompetence or an unwillingness to listen. As an autistic person myself in a public highschool, making noises is one of my stims. I also jump and move around. I don't do it during class because people view it as disruptive and there is no space or time frame for me in class to stim freely. When I am able to stim I am calmer. I know that during lunch I have the space and time to move around and make noises.
@Jesus I trust in you I appreciate that you chose to reach out here. Masking is basically a suppression of our autisticness, and that is what ABA forces on kids. I spend a lot of time masking and personally it is disappointing and fails me because I haven't experienced what it's like to talk to people and experience things the way I *naturally* do - and that is what would benefit me the most, to navigate my surroundings in a way that comes most naturally to me. Knowing that masking places the burden on the autistic person to dilute themselves for other people's comfort, and that ABA forces autistic kids to mask, ABA will not ensure growth for your kid.
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Hi thank you for your response and for allowing me to ask you questions. Today my son went to the dentist and it's not his first time at the dentist he usually cries loudly and kicks and feels high anxiety and becomes aggressive. Any tips on how yo handle this please?
so. oh lord. half my ocd symptoms could be autism. (not that im looking for a triple diagnosis including adhd, its just interesting to explore) this little ol rabbit hole started with my friend, who happens to be autistic and passionate about how their own condition works, when they started slowly easing the convo into an autism screening and by the time i realized what he was doing it was “oh my god ur kinda right i might be wrong for denying all this time that i could have autism” always thought my experience with texture/sensory as a toddler (and now) was ocd, because thats mainly what made adults call me ocd, more blatant ocd signs aside (such as touching things “just right”, ordering items etc) wondered why i was like that when theres not even a *direct* link between ocd and sensory issues (not the same as somatic ocd) thought i just happen to be an extremely sensitive person since i was born, now realizing that couldve been a sign of autism, along side many more “quirks” ive always had anyone with autism and ocd that can tell me what their experience is like? what about when u were children? especially if u snuck under the radar until u were older, my parents have said only a few times in the moment that i remind them of an autistic kid but dont think i have it
My son has Pure O religious/scrupulosity with GAD and Bipolar. My son was diagnosed with Pure O religious OCD two years ago. He has to complete a task so that God doesn’t send him to hell if he doesn’t do it. These tasks are dangerous like doing multiple back flips on concrete, or jumping off balconies three times, doing MMA slams on his back three times. The thoughts are telling him if he doesn’t do this he will go to hell. Or he is so worried about blaspheming the holy spirt and loose his salvation. He knows this is his OCD. He knows the scripture and that God is one of peace and love. Been there and done that on quoting scripture and reminding him he is saved. I can see the torture he is going through and it is painful to watch. He also needs to be stuck next to me at all times cuz it makes him feel safe. This is impeding on my life as I feel I have a toddler again, he is 24 and a former 4 star football player. He wants this to stop, he is in therapy and working on it. He was free from these thoughts from November 2023 till April 2025. He is dealing with narcissistic trauma with his father and this triggers the OCD. My question is what can I do to support and help him through these episodes and not agitate him and to help him heal?
My husband and I have 3 kids.. ages 13, 7 & 1. Our 13 year old has always been somewhat “different”, even as a toddler. He was very quiet and socially awkward. Not much has changed in that department. He isn’t into sports and has a very hard time finding anything at all that interests him. He doesn’t have many friends as he is still awkward and has a hard time fitting in. He has OCD. Specifically moral OCD. He feels like he has to confess everything to me that he feels isn’t appropriate. Curse words he hears on tv, something off-color that he or his friends said at school, anything sexual he hears on tv or in a joke. He laughingly tells me but he is reading my face to gauge my reaction on the subject every time. We tell him constantly that he doesn’t have to confess to us but, of course, those who know much about OCD know that this is harder than just simply telling them they don’t have to give into their compulsions. He is very anxious and worries about everything. He also has inattentive ADHD so he’s currently on medicine for that but can’t tell if it’s actually helping anything or not. He’s on anxiety meds too that we are trying to assess. Honestly, we have also wondered if he may be on the spectrum but high-functioning. Not sure. We are very worried about his future. He is not maturing and doesn’t care to learn how to better himself since he’s getting older. Anyway, now that I’ve given a little background, my reason for posting is that I wonder if we have created all of this. First of all.. I am a hovering mom. Im very overprotective and have a hard time letting my kids do much because I’m anxious myself. I grew up with a yelling mom and stepdad. Sadly, I have resorted to this trauma behavior much of my son’s life as well. I try my hardest not to lose my temper and yell but, I am very ashamed to say, that I haven’t been able to do a very good job with that. I have been overly critical also. Learned behavior. I will add that we are also a religious family that goes to church and follows the Bible. My husband was raised differently. His parents are very mild mannered and calm. Very sweet with my husband and his sister growing up and they aren’t “yellers”. They live out in the country and are very lax about many rules when my children go out there. Not that they let them do whatever they want but at the same time… they do seem to have a hard time saying no. My sister in law and her family live across the street from my in laws so they’re all out in the country together living their peaceful, carefree life. 🙄 They seem to think that my husband and I have brought all of this on ourselves with how we have so many rules and boundaries. They’re of the mindset that we should be exposing him to movies with curse words and letting him hear innnapropriate things and curse words more. This is how they parent their 10 year old (who is homeschooled so.. in my opinion they don’t have to worry so much about him repeating the curse words at school. We are at a Christian, private school where I also teach so it’s a bigger deal making sure my kids don’t hear those things and repeat). Anyway.. first and foremost, I’m looking for advice on how to reverse the damage from me losing my temper these last 13 years. I swear I am trying my hardest and strive everyday to be a good mom. I want so badly for them to WANT to keep a close relationship with us when they become adults living on their own. But I am so scared I’m ruining them. Does it seem to be the case? Also, do you think we have caused this OCD? Be honest with everything please. I am constantly very worried we are doing this wrong.
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