I feel like a lot of people that have ocd get caught up oversharing… does anyone have tips or ideas to not overshare? This is my main trigger for my ocd right now so I have GOT TO stop oversharing asap
This is so relatable. I feel like I just started to get better at this. I think you have to pick and choose who you share with. So I have a few people that don’t create anxiety (or as much anxiety) when I share. I started asking more questions during interactions and started focusing more on listening to other people. It’s not easy but you can do it. Takes practice and if you do over share. Keep trying. Easier said than done but I found that there is some muscle memory. Please be gentle with yourself. Being vulnerable is brave
I’m trying really hard to do that. And I’ll be like okay I’m never sharing with this person , keep conversations Super vague and simple then I slip and get to comfortable ! I’ll keep trying. It’s hard to give myself grace
I’m curious bc I like stats and stuff about mental health, do you overshare and don’t care you just know tou overshare or do you overshare and that triggers your ocd?
I feel the same way about wanting to take it back immediately but for the most part being open has only made me closer with people but sometimes my OCD lies to me and makes me feel unlovable or not worthy because of it. It’s a lie
Yes ! I totally get that
I over share! Often it's compulsive, I am ruminating out loud. Or I am seeking reassurance in a more "subtle" way. The more I'm aware of it, the more I can slow down and try to limit it
Ah sorry to hear that! For me Im not oversharing for reassurance. I talk and don’t shut up, then my theme is triggered AFTER
@Justmesadly Ahh yes, I have been there too! I think I just tried to slow down conversationally and not worry about silence.. and just ask myself what I even want to share with this person, like are they a close friend or just an acquaintance
I think it's because of the misconception that if someone don't understand our OCD they can't understand us or know us. Because we link OCD to our sense of identity and if we withdraw the information then we are lying. But while it is important for the people around you to understand that you have OCD, and what OCD is, it isn't mandatory for them to know everything.
Nothing I’m oversharing has anything to do with ocd though
I can relate, as I overshare alot! Why do we tend overshare by the way? It's driving me nuts sometimes when I think back of all I have shared with somebody I'm not sure wanted to hear/ know..
I wish I knew the reason bc I want to stop… but anytime I seek reassurance and apologize they say I didn’t overshare so it’s confusing to me. I think for me it’s that (likely bc of all my mental illnesses) I get way to close with people and call them my friend but then I worry they don’t call me a friend. It’s a hard line to draw for me. If I say okay I’m not gonna talk anymore then I end up sad or end up talking! I don’t know what the secret to stopping is!
Do you overshare and you don’t care it’s just that you’re oversharing or im do you overshare and that leads to you being triggered ? I’m curious… I am very interested in going back to school to be a therapist so I like to know everyone’s experience
Yes!! I find I tell everyone about my OCD. Geez. At the time I feel I'm being vulnerable. After, I wish I could take it back. I'm going to try to keep my sharing to family and my husband (when absolutely required since I have ROCD). We'll see how that works 🙏
I think telling people you have ocd isn’t bad nor is it oversharing
@Justmesadly True, but I go into what kind I have and all the nitty gritty.
@Maeday Well then make your goal to stop at ocd and no details maybe
My biggest is ruminating, i talk and talk and over share with myself and others Like what are some exposures?
I can’t help but feel so anxious because of guilt. I feel guilty about not sharing everything about my OCD to my partner, but because I understand that confession itself is a compulsion and would not help anyone. I feel so anxious too that if all my fears come true and she finds out, then it would be so devastating for everyone especially her. Does anyone feel the same thing? How could I change my perspective on this?
It use to be so much worse but I notice I over share so bad, some examples are like whenever I’m in the store and I buy some random things and I’m checking out I always try to sneak in a reason for the stuff I’m buying so the cashier doesn’t think I’m weird even tho it’s probably regular stuff. Or if I think I said something wrong to someone I try to find a way to add in something to say to ensure they heard me correct. Most times this has worked other times it’s just me overthinking it. It’s so silly but annoying sometimes. I always over share things in case someone thinks I’m weird or something. Sometimes I even do it on here, if I think my post is confusing or someone could take it out of context, I’ll say something in the comments in case someone thinks I’m strange. It’s hard to kinda just let people think whatever, but my ocd seems to obsess a lot over what others are thinking. It sucks. I always have to know what they’re thinking and if I can’t I’ll try to get them to not think that way but I can’t help what anyone’s thinking about me.
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