I feel like a lot of people that have ocd get caught up oversharing… does anyone have tips or ideas to not overshare? This is my main trigger for my ocd right now so I have GOT TO stop oversharing asap
This is so relatable. I feel like I just started to get better at this. I think you have to pick and choose who you share with. So I have a few people that don’t create anxiety (or as much anxiety) when I share. I started asking more questions during interactions and started focusing more on listening to other people. It’s not easy but you can do it. Takes practice and if you do over share. Keep trying. Easier said than done but I found that there is some muscle memory. Please be gentle with yourself. Being vulnerable is brave
I’m trying really hard to do that. And I’ll be like okay I’m never sharing with this person , keep conversations Super vague and simple then I slip and get to comfortable ! I’ll keep trying. It’s hard to give myself grace
I’m curious bc I like stats and stuff about mental health, do you overshare and don’t care you just know tou overshare or do you overshare and that triggers your ocd?
I feel the same way about wanting to take it back immediately but for the most part being open has only made me closer with people but sometimes my OCD lies to me and makes me feel unlovable or not worthy because of it. It’s a lie
Yes ! I totally get that
I over share! Often it's compulsive, I am ruminating out loud. Or I am seeking reassurance in a more "subtle" way. The more I'm aware of it, the more I can slow down and try to limit it
Ah sorry to hear that! For me Im not oversharing for reassurance. I talk and don’t shut up, then my theme is triggered AFTER
@Justmesadly Ahh yes, I have been there too! I think I just tried to slow down conversationally and not worry about silence.. and just ask myself what I even want to share with this person, like are they a close friend or just an acquaintance
I think it's because of the misconception that if someone don't understand our OCD they can't understand us or know us. Because we link OCD to our sense of identity and if we withdraw the information then we are lying. But while it is important for the people around you to understand that you have OCD, and what OCD is, it isn't mandatory for them to know everything.
Nothing I’m oversharing has anything to do with ocd though
I can relate, as I overshare alot! Why do we tend overshare by the way? It's driving me nuts sometimes when I think back of all I have shared with somebody I'm not sure wanted to hear/ know..
I wish I knew the reason bc I want to stop… but anytime I seek reassurance and apologize they say I didn’t overshare so it’s confusing to me. I think for me it’s that (likely bc of all my mental illnesses) I get way to close with people and call them my friend but then I worry they don’t call me a friend. It’s a hard line to draw for me. If I say okay I’m not gonna talk anymore then I end up sad or end up talking! I don’t know what the secret to stopping is!
Do you overshare and you don’t care it’s just that you’re oversharing or im do you overshare and that leads to you being triggered ? I’m curious… I am very interested in going back to school to be a therapist so I like to know everyone’s experience
Yes!! I find I tell everyone about my OCD. Geez. At the time I feel I'm being vulnerable. After, I wish I could take it back. I'm going to try to keep my sharing to family and my husband (when absolutely required since I have ROCD). We'll see how that works 🙏
I think telling people you have ocd isn’t bad nor is it oversharing
@Justmesadly True, but I go into what kind I have and all the nitty gritty.
@Maeday Well then make your goal to stop at ocd and no details maybe
I posted the other day about my subtype of staring ocd but I’m supposed to start a new job next week. I work in wellness/beauty and will be seeing people half naked. It doesn’t trigger me as I’m treating clients but only when I’m not supposed to be looking (like normal interactions). It happens when people wear very revealing clothes or are super curvy and my eye goes to that area. It also happens when people are adjusting themselves and my eye goes to their hands. It’s very embarrassing and I quit my last job because of this and I don’t want to make more people feel uncomfortable. It left me very depressed and hopeless. It’s such a frustrating type of ocd to deal with because it impacts me financially and socially. I just want to feel okay. Anyways, I’m writing this because I’m wondering if I should share with my new employer about this issue so I don’t weird anyone out or keep it to myself? I’m not sure what to do. I need money as I have a mortgage and two kids and would like to help my husband. I’m currently on Zoloft 50mg, have done therapy but this is such a hard type to treat as it’s not the cleaning type. I know I’m not supposed to ask for advice about what to do but I need to know so I can make a decision and not get cold feet.
Why why WHY do I feel the need to constantly overshare?! It’s making me feel guilty af! If my boyfriend tells me something in confidence but my ocd twists what’s said into some crazy big problem I feel the need to run to my mom for reassurance, it’s getting to the point where he doesn’t trust me not to talk about stuff and I don’t want him to feel like that obviously!! But it’s like I can’t stop! Does anyone else have that? How do you stop it?
My biggest is ruminating, i talk and talk and over share with myself and others Like what are some exposures?
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