i’ve given up with ocd, it’s so so exhausting everyday, and it’s even harder that i’m struggling by myself bc there’s no way i’d tell anyone. i just need to accept i’ll forever be anxious all the time and i’ll never be happy. live love laugh🫤
I actually think this is a good statement, except the “I’ll never be happy” part. You can be happy... you just need to live parallel to your fears and stop fueling them up through compulsions. Accept what you can’t control.
I feel exactly the same... Well, my family and some friends know, but they either cut me out, as I'm not fun anymore, or they ignore, that I have issues... I feel utterly alone and overwhelmed by daily tasks... I just want OCD to be gone, so I can pick up the pieces of my former life and try to stick them back together...
It's hard but acceptance makes things more bearable and easy to carry. You see OCD is not a thing that one day it's going to disappear. It's there even when we didn't asked for it. But I have come to realize that people with OCD are kind, compassionate and awesome individuals. They have so much to offer. The thing is we get stuck in our heads. So what we need to learn is to get unstuck. Sounds simple, right? But the problem is the more we focus on not thinking or not feeling the more we do it. It's actually counterproductive. So what's the solution then, if there's any? It's loving ourselves in the midst of our struggles. It's learning to be compassionate and understanding with ourselves. You see we are not our thoughts or emotions. We are just the observers. That's it. So let us fire the interpreter that tells us a certain thought means something bad about ourselves and we should be ashamed. No we do not! The fact that we don't even want certain thoughts in our heads it's actually the proof that we don't agree with them and we are most definitely not them. Let us take courage and comfort on knowing this. Today we have the power to choose. Not our thoughts but how much importance we are going to give them. Let's us learn to be compassionate and kind with ourselves. Let us give ourselves the same comfort we give onto others. We too deserve it. Hope this helps. 🫂
@herdel25 It helped me to read this, thank you. ☺️
I feel you. It's hard to tell people specially since there's so much stigma around mental health. But, there's always people who are compassionate and understanding and are willing to listen. From experience I can tell you that there are good days and bad ones. On the good days you need to celebrate and enjoy it. On the bad ones it's about being compassionate and kind with ourselves. You see most people with OCD have a wound cause by a lack of nurture. And that's why we get stuck in our thoughts and anxiety. The problem is not really the anxiety or the thoughts but actually the interpretation we give them. You see we are not our thoughts or emotions. We are not anxiety. We are just the observer of our thoughts and the being experiencing emotions. Every person it's the same. The thing is we hyper focus on things we don't have to. It's not about not being anxious or not having certain thoughts but more about acceptance. And I mean accepting ourselves. We can accept that we are anxious and we can also accept whatever thought pops into our head without aggreing with them. One thing that works for me when I'm spinning in my head it's been sarcastic and saying: "yeah right" or "sure, sure whatever". Something that makes the thought seem unimportant because it actually is. It's not an easy thing but progress it's possible. We just need to be patient and take our time. You don't need to heal everything today because healing is about developing new perceptions and ways of doing things and this requires some trial and error. I can tell you that is great that you are here even if it is just venting. And don't believe the lie that you will be anxious forever. I used to think that way and from experience I can tell you today that is a lie. You are ok. We are ok. We are worthy of Love and we are Loved right where we are and how we are. Our worth it's not based on how you feel or what thoughts are popping uninvited into our head. It's not based on our performance or how perfect we think or feel. Practice being still. Even if you can only do it for 1 min right now. Feel whatever you are feeling without any judgement or criticism. Whatever thought pops let it be there without defining yourself by it. Repeat to yourself: "I'm not my thoughts. I'm not my anxiety. I'm just the observer". It will take time to get more normal and for you to start believing all of this but if you keep practicing it without judgement and without evaluating yourself you will get better. Remember it's about learning to be compassionate to ourselves. Not about fixing ourselves. You will be ok. In fact you are ok. You just need to realize it. Be patient. Hope this helps. Virtual hug 🫂
thank you 🥲,sending a virtual hug back 🫂
WHY is it so bad?? who was gonna tell me 16 was just DREAD, my ocd has flared up worse than ever and i can’t go to therapy weekly anymore. im getting worse and i can’t do it. I just want to give up.
I know everything im dealing with is OCD. I have accepted that, but I just feel down. I don’t want to live the rest of my life like this. I just want to be free from this horrible illness. Any positive stories and recovery journeys will help. What did recovery look like for you? I used to be so happy, I miss it so much. This feels like it’s taken everything from me. How do you just live your life despite how you feel? Any hope will help!
Having ocd is so incredibly exhausting and depressing- my mom and dad argued with me for over an hour talking about how im a pain to be around, go in too many loops, and ruin everything and everyones mood… this conversation started with me saying im stressed out because of school and that i dont want to go because im exhausted- and idk if this is like ocd directly but it takes me like 2 hours to get ready in the morning because i need to look PERFECT and the same everyday literally 😭 and that process feels so exhausting every morning at 6am but i will NOT go to school without going through with it- i will literally be crying and shaking and wanting to go home the minute i get to school if even a single strand of my hair is not perfectly straightened or any blemishes or flaws are showing- and i cant even walk to school or anything bc im scared the humidity will mess with my hair and everything- and it just really affects my life? And yeah its freaking exhausting. And i have two more years of highschool and I dont know if im going to make it 😭i get super stressed over grades too because i need them to be extraordinary otherwise its a fail. Nothing below 95%. And thats also tiring! 😁 and my mom told me today “medication IS NOTTTT AND OPTION!!!” Like oh okay so im just cooked 😭 and therapy isnt really helping me at all- i feel like what im being told is so basic and generic and it doesn’t help me when im in a huge ocd episode- which is often… and what i hate most is like my mom says “don’t come to me with your problems after 6pm…” im sorry i cant schedule my feelings 😭 im so tired
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