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ROCD
Most of my thoughts during the day are about rocd. But if I spent 5 minutes without thinking of them or thinking of my girlfriend my mind tells me that I’m falling out of love. What do I do?
Most of my thoughts during the day are about rocd. But if I spent 5 minutes without thinking of them or thinking of my girlfriend my mind tells me that I’m falling out of love. What do I do?
You are definitely not alone! ROCD can be a common OCD. theme. Remember that OCD often latches on to the things we care about and value most. Sit in the discomfort as hard as it is. Will you ever be able to give OCD a 100% certainty? Nope, so I say, stop even trying.
If it makes u feel any better you are not alone
Sweet Jesus... I feel your pain. I do the same damn thing! If im not thinking about my wife 24/7, it may as well be the end of the world.
Yes!!! It feels like I’m always analyzing my thoughts
I know that it’s not realistic, it’s just rocd is a SOB
Sometimes when it comes to OCD and these thoughts you need to risk it. Maybe you are falling out of love maybe you’re not, you don’t know, now you’re doing other things and isn’t your job to figure it out but to focus on your values and what is in front of you. Responding differently to those thoughts and feelings can be a start. If you’re not familiar how you can start doing that there is content out there in NOCD YouTube and other channels (from licensed clinicians/ therapists specialists in OCD rather coaches). I find Nathan Peterson really helpful for instance.
Hi! Those thoughts are going to continue to be there but if you practice ERP, even if the thoughts do arise, you'll be able to respond to them differently. I was watching a video by Chrissie Hodges recently and she notes that it's impossible for us to fight with our brains. What happens with people who have OCD is that once something is deemed as a threat, your brain will continue to pay attention to it because your brain labelled it a threat. For example, something who has a taboo thought about a kid will begin to notice every single kid they come across now and it'll be exhausting even though all of the kids would have been there anyway. The OCD brain will just make someone notice it all the time. In your case, now that your brain has labelled falling out of love as a threat, you'll notice every moment you don't think about your gf. People without OCD have these thoughts but the brain dismisses them quickly because they don't have OCD telling them it's scary and your brain isn't going to pay attention to a scary thought. ERP helps to retrain our brains so our brains no longer feels these thoughts are a threat. So the best thing to do is to continuously apply ERP. Here is the video link I mentioned: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8rEgmqqN618&t=545s and here is an article about how you can respond to thoughts: https://www.sheppardpratt.org/news-views/story/how-to-respond-to-unwanted-obsessive-thoughts/#:~:text=There%20is%20no%20one%20right,if%20you%20wish%20to%20entertain. you got this :)
your brain isn't going to pay attention to a thought that's NOT scary. Sorry typo.
Sometimes I think I truly think negative thoughts about my bf but I feel it could be because of how obsessive I am over the thought. Does that make any sense ??? Like I genuinely think it often but only because of how obsessed I am over it
I am in love with my girlfriend I know it I feel it and think about it all day but I obsess over the fact I may hurt her or maybe I don’t actually like her and I’m only leading her on because I’m evil but I imagine our house in the future and our kids and it makes me feel so warm and good. But then I imagine me breaking her heart and I feel sick.
[ vent ] At times, I'll be doing fine, and I won't be thinking about anything, and then boom. I have thoughts like, you don't love your partner, you only say I love you to convince yourself you love him, you don't actually like him. It makes me really upset because I genuinely do like my partner, I genuinely do want to be with my partner, I wouldn't do anything to hurt him, and I love him so much. But I always tend to talk to AI, and AI is always telling me my symptoms are just ROCD. And I just want to get rid of it because I didn't have these problems before, and now I do, and I just want them to go away. Yesterday, I was literally crying because of how bad I felt. My partner does me amazing, he treats me amazing, but my thoughts always lead me to wonder, what if this isn't ROCD and I just genuinely don't like my partner? Even though, as much as I want to, what if I don't, but I really do, and I want to be with him, and I do love him. Recently, I've talked to him about these feelings, and he told me that he's felt like this before as well, but the way he comes with it, he doesn't think about it as much. But me, it goes in my head over and over and over and over and over and over, it's like a loop or a cycle that never ends. And I always look up, how can I heal from ROCD, and it just says to settle with the thoughts, don't look for reassurance, and it's hard not to do that because like, what else am I supposed to do? It's hard for me not to do that because it's so heavy, and to me, for my ROCD, it never shows up as what if questions, it always shows up as statements like, you don't, you don't love him, you don't want to be with him, you're only saying that you love him to convince yourself you do, stuff like that. It's hard
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