ROCD

You are definitely not alone! ROCD can be a common OCD. theme. Remember that OCD often latches on to the things we care about and value most. Sit in the discomfort as hard as it is. Will you ever be able to give OCD a 100% certainty? Nope, so I say, stop even trying.

If it makes u feel any better you are not alone

Sweet Jesus... I feel your pain. I do the same damn thing! If im not thinking about my wife 24/7, it may as well be the end of the world.

I know that it’s not realistic, it’s just rocd is a SOB

Sometimes when it comes to OCD and these thoughts you need to risk it. Maybe you are falling out of love maybe you’re not, you don’t know, now you’re doing other things and isn’t your job to figure it out but to focus on your values and what is in front of you. Responding differently to those thoughts and feelings can be a start. If you’re not familiar how you can start doing that there is content out there in NOCD YouTube and other channels (from licensed clinicians/ therapists specialists in OCD rather coaches). I find Nathan Peterson really helpful for instance.

Hi! Those thoughts are going to continue to be there but if you practice ERP, even if the thoughts do arise, you'll be able to respond to them differently. I was watching a video by Chrissie Hodges recently and she notes that it's impossible for us to fight with our brains. What happens with people who have OCD is that once something is deemed as a threat, your brain will continue to pay attention to it because your brain labelled it a threat. For example, something who has a taboo thought about a kid will begin to notice every single kid they come across now and it'll be exhausting even though all of the kids would have been there anyway. The OCD brain will just make someone notice it all the time. In your case, now that your brain has labelled falling out of love as a threat, you'll notice every moment you don't think about your gf. People without OCD have these thoughts but the brain dismisses them quickly because they don't have OCD telling them it's scary and your brain isn't going to pay attention to a scary thought. ERP helps to retrain our brains so our brains no longer feels these thoughts are a threat. So the best thing to do is to continuously apply ERP. Here is the video link I mentioned: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8rEgmqqN618&t=545s and here is an article about how you can respond to thoughts: https://www.sheppardpratt.org/news-views/story/how-to-respond-to-unwanted-obsessive-thoughts/#:~:text=There%20is%20no%20one%20right,if%20you%20wish%20to%20entertain. you got this :)