My husband basically told me that it’s not ok for me to talk about my anxiety or OCD every day.

My bf said the same thing! But it ended up being for the better and I found other outlets like this app and I learned to rely on the ERP that is taught with OCD recovery. It has actually improved my relationship greatly to not talk about my ocd every day with my partner. It wasn’t easy at first but we’re in a much better place. I am personally with myself as well. And we still set aside time to talk about my stuff. It’s just not every day all the time. Your partner can’t support you property if you’re draining his helpful energy by not having fun and enjoyable convos. The ocd will try and get in the way and you should try and understand his side as well. I think it’ll help you both to talk about the ocd less.

If he's saying he's not going to reassure you and feed into your compulsions thats a GOOD thing even if it may feel like rejection. Of course we want to be listened to. Thats normal. But not one single can be your emotional/venting trash can. It's possible your husband is feeling burn out from needing to provide daily support. One person CANNOT fulfill all of your emotional needs as a partner, a friend, a therapist etc. It's not healthy for you or your husband. Without more info, its hard to get a clear picture of your situation. But speaking from experience, as I've started therapy for my OCD, I can see a lot of strain my anxiety driven compulsions placed on my own marriage. For me it manifested as defensiveness, apologizing multiple times a day, asking for reassurance that he loved me/I wasn't a bad person etc. My husband putting limits on those things then and now has only helped me.

I actually had a similar thing with my mom. She’s been my main person I go to, but she told me that she’s tired of having deep conversations every single night. I don’t blame her. I struggle heavily with existential ocd, especially at night. But it sucks bc now I just keep it in and it festers in my brain.

Reframe it as you’re asking your partner for reassurance over and over again and he knows that’s not good for you. And honestly? Yes, cut way back down on seeking reassurance. He’s not only helping himself but in the long run, he’s doing you a big favor. I suggest you seek ERP therapy on this app if it’s available to you.

Did you tell him how you feel about that? Keeping that in will make things a lot worse for both of you