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- 3y
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- 3y
My bf said the same thing! But it ended up being for the better and I found other outlets like this app and I learned to rely on the ERP that is taught with OCD recovery. It has actually improved my relationship greatly to not talk about my ocd every day with my partner. It wasn’t easy at first but we’re in a much better place. I am personally with myself as well. And we still set aside time to talk about my stuff. It’s just not every day all the time. Your partner can’t support you property if you’re draining his helpful energy by not having fun and enjoyable convos. The ocd will try and get in the way and you should try and understand his side as well. I think it’ll help you both to talk about the ocd less.
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 3y
If he's saying he's not going to reassure you and feed into your compulsions thats a GOOD thing even if it may feel like rejection. Of course we want to be listened to. Thats normal. But not one single can be your emotional/venting trash can. It's possible your husband is feeling burn out from needing to provide daily support. One person CANNOT fulfill all of your emotional needs as a partner, a friend, a therapist etc. It's not healthy for you or your husband. Without more info, its hard to get a clear picture of your situation. But speaking from experience, as I've started therapy for my OCD, I can see a lot of strain my anxiety driven compulsions placed on my own marriage. For me it manifested as defensiveness, apologizing multiple times a day, asking for reassurance that he loved me/I wasn't a bad person etc. My husband putting limits on those things then and now has only helped me.
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- 3y
I actually had a similar thing with my mom. She’s been my main person I go to, but she told me that she’s tired of having deep conversations every single night. I don’t blame her. I struggle heavily with existential ocd, especially at night. But it sucks bc now I just keep it in and it festers in my brain.
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- 3y
Reframe it as you’re asking your partner for reassurance over and over again and he knows that’s not good for you. And honestly? Yes, cut way back down on seeking reassurance. He’s not only helping himself but in the long run, he’s doing you a big favor. I suggest you seek ERP therapy on this app if it’s available to you.
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- 3y
Did you tell him how you feel about that? Keeping that in will make things a lot worse for both of you
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- 3y
Yea he said talking about it only gives it more power, but I feel I need to vent about it. And then he said it (the ocd and anxiety) has become my life. And I’m like- yea kind of. My answers just frustrated him more. It sucks bc he used to be my rock through all of this. Now my main support system seems to be gone. 😢
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- 20w
Told my close friend about how I think I have harm ocd and showed a video describing her experience with it so I wouldn’t have to share mine. Told him how when I see the number 22 I get paranoid that I’ll harm someone, and he gave me advice to go to a psychiatrist then left me on read after we were having a conversation prior. I’m so scared to open up to people about it and now I don’t think I will again.
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- 19w
I just got off my session today and after having a confession to my husband last night with a compulsion, he obviously is going to have more questions. My therapist says not to confess because I am growing my OCD . However, this is really OCD and is about something that actually happened. My husband said, that it sounds like I have someone in my life who is justifying withholding information or lying to him. Of course when I have my obsession compulsions, he makes sense. Can somebody help explain this to me? How is my husband not right or is he?
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- 18w
i’ve been dealing with this “thing” since i was 15. (i’m 23 now) if i have a bad memory that i have done when i was really young or just an intrusive thought i feel like i need to tell my mom or boyfriend. it’s been on and off ever since but since January hit it’s been an everyday thing about the littlest things. mostly about my relationship. an example is i was talking to someone random at my job and we were talking about taxes and when im in deep thought or just thinking i do a thing where i bite my lip (not in the sexual way) and i had a thought when it happened “was that sexual?” and i felt like i did something wrong and i went for a while thinking that until i told my boyfriend about it. or like my ex’s face has popped up in my head in the most inappropriate times and i feel the need that i have to tell him. (my ex was not a good person) i feel like im a prisoner in my head everyday, trying to justify thoughts or remind myself that its just a thought. i didnt know that this was or could be a form of ocd. it runs in my family but i’ve just never considered it being this. i always called it anxiety or depression but i always felt like it is more than that.
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