OCD_Lemmonaide
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- 3y
Grief and OCD
Anyone else grieving a lost childhood due to OCD? Also grieving missed opportunities in college.
NicaNica
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- 3y
Sure, for a bit. But if you grieve too long over something that can’t be changed, then the grief can become a victimhood mindset.
StellaaaStellaaa
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- 3y
Big time, but for me it was my 20's. I'm 29 now. I had a very social time as a teenager, but my OCD flared up hard when I was around 17-19 and I couldn't do anything the same way. I feel pretty stunted by this illness. I feel like my living situation is still the exact same as when I was 17 in terms of my mom supporting me, not having a job, not knowing how to do adult things like taxes and whatever, still living at home. I often worry that I missed out on a lot and if I'm too old to do things, but that's a silly way for me to be. It's never too late to give your dreams a shot. Also, a bit silly, but something I hold onto: scientists have been able reverse aging in mice. So any time that was lost to OCD might not be as important if we all end up living longer with science. I may be nearly 30, but that doesn't mean my life is over. That doesn't mean that there aren't fun times to be had. I don't know what the future brings, but there is more out there for us to experience
OCD_LemmonaideOCD_Lemmonaide
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- 3y
This is great. Very encouraging. I am about the same age - turning 29 later this month. I haven’t had the luxury of not having to do adult things since I lost my mom when I was 22. My life was completely wrecked. But I feel like it is slowly being put back together. Thanks for the encouragement. :) it isn’t too late to not pursue your dreams like you said.
StellaaaStellaaa
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- 3y
@Flamewheel I'm sorry to hear that about your mom. I'm glad things are slowly getting better though
GagoGago
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- 3y
Yes, but I grief this recent years of my life, what helps me is this phrase that Thanos said in the movie hahaha "As long as there are those that remember what was, there will always be those, that are unable to accept what can be. They will resist" Let's focus on what we have not in what we lost 💖
OCD_LemmonaideOCD_Lemmonaide
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- 3y
It’s nothing like the grief I felt over losing my mom. But I do think it’s healthy to feel the feelings, then move on.
djeffriesdjeffries
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- 3y
Yes I was diagnosed at 7. I didn’t want to go trick or treating for years since I was scared I would be poisoned.
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- 15w
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- 14w
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- 12w
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