- Username
- FJustRightOCD
- Date posted
- 2y ago
There is a difference between reassurance-seeking and validation/support.
Some people on here seem to be confused by difference between reassurance-seeking (not good for your OCD) and validation/support-seeking (which is GREAT). And when I've tried to nudge at this in response to people's reassurance-seeking posts in the past, including today, I get thrown shade by people who are triggered by this being called out, and I get spoken to as though I'm not supportive of support/validation being shared. 🥺😢 I'm simply sharing science-based, evidence-backed facts that are shared by therapists, advocates, and many who have thrived in their ERP journeys. Here is one example of many articles about how reasurrance-seeking/sharing is not helpful: https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/is-reassurance-seeking-good-or-bad-for-ocd "Reassurance-seeking is an attempt to get rid of the distress by getting rid of the uncertainty that underlies it. *Support-seeking, however, is an attempt to have someone encourage you while you deal with the distress caused by your uncertainty.* It means allowing the uncertainty and distress to exist while also acknowledging that it’s easier to succeed with the support of others." I really don't want to argue or debate the points above. I hate conflict/confrontation, I'm just saying, please educate yourselves on the truth, and don't get mad at me for trying to help.