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you’re so right ! after recovery i’ve dealt with a lot of that, and although it really does feel painful to say no, it’s better than making it worse. my key is this — does it make you or the OCD reassured? i love saying things like “this will pass” “you will be ok”, because it makes you feel better. not your OCD. thank you for this post, truly!

Who’s trying to argue and being mean to you? Either way, that sucks 😞 I get it sometimes but I think people know me enough in here that they won’t argue/try to debate me.

AGREE. They're like "I come here for reassurance that I'm not alone", and it's like no, what ur saying helps u is validation. Reassurance is a different ballgame.

Completely agree! I think the difference between seeking reassurance vs seeking support is very important for people with OCD but unfortunately it can get a little confusing at times to figure out which one it is. I like what Ingrid said - “does it make you or the OCD reassured?”. Im glad this post is here because I think it’s smart to remind people to look at the intentions behind posting something.

I sympathize. I know I pissed off at least one person for calling them out on reassurance seeking (they made like 6 posts in one day all the same thing copy pasted and asked why everyone hated them/no one liked them) and they ended up then making at least one post about me being a bully. 🙄 Being kind is not always being nice. I think you are doing a great job by understanding the difference between feeding reassurance to OCD vs being supportive.

Thank you for sharing this!