- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
You’ll never know but try not to look at it as a disadvantage. Idk your brother but perhaps his internal world isn’t as pristine as it seems. I felt for a very long time that I was the one in my family who didn’t have any mental health concerns. Turns out I was high functioning and uneducated. And a little out of touch with myself to be honest... As the world continues to gain knowledge of the intricacies and nuances of the human mind it’s likely we’ll hit a point when we no longer see “neurodivergent” people as having an illness, but as just having a different mode of brain function that simply needs to be understood, managed, and navigated. A long winded way of saying “idk but it’s ok, there’s nothing ‘wrong’ with you.”
I just feel like if he had a mental health issues he’d be way more understanding instead of making fun of me for things i can’t control
@SarahEliza I feel that. It’s not okay that he pokes fun about it. Maybe he would benefit from watching some of the family support videos out there? In my experience, no one escapes life unscathed by their own mind. It could be that his time to face his demons hasn’t yet come. He is only 18yo after all. I hope he’ll come around to educating himself about the struggles you go through sooner than later. Not having the support we need makes dealing with all of this a lot harder. In the meantime, try to find the goodies in your own bag. 🙂 For example, having to deal with what you do has likely made you a much more empathetic and compassionate person than you may otherwise have been. And the world needs more people who understand and have space for one another. Hey, maybe that’s why the world is experiencing a mental health spike in the first place. Maybe it’s adjusting the way we relate to one another at a fundamental level? There’s always a new way of looking at our situations and extracting the potential from it to make our challenges our strengths. Anyway good luck! You deserve a happy and fulfilled life.
Genetics 🧬
it’s so frustrating because my brother doesn’t have any 😭
@SarahEliza Roll of the dice sometimes.
@SarahEliza Same my brother doesn't have any mental illness and I got hundreds hahaha :(
@SarahEliza Same with my sis
@LydiaK i’m just like how did i get so unlucky lmao… also my brother is like 18 and he tries to give me advice and it pisses me off because he literally has no idea what it’s like. plus he’s younger than me lol
@Gago same it’s so great 🤭
@SarahEliza I get you, it's annoying when people try to "give advice" and tell you to "just do things" as if it's easy when they have no idea what it's really like. Most think we can just turn ocd off or something lol
@LydiaK that’s what my moms like, i’m like bro if it was that easy to just do it i wouldn’t be struggling everyday of my damn life lmao… or like sometimes they’ll be very condescending about it or try to make me feel like a freak and i’m just like i already feel that way
@SarahEliza Something similar happens with me too, they treat me like "Everyone's like that at times" and expect me to act as if I'm alright all the time. They treat the same way my Grandma too, she suffers from generalized anxiety disorder.
so true
it’s great, isn’t it 😀
I had like a really bad argument with my mom basically about her complaining about my “attitude” and “constant arrogance” like okay firstly 😭 yes i do have an attitude and am irritable but im not THAT bad 😭🙏 she was saying that im a “pest” and that “its not enjoyable to live with someone who makes other people miserable” like 😅🧍♀️ oh ☺️ and then i tell her that i know im struggling and that im going to therapy to try to get better and trying to possibly get a diagnosis and she says “your generation just wants something to deal with. You want something to be wrong with you. ‘Trying to get better’ isn’t good enough… would you be able to stand someone like yourself? You’re just choosing this antisocial, narcissistic behaviour and harass everyone… You need to pull yourself together. No matter how much effort we put into you, you will never be happy. You want some medicine? Some diagnosis? Because that will solve everything?” 😭😭😭 and the way she said “some medication”- she sounded so disgusted and appalled and now i feel ashamed… i mean im not officially diagnosed with ocd and it is never my intention to self diagnose- but im sorry its VERY obvious when you have ocd and know of ocd- its so distinct. Everything- the compulsions, reassurance, intrusive thoughts, themes, patterns, perfectionism- but she has me overthinking- what if i dont have ocd 😭 and ive just been lying to myself and everyone maybe its not ocd and im just sick in the head or trying to self sabotage- and especially when my supposed ocd is calm or not as loud i get so anxious “what if i dont have ocd…”
can i get OCD from GAD dad???
I bought some books on OCD because I like education and would like to know a little more behind why I feel or think this way. I opened up to my mom about this and she keeps saying I’m obsessed with having OCD, she doesn’t actually believe I have it, and that I forced myself to have those thoughts. She then told me she’s going to ask her mental health provider (she’s a nurse) if you can give yourself a mental illness because she said there’s no way someone could spiral out of control within a few days the way I did.
Share your thoughts so the Community can respond