Anxiousaddie
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False memory ocd
How to get past a false memory that i thought was real at first? I think I need to confess it to my bf
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AnxiousaddieAnxiousaddie
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But shouldn't he know about it? I feel like I am lying 😓
AnxiousaddieAnxiousaddie
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@redcushion Okay I guess thats good to know that it won't help. I just feel like I'm lying:( I want to be honest with him ya know*
McDuckoMcDucko
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Never confess. All my confessions have ever done is made my symptoms worse because, as others have said, it's a trick compulsion. Neutrally acknowledge whatever is on your mind and tell your OCD voice to "move on". Whatever mistake you've made I'm sure you're not the first nor the last. I promise you it will get better if you are able to acknowlede your thoughts without judgement, but it will take practice.
AnxiousaddieAnxiousaddie
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Oh. But it feels like I'm lying. I just think I shouldn't date him or anyone anymore bc I'm a fraud if I don't say something
McDuckoMcDucko
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@Hopeforthefuture That's the OCD voice in your head. Tricky, isn't it? You will know for sure if your relationship isn't working for you.
AnxiousaddieAnxiousaddie
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@yup_its_ocd Yeah I guess its not him (he's great)i just feel like he needs to know everything about me or I'm lying. My past event was a thought in the past that I was something I'm not. And I remember accepting it (and then now im not sure if that was what really happened). I just feel like such a guilty liar and like I should confess to him to see if he still wants to be with me
AnxiousaddieAnxiousaddie
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@yup_its_ocd Did you reply and delete your comment? Bc its showing 1 comment but there isn't one. Sorry its just making me nervous 😓
McDuckoMcDucko
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@Hopeforthefuture We can't change what has past. Even people without OCD have a hard time remembering things. The point of our lifes as people who suffer from OCD is to simply acknowledge whatever might have happened without any judgement and move on.
McDuckoMcDucko
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@Hopeforthefuture No, I didn't before. Must have been an application glitch.
AnxiousaddieAnxiousaddie
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@yup_its_ocd Oh okay my bad haha. My OCD said you must have replied something crazy and deleted it lol 😆 so should I resist confessing or would it make it better for our relationship to tell him? I mean I definitely know that it isn't something I want now but I still feel like he should know about my past "sins"
McDuckoMcDucko
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@Hopeforthefuture Never confess. Confessing is a compulsion. Avoid compulsions and do something else instead. The longer you sit with your anxiety the more it will lose power. That is where ERP comes into play.
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AnxiousaddieAnxiousaddie
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Thank you! I'll watch A
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