- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
False memory ocd
How to get past a false memory that i thought was real at first? I think I need to confess it to my bf
How to get past a false memory that i thought was real at first? I think I need to confess it to my bf
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But shouldn't he know about it? I feel like I am lying 😓
@redcushion Okay I guess thats good to know that it won't help. I just feel like I'm lying:( I want to be honest with him ya know*
Never confess. All my confessions have ever done is made my symptoms worse because, as others have said, it's a trick compulsion. Neutrally acknowledge whatever is on your mind and tell your OCD voice to "move on". Whatever mistake you've made I'm sure you're not the first nor the last. I promise you it will get better if you are able to acknowlede your thoughts without judgement, but it will take practice.
Oh. But it feels like I'm lying. I just think I shouldn't date him or anyone anymore bc I'm a fraud if I don't say something
@Hopeforthefuture That's the OCD voice in your head. Tricky, isn't it? You will know for sure if your relationship isn't working for you.
@yup_its_ocd Yeah I guess its not him (he's great)i just feel like he needs to know everything about me or I'm lying. My past event was a thought in the past that I was something I'm not. And I remember accepting it (and then now im not sure if that was what really happened). I just feel like such a guilty liar and like I should confess to him to see if he still wants to be with me
@yup_its_ocd Did you reply and delete your comment? Bc its showing 1 comment but there isn't one. Sorry its just making me nervous 😓
@Hopeforthefuture We can't change what has past. Even people without OCD have a hard time remembering things. The point of our lifes as people who suffer from OCD is to simply acknowledge whatever might have happened without any judgement and move on.
@Hopeforthefuture No, I didn't before. Must have been an application glitch.
@yup_its_ocd Oh okay my bad haha. My OCD said you must have replied something crazy and deleted it lol 😆 so should I resist confessing or would it make it better for our relationship to tell him? I mean I definitely know that it isn't something I want now but I still feel like he should know about my past "sins"
@Hopeforthefuture Never confess. Confessing is a compulsion. Avoid compulsions and do something else instead. The longer you sit with your anxiety the more it will lose power. That is where ERP comes into play.
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Thank you! I'll watch A
im going to be vague here, but basically i did something in the past that i regret and it became a huge point of my OCD but i have talked to my therapist and i have mostly moved past it. i watched a video by an OCD youtuber that really put it into perspective. anyway, i have been with minimal worry for a few days, but now im having worries related to i think false memory? basically it’s like “oh but what if i said/ did this and just forgot that means i harmed this person im a bad person”. to me it sounds like textbook OCD but im just wondering if anyone else has experienced false memory / real event at the same time. i have a really horrible memory which is making it even more stressful. any responses are appreciated!
Hi everyone!! This is a new kind of theme I’m dealing with. My brain will come up with false memories of my boyfriend saying awful things about my family or me…deep down I know it’s not real. The more I think about it though, the more real these “memories” feel. How do I deal?
Hey everyone, I’m still struggling a bit with false memory ocd. Mine revolves around my relationship. There are some things I have remembered that occurred early on in the relationship, whether someone texted me on Snapchat or TikTok etc. and it was old friends of mine from a friend group. In the friend group it was me and about couple guys and girls. I remember there being an instance where one of the guys had messaged me on Snapchat after I had posted something about a tv show or I had posted a picture of me and my mom and they reached out to me saying something and I honestly can’t remember at all what they had said to me but I’m pretty sure i remember I responded with “Lol” or “Thank you” , and I think the reason I’m really struggling right now is that I can’t remember hardly anything about the text at all. And of course, my ocd is trying to convince me that it was either a flirty chat, or something else. I also want to mention that I unadded a lot of people off my snap, mostly guys on TikTok etc after dating my boyfriend because I felt like that was respectful. And even after doing that, my OCD was trying to convince me that I un added them because I was hiding something or I was on adding them because I didn’t want my boyfriend to see that they were on my Snapchat, which was not the case at all. I think I’m just really struggling because I think about past events that have happened in my mind is trying to convince me that something else happened, rather than allowing me to remember what actually went on. I just wanted to come on here and ask if anyone else struggles with something like this because it’s been really bothering me the past couple days and I know I would never do anything to hurt my boyfriend because I love him so much it’s just I freak out constantly, and it bothers me a lot.
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