- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
False memory ocd
How to get past a false memory that i thought was real at first? I think I need to confess it to my bf
How to get past a false memory that i thought was real at first? I think I need to confess it to my bf
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But shouldn't he know about it? I feel like I am lying 😓
@redcushion Okay I guess thats good to know that it won't help. I just feel like I'm lying:( I want to be honest with him ya know*
Never confess. All my confessions have ever done is made my symptoms worse because, as others have said, it's a trick compulsion. Neutrally acknowledge whatever is on your mind and tell your OCD voice to "move on". Whatever mistake you've made I'm sure you're not the first nor the last. I promise you it will get better if you are able to acknowlede your thoughts without judgement, but it will take practice.
Oh. But it feels like I'm lying. I just think I shouldn't date him or anyone anymore bc I'm a fraud if I don't say something
@Hopeforthefuture That's the OCD voice in your head. Tricky, isn't it? You will know for sure if your relationship isn't working for you.
@yup_its_ocd Yeah I guess its not him (he's great)i just feel like he needs to know everything about me or I'm lying. My past event was a thought in the past that I was something I'm not. And I remember accepting it (and then now im not sure if that was what really happened). I just feel like such a guilty liar and like I should confess to him to see if he still wants to be with me
@yup_its_ocd Did you reply and delete your comment? Bc its showing 1 comment but there isn't one. Sorry its just making me nervous 😓
@Hopeforthefuture We can't change what has past. Even people without OCD have a hard time remembering things. The point of our lifes as people who suffer from OCD is to simply acknowledge whatever might have happened without any judgement and move on.
@Hopeforthefuture No, I didn't before. Must have been an application glitch.
@yup_its_ocd Oh okay my bad haha. My OCD said you must have replied something crazy and deleted it lol 😆 so should I resist confessing or would it make it better for our relationship to tell him? I mean I definitely know that it isn't something I want now but I still feel like he should know about my past "sins"
@Hopeforthefuture Never confess. Confessing is a compulsion. Avoid compulsions and do something else instead. The longer you sit with your anxiety the more it will lose power. That is where ERP comes into play.
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Thank you! I'll watch A
any advice for when you get false memories that feel really real? especially something that had JUST happened, it’s like ur brain distorts it. i feel like i do something wrong 24/7 then i get over it and ocd latched onto something new
Hello everyone I need some advice. I’ve struggled with what I think and hope is ocd for a long time. It started when I was 14 I had a concussion and my brain convinced myself for 9 months that I had this concussion. Then I had a gf at 15 before we were official I did a terrible thing im regretful of it for sure. I kissed another girl. I told my now ex girlfriend about it and I started to overthink the situation and think maybe I slept with the girl or maybe we did more than kiss. In reality we didn’t. when I turned 16 I started having thoughts of maybe I cheated on her with other girls at our school. It would be false memories of me sleeping or doing things with 4 or 5 other girls. That eventually went away as I would ask reassurance like a crazy person. Then one day what I believe was either Christmas time or new years around that time I had this thought “what if I SA’d my ex little sister?” This thought tormented me for so long I couldn’t believe it. As she was so young it would be impossible for me to do that without someone noticing plus that’s absolutely horrifying and disgusting and I’ve never ever ever ever been alone with her or desired to. Then what I knew would happen came along with me thinking I SA’d my little sister or my baby brother at the time. It was a horrible experience. Then it went to me thinking I was a pedo without the false memories. Then it went to my other siblings thinking I did something to them in their sleep, I did something to the pets, etc. As I got older I realized what ocd was and what I was going through and it eventually all went away. But as time goes on I’m now almost 24 I have spiraled back into thinking I SA my ex little sister. It’s crazy because I’ve never had that desire or anything at all it would absolutely break me if that was true. With something like this saying maybe not maybe it did is crazy because it’s a serious thing. I’m getting therapy on Monday and am just wanting my life back. I just recently got engaged to my beautiful fiancé and I want to be regular again. Anyone have any advice or even have gone through the same scenarios? It’s just so tough.
Hey all, I've been okay for a while, but today I'm having a hard time with my sexually-themed false memory thoughts and the compulsion to try and "figure it out". While I've learned enough over time that "figuring it out" doesn't work, I'm just feeling extra overwhelmed today. Stuff that happened over 7 years ago is really getting to me, I'm in this limbo state just sitting here with it all but... ...anyone have any general tips for false-memory OCD?
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