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Date posted: 3y

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Can Someone Tell Briefly How Real Event ocd is like? I'm confused about this....and not sure if i have it or not...

Real Events OCD

MintyMLP

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 3y

I struggled with this. I wrote this all in second person for some reason but this is what real event OCD feels like for me. Something happens and you put your morals into question. "Did I do the right thing?" "Does this mean I'm a bad person?" "What does this event say about me?" "Did I hurt someone in some way?" You may feel the urge to confess to others, either those involved in the event, your family, people online, etc. You seek reassurance to make sure what you did wasn't wrong. You replay the event over and over in your head and try to figure out your exact intentions and feelings in that moment.

Have Some Ch...

Date posted: 3y

Yea maybe something like that happened yesterday...... And since then it's eating my mind...and i was not sure is it because of real event ocd...... I'm still not sure if I'm even a good person or not

MintyMLP

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 3y

@Have Some Chocolate 🍫 This quote really helped me with real event OCD “Imagine myself driving a car along the highway. Whenever I get one of those guilty thoughts, my car is out of alignment…it’s dragging right. So I pull over and assess the problem. I check to see if I need to make any adjustments. If I stole something, I should give it back. If I wronged someone, I need to make amends. Then I merge back on to the highway." Each time my car wants to rear off the main drive, I should ask myself, Is there something I need to do? If not, I need to get my car back on the road." If you have done something wrong and then (within reason) made amends or apologized and you don't want to do it again, you don't need to ruminate on the problem.

Have Some Ch...

Date posted: 3y

@MintyMLP And Thanks For The Advice.......... If i really have real event ocd i will definitely try that!

MintyMLP

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 3y

That does sound like real event OCD to me. At least some form of an OCD thought pattern. Humans laugh at all kinds of things. Laughing at a silly idea wrapped in tragic news isn't bad. It doesn't mean you don't care. When OCD tries to bring this thought up you could try telling it "What I did is water under the bridge. I can't keep beating myself up for something that happened in the past. Maybe laughing was bad, maybe it wasn't. There's no reason to worry about it now either way." Another important thing my OCD therapist tells me is because OCD has latched onto a certain thought, it means you care a lot about that thought. For example, someone who obsesses about somehow running someone over with a car is very concerned about being a good driver and not harming other people. You might be very concerned with being a caring person or being a good person. Think about what OCD is worried about and turn it into a statement about what you value. You can even thank your OCD "Thanks for reminding me that I really try hard to be a good person" or something like that.

Have Some Ch...

Date posted: 3y

Thanks for taking the time to reply.......Yes I'm doing Better today... And i will keep in mind what you said.....

MintyMLP

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 3y

I hope you're doing better today!

Have Some Ch...

Date posted: 3y

Btw sorry for disturbing you that much...😅 but can you help me with another thing.... That is don't mind but are you a student? Or did you have to deal with ocd during student life.......? Actually I'm asking this cause ocd is Really Impacting studies very badly.... And i don't have idea how to get along well with studies while dealing with ocd... Do you know anything about how to deal with this thing??

MintyMLP

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 3y

@Have Some Chocolate 🍫 Sorry, I didn't see your reply! I am a student and I did have to deal with OCD as a student. I was 19 when I first started to experience OCD. I didn't know what was wrong with me because I had not been diagnosed, so everything was very scary and confusing. I just got diagnosed this year at age 24, and I am 1 year into going back to school. I can offer advice the best I can but I might not be an expert.

Have Some Ch...

Date posted: 3y

@MintyMLP No it's not a problem.... Anyone can be busy......I'm so sorry you had to drop out from school.... You must had very difficult time with this disease then....actually today was just the last day of my School 😅 it hurts actually cause i couldn't do much in my school life..... The 1st years of my school life was just above average........ But then actually it was my fault... I was just irresponsible and careless and just wasted the years.... And then in grade 8 i just had realization that I'm wasting my school life.... I just should stop doing that...... And Be serious.....this was in 2020 and i really wanted to do something.... But guess what Covid just ruined everything.... Then lock down and online classes.... I lost the motivated myself again..... It was just this year We did school in Person.... And it was the last year of school...... And during the Covid Time My mental health just got worse and i got to know that i had ocd...... And there was so much more struggles in the last 2/3 years ever since that Covid came..... So due to it all i just got very disconnected to study..... Tho last year (2021) i had ocd and all of the struggles but i think i was just irresponsible.... I could have done better with studies.... Despite the struggles....but yeah i didn't and my this year's academic was also bad..... Massively bad tbh.... Now i really do have regret cause my school life ended and i couldn't do what i wanted.... Or what i could have done......

Have Some Ch...

Date posted: 3y

@MintyMLP I'm not seeking reassurance but just telling you what happened...... So my mom said to me that one of her friend's Sis died cause of covid At first my mom didn't clearly said to me that it was her friend's Sister Who died....But rather She said the story to me like what they were discussing then..... So the story is my mom and her friends were gossiping so suddenly one of them said to the lady (whose Sis died) that why don't you have another baby..... Your daughter needs a companion...... That lady replied i also had companion...but what's the benefit now? My Companion is gone..... After hearing this from my mom i thought her husband died...... And She meant her husband by companion...... But she actually was referring to her Sister As companion but as my Mom at first didn't tell me clearly Who died..... I was thinking in my mind that her husband died........ But then after a while my mom was saying..... She died being pregnant with a child of 7 months..... I was like what?? Pregnant?? And i laughed cause of my silly guess that i was assuring that the Person was her husband....... Now this caused my mind to think the thought...... Did i just laugh hearing someone's death??? Am i really that bad to have a laugh on somebody's death? Maybe I'm actually a badass that's why i could laugh at somebody's death..... Then this thought kept obsessing in my head and i felt shame and guilt like omg i really could laugh hearing that..... But honestly i didn't laugh at her death or found it amusing.. I laughed at my silly guess... That i was assuring The Person is her husband..... But yeah i kept feeling guilty the whole day and feeling like a badass... Sorry it was too big i wrote too much.... But actually it's eating my head since almost 2 days and got depressed cause of this....... And then i thought could it be cause of my ocd.... Or do i have real event ocd

MintyMLP

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 3y

Do you go to school online or in person? How is your OCD making it hard to be a student?

MintyMLP

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 3y

I forgot to mention that when I was 19 I dropped out of school because of my OCD

Have Some Ch...

Date posted: 3y

Tho my school life ended but still i do have some big tests of school i mean final tests to get promoted to College.....and the way ocd is making it hard to study that is.... I think my mind and thoughts....... Because of the thoughts specially i just can't get myself to be concentrated at studies..... Cause most of the time my mind just keeps spending time on my thoughts..... Or a particular situation or incident.... Whenever something happens and if my mind and thoughts are into it......... That's it.... That's how my whole day is ruined..... And i just cant get myself to study on that day cause my mind keeps dealing with a particular thought.... Or incident...... So thus... Day by day goes and i don't study... And my academics just keeps getting low... In my last Big test.... I literally got an F for the first time in my whole life.... And now there are just 12 days of my final test..... If i can't get a pass on that.... Then i gotta stay in School...in the same grade for another year..... Which i can't let happen but don't know will my ocd and my mind and thoughts will make it happen.... Or just will have some mercy on me lol..... I hate my mind and thoughts so much.......

Have Some Ch...

Date posted: 3y

Btw how is your ocd Right now?? Is it better than before..... It seems like you really had a very bad time with it.... I'm feeling sorry for what you had to get through.... Now what it seems to me that is people can have or did have much more difficult struggle with this disease than i had.... Feeling like i really should be grateful and like stop complaining like why did i have it and how i hate it.... Cause many people like you had it much difficult than me... But you guys got through it bravely!! So i really shouldn't complain about my ocd that much lol.......

MintyMLP

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 3y

Are you on medication or seeing a counselor? If that is available to you, you should really try it because it sounds like OCD is really affecting your daily life. In the beginning OCD was so strong for me that it affected my life a lot. It made it hard to study or hold down a job. Now my work and school life are mostly unaffected but it is really hard to deal with in my free time. I seem to go through a new theme every 6 months. In the beginning it's really bad, then it gets better and better until my brain latches onto a new theme and I'm back at square one. Right now I am seeing a NOCD therapist and doing ERP. It's very hard but I am hoping to break the cycle.

Have Some Ch...

Date posted: 2y

No I'm not currently on medication and not seeing a therapist... And currently that's not available to me... As I'm still in my teenage years with no job of my own lol....

Have Some Ch...

Date posted: 2y

Im sorry that it affected this much in your daily life..... I Hope You Recover Soon! Keep Hope You Will Definitely Overcome this fully one day....... Yeah a new ocd theme is Really bad in the beginning...... Then after a while it's get better or maybe the brain gets used to it lol...... When i first started experience religious ocd it was really very strong and then my ocd wasn't diagnosed so it was very scary..... But now the religious ocd doesn't have much power on me...... Those kind of instrusive religious thoughts still comes but I'm not compulsive to them now.... And i do not get triggered by them..... Maybe cause i have got used to it....... But now my main theme is Pure Ocd mostly..... And it does really affect me very much........

MintyMLP

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 3y

It sounds like your thoughts are ruling your life. I think it would be good to tell your thoughts "I know, but I need to study right now." Or "I hear you OCD but I'm just going to keep doing what i need to do." Sometimes that kind of helps me. Also telling yourself "I can deal with this anxiety" and "I can deal with this uncertainty". It seems like to me the main point of OCD therapy is to realize OCD is just noise and the anxiety feelings are going to be there no matter what. When you have an OCD thought your brain says "AHA! That must be what I am anxious about!! Better get more anxious!". It seems like ERP teaches you how to live with anxiety and then the anxiety lessens.

Have Some Ch...

Date posted: 2y

Thanks for the suggestion...... I can somewhat deal with the intrusive thoughts but i also have some kind of thoughts... Which are not intrusive.... Like they do not come out like nowhere or neither they are scary..... I mean those thoughts generate from some real incidents or a situation...... But i do not agree with them...... But still i do get really confused that whether they were value based thoughts or ocd thoughts...... And i can't figure out that did i think that voluntary or that was an another ocd thing..... Now this kind of thoughts trigger me a lot....cause my mind have a negative feedback and view on everything....... So there are times when i really get confused that did i just think that cause my mindset is just like that...... Or my mind's just playing dirty games..... And then those thoughts just Rules my entire day.......

UnknownPersonel

Date posted: 20w

Maybe i figured it out

I got pure o. I don't think that's really the correct term but you get what i'm talking about. I would say that i have it because my ocd just picks and chooses what subtype it wants to bother with me today. Right now, i'm suffering with real event ocd and, hopefully, false memories. But i think i might have cracked the code on it. So my real events and false memories are pretty much private related, which makes it worse because there's no evidence or proof. There are some memories (real events) i can think about and accept that they happened. I still feel guilt and shame but i have closure from it. And there's the other memories (hopefully false memories) that i look at and just cannot wrap my head around. They feel so real like they actually happened and it gives me so much stress, but i sit there and think and think and think on it to see if it actually happened. Btw, these false memories come from my real events but in different situations and times. Like if it was true, i would accept it. Whether or not it made me feel guilt or shame, i would still accept it happened. This is what i think i figured out. I can look at a memory and know for certain it happened. I don't need evidence or nothing. The false memories make me question myself if it did happen. It's still very vivid and looks so real like a real memory, but i just can't be for certain if i did that. It makes me feel like i'm in denial of my past. Sometimes they both work together. A real event can happen but false memories can use its work to detail out the event, tryna make it much worse than it was. Or you can be thinking of a false memory but real events can try linking with that false memory to making you think you did do that. If this makes any sense or if what i’m saying is correct or i’m just crazy, please tell me. All advice is welcome. Thank you

jc33

Date posted: 14w

real event ocd

just wanted to see if others struggle with real event ocd really kicking their a**. i feel like my mind is a constant battleground of every mistake ive made and they feel so huge and life altering to me that it’s hard to continue going on in their wake. just wondering if anyone else feels this way too.

J-NOCD

Date posted: 11w

Real Events OCD

Hey everyone — I just want to say upfront that as someone who actively deals with real events OCD, most of the posts I share here are going to come straight from my personal experience. Just real & lived reality. Because I know how lonely this type of OCD can feel, and if there’s even one person out there who reads my words and feels less alone — then it’s worth sharing every piece of it. Now… let’s talk about the kind of OCD that doesn’t get enough attention. The kind that doesn’t just whisper scary things — it reminds you of real ones. Real Events OCD. This isn’t about bizarre or outta nowhere intrusive thoughts. This is the kind that takes real things you’ve done — whether it was a genuine mistake, a cringey moment, a bad decision, or even something you already made peace with — and it replays them on a loop like a horror film in your head. It’s the constant questioning: “Am I actually a good person?” “Was that actually wrong and I just didn’t realize it?” “What if I’ve hurt someone and don’t deserve to be okay?” And it’s exhausting. I’ve had moments where I can’t focus, can’t sleep, can’t breathe because my brain pulls up something from years ago and convinces me I’m evil, dangerous, unforgivable. I can be having a good day, laughing with people I love, and boom — my mind hits me with “Remember this? You should feel horrible about it forever.” Even if I’ve apologized. Even if I’ve changed. Even if I’ve done the work. Real Events OCD doesn’t care. It thrives off your guilt. It uses your conscience against you. And when you’re young — still figuring out who you are, still healing — it makes you question whether you even deserve to move forward. That’s what’s so cruel about it. It doesn’t just make you anxious. It makes you feel like you’re a danger to the people you love. That you’re secretly the villain in your own story. But let me tell you something I’ve been learning — slowly, painfully, but honestly.. You are not your past. You are not your worst mistake. And you are not the voice in your head trying to punish you forever. You’re a person with a heart. A person who cares. And that’s exactly why OCD picked this flavor to mess with you. ERP is SOO helping. So is community. But the biggest help? Giving myself permission to stop chasing reassurance and start living again. I do not have to confess, over and over, for the rest of my life. I do not have to torture myself to prove I’m good. I can grow — and growing is enough. So if you’re reading this and you know exactly what I’m talking about… I see you. I am you. Let’s keep showing up. Let’s keep living. Let’s keep healing — even when OCD tells us we don’t deserve to. You do. I do. We all do.

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