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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 2y
Parents with ocd?
Any parents out there where your ocd themes are focused around your children?
Any parents out there where your ocd themes are focused around your children?
Yes, my OCD attacks my daughter 95% of the time. I have POCD and Harm OCD. It was triggered from postpartum, and I feel like it has taken away so much from me.
@jessica1342 I know exactly what you’re going through
@Anonymous What is it like for you? It’s been awful for me
@Anonymous It’s been horrible for me too, some days there good and others their horrible and I want to avoid my daughter at all cost. I feel like my OCD tells me I don’t really love my daughter and I am a bad parent that can’t protect her.
Oh yeah, my ocd focuses in my 2 sons in several subthemes. I see it as a form of r ocd, where ocd attacks what is actually most important to you and what would devastate you if real harm were done, or accidents would take place. For me the most intense were intrusive images of my kids being blooded and dead, with the feeling i did that. I actually developed anxiety to get into a psychosis. Thankfully, thats away now.
O, and images which i labelled incest-ocd for myself.
@MAUNL if you don't mind me asking what are some of the rocd thoughts does your brain throw at you?
(What if) you are not there for them enough They are better of without you. If you could leave you would do so You do not love them enough
Thank you Mau Nl. My mind does the same. My mind just throws so much doubt and negative thoughts. My kids and my wife has been a dream and priority of mine since I was a kid and as they say ocd attacks what you love the most. I can't stand the games your mind plays with you and the doubt it continues to make you feel about everything.
Ugh thank u for sharing! I’m a new mom and had a beautiful pregnancy and a happy healthy boy. 3 months postpartum I developed what I now know is severe postpartum OCD, and for me, it’s been mental torture, and so sad at a joyous time in my life. I was “fine” before the three months and question “what changed?”. I was misdiagnosed quite a few times before finally joining a support group through PSI and learning there was a name for it; OCD. I’m now in erp through NOCD and thankful to not feel alone and be getting help.
Please read this. I’ve had ocd pretty much a lot of my life but never knew what it was until my senior year of highschool. I’m 21 with 2 kids and i believe i’ve had pocd a little bit before my daughter was born (which was 8 months ago). It made me start looking at all kids differently and i hate it. But it really started triggering me about 3 months ago. I’ve been thinking if i’d intentionally touched or harmed my kids the wrong way, or any kids for that matter. This started giving me false memories (or at least hope they are). I’ve been having panic attacks, yelling at myself, punching walls, praying, and even thoughts of ending my own life. I grew up in a severe toxic household throughout my childhood and teenage life. I’ve never wished that on my kids since i became a dad. I wanna give them the life i never got. I look back my photos of my children and i feel like i’m a complete fraud of a dad. I cannot look at my kids or be around them a lot of times. I can’t hold my daughter right. I can’t change their diaper when they need it. Even my son came and was hugging on me the other night while i was watching tv and i acted like a stranger to him. I can very little do this stuff sometimes because it’s either i get relief or i push my thoughts as far back as i can. I get scared if i did something to not just my kids, but any other kids in the past. I have such a a great life and such a beautiful family. It was hard and stressful at first being young with a family but i couldn’t be more thankful at all for them. I’m just so lost and stressed right now that i just don’t know what to do anymore
Hi everyone, I’m Cayla. I’m a mom that’s lived with OCD since childhood, but my breaking point came more recently after having my son. I was consumed by terrifying thoughts—What if I hurt him? What if I did something awful without realizing it? I was so afraid of my own mind that I couldn’t be alone with him. The shame and exhaustion were unbearable, and I convinced myself I was broken. In 2024, I finally sought help. ERP therapy at NOCD was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but it saved my life. Even now, I have tough days, but I know I don’t have to be ruled by OCD. When my 12 year old daughter began showing signs of OCD, I felt overwhelmed with guilt. I never wanted her to go through what I had, but I knew what to do. I told her that I have OCD too and made sure she knew it wasn’t her fault—and that she wasn’t alone. One of the hardest parts of this journey was trusting someone else with my daughter’s OCD. I knew how vulnerable it feels to share intrusive thoughts, and I wanted her to feel safe. Her NOCD therapist was able to establish trust and genuine empathy from the start, and that relationship gave her the confidence to face ERP head-on. Seeing her build that trust made me certain she was in the right hands. ERP has helped both of us reclaim our lives, and it is beautiful to see my daughter managing her condition and making visible progress. Parenting with OCD while raising a child with OCD isn’t talked about enough, but I know so many parents are struggling with these same challenges. If you have questions about managing OCD while parenting, helping your child through ERP, or breaking cycles of guilt, drop them below—I’d love to share what I’ve learned. I’ll be answering all of the questions I receive in real-time today 4-5pm ET.
Hey all, This is so strange to share this, and I have been judged by others and misdiagnosed many times. About a year ago I worked with an OCD therapist and it was really triggering. For me my thoughts are mainly about suicidal ocd and harm ocd centered around my children of all things. Fear that I could or would want to hurt them, then feeling so horrible that I believe I’m suicidal then I go back and forth on that. After reading a few of your posts, it makes me truly have a bit of hope that I can overcome this.
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