I think my OCD theme would be easier to handle if it were just thoughts or images. But when you deal with urges, arousal nonconcordance, groinals and false attraction or “wanting” feelings I just can’t handle it. How do you even help stop arousal non concordance? I just can’t deal with this being in my life forever.
It's sad knowing you have to live with thoughts and feelings you don't want, or desire, but I think what important to remember is that you aren't your OCD. Those feelings of false attraction can Mae you feel like what your thinking and feel mean that you want it, but OCD does this to bully and torture you into being anxious about these thoughts and feelings. What I find helpful is watching some amazing people on YouTube and seeing how they deal with this specific theme you all are dealing with. Another thing that I find that keeps me going is that the thoughts you have will go away with treatment and commitment. This stage is hard to reach because OCD sufferers fall into the "Backdoor spike". This is when you realize that you are being more productive and that your treatment is helping your function better throughout your daily life. And while your getting better, the backdoor spike comes in and says: "Wait, I'm not getting anxious or feeling urges, THIS MUST MEAN THAT IT WAS TRUE ALL ALONG" "What if I never had OCD and all this time I was in denial". That's usually how it goes down when people start getting better. So to come to a conclusion, I beilive that you can get through whatever thoughts your having, and it's important to know this: if you feel like your losing your sanity over you intrusive thoughts, feelings, and urges, Just know that you haven't lost yourself. You are still a sane, loving, and caring person you used to be before OCD took over. Just remember to keep doing that things that you value and things you Actually want to do. Look within and congratulate yourself for still being able to get up in the morning and deal with the anxiety this debilitating disorder causes. Remember that those things your thinking and feeling that don't correspond to your ture slef, your values, and that don't correspond to your ture identity, is a symptom of the monster in your head: OCD. 💫✨️💙Hope this helps anyone who sees it and be strong💙✨️💫
@Acekid128 what a wonderful message! you’re completely right. we all have the ability to move on from this. also, can you recommend some of those amazing people on youtube?
@Acekid128 Thank you for this. I struggle a lot with feeling like a good person or someone deserving of good things because of my theme. This has completely changed my life and I feel like I’m grieving the person I used to be. I just hope I can get to a place eventually where I don’t feel that way anymore
Sure! Here are a few that helped me alot. OCD and anxiety: https://youtube.com/c/ocdandanxiety Chrissie Hodges: https://youtube.com/c/ChrissieHodgesPureOCDAdvocate And OCD recovery: https://youtube.com/c/OCDRecoveryI've only have these three since I was mostly reading about it to help me understand my OCD better. But when I see real people on YouTube, it makes me feel less alone. I hope it makes you all feel that same too❤️💙❤️💙✨️💫
I understand how you feel! Mine used to be just thoughts but the sexual part can make it all confused and twisted around because they're also tied with those positive feelings. I try to imagine someone I know I'm attracted to and ride those types of feelings on from there
I feel you. This is where I'm at. Are you in therapy?
@GhettoFunk Yes, and my therapist is great and has sent me helpful articles and podcasts and videos about this but every time it happens it just completely leaves me in fear
Can anyone relate to having HOCD thlughts (or any form of sexual orientation OCD) and getting aroused by them? I don't mean a groinal response (tingles, twinges, etc.) or arousal-non concordance (when you're groing get's aroused but your mind doesn't), or confusing stress with arousal... I literally mean getting aroused (both mentally and physiologically) by unwanted thoughts in repeated occasions (frequently) when you test yourself? Basically like if it was a sexual fantasy, with the exception that it's a torture that you have found through compulsions. I never wanted to think any of this and I still hate and wouldn't do any of the content of my thoughts. But this happens to me and makes me feel SOOOOO in denial and anxious even though I've never had sex, interest, attraction or desires for a man (or a transexual, which is my other HOCD topic).
How have you guys dealt with your stickiest / most long lasting theme? For me this is HOCD; I had other themes popping up in the last few months but I was able to get past them quite quickly with acceptance and a sort of shrugging manner, like ‘the probability of this happening isn’t enough for me to waste my time obsessing over’. However HOCD has always been different, it was what started my ocd and what I obsessed over for a year before discovering I had this disorder, and it often feels like when I decide not to obsess over it, I’m just sweeping the issue under the rug and not thinking about it. I’m better with a lot of the triggers but the big ones, like ‘comphet’ and my relationship nerves, are so hard to ignore. A part of me is always saying ‘you’re just ignoring this, you shouldn’t be!’. This is always been the theme where I find it so hard to distance myself from the content and look at it from an ocd perspective because when something relates to your identity say, I find it harder to ignore than obsessions about health or existentialism for example.
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