I really feel like depression is a mindset and what you tell yourself & your surroundings. Stay positive and be in prayer and you can get through anything. Stay strong everyone! Praying for a sound mind and a full heart for the Lord ❤️
I feel like this is invalidating. Like it’s giving me “be positive and you won’t be depressed”. Depression is hard. It takes work and effort to get out of. Yes, CBT therapy for depression is about fixing negative thought patterns but you can’t “be positive” your way out of depression.
@stop. Sorry you feel that way! You can either be positive or negative. I’ll remain positive no matter what.
@stop. That’s not what I’m saying at all. Your saying depression is a choice as simple as choosing to be positive when that is not how that works. Also negative emotions are normal. What you are spouting is toxic positivity. Depression is normal negative emotions you can will your way out of. It’s excessive. It is work. Depression is complicated. In some cases it is a chemical imbalance. In others it isn’t. But no one chooses depression.
@stop. Depression is a mental illness period. It’s not a mindset.
@stop. I think the choice of language, the self talk, the way you respond to certain situations… has everything to do with how we feel ultimately. I try my best to not use the word “can’t”. Cause that’s literally telling yourself that it’s not possible and you’re just setting yourself up for more struggle. If I believe I can recover through being more positive and being more mindful.. then I will. Dr. Caroline Leaf is amazing at explaining this. She believes in the power of words and how it can heal our brains. We gotta believe
@IamBlessed Positive thinking from CBT has benefits for depression but will not cure it on its own. The idea is that it is invalidating to tell people with depression to “just be positive”. It’s literally on almost every list of things not to say to people with depression.
@stop. Yeah same applies for people with anxiety and you’re told “just relax” lol it’s so simple yet so key… sometimes we forget to breathe. Sometimes we forget to slow down and really just observe our surroundings. Find things to be joyful about. I just started a book called The Magic by Rhonda Byrne, it’s about practicing gratitude. Can’t go wrong with practicing some gratitude that helps rewire some thinking patterns. Other than that, just like any other illness in our bodies.. eating right and exercise helps
@stop. I feel like I may of been misunderstood. By no means do I think depression is a choice or some simple thing you can snap out of. But I’ve been deeply depressed whenever I was diagnosed with OCD..it stinks. Wouldn’t wish it on anyone but it is your CHOICE on how to react and what to do with it. I feel like people have to feel their emotions and not run from them it drags it out and makes it worse. Hope all is well man/woman didn’t mean to get ya worked up. Positive thinking and how you react to stuff does matter im spitten proof of it
I agree with you.. and that it’s okay to have “negative” emotions we need to let our body feel. But society is so quick to medicate you so that you suppress certain feelings. It makes things worse sometimes
@IamBlessed Therapy In A Nutshell on YouTube is amazing. Changed my life tbh
@Matthew007 YESSSSSS I was about to mention her! I was like thank you. Not everything is a “chemical imbalance”.
@IamBlessed Depression isn’t a chemical balance! She talks about it.
@Matthew007 Yeah that’s what I meant to say. lol I’ve done so much research, like whatever symptoms pop up in my body I’m like… bleh it’s just my nervous system out of wack.
@IamBlessed Lol sorry I was agreeing with you. It sounded like I wasn’t. But she also talks about catastrophizing and that can lead to depression. Basically thinking worse case scenario, you just have to retrain your brain. Takes time you can do it
I got the book because of this girl who struggled with anxiety and depression for 5 years and the book literally got her out of the funk. Sometimes we just need a little self love.. you should give it a try!
I hope everyone is doing well today, and for those of you who are struggling my thoughts and prayers are with you. Just know your moment of peace is coming soon. I think it’s important that we post / come on here every now and again even when we are not in a moment of pure panic and fear. Remember that we are not our thoughts as hard as it is to understand. Remember that OCD makes it feel “real” and that OCD will always make us think the most inappropriate things and the most inappropriate times. Remember that all humans, have thoughts that come and go and as hard as it can be to understand you are not alone in your thoughts that feel so unique. For me I get a lot of anxiety from thoughts I used to have , which of course makes them return in full throttle. The more I push them away the more they come back. And those thought makes new connections to those things in my life I value. OCD is a pain but it’s important that as much as you hate it you learn to be compassionate and understanding that it’s there to “help” you no matter how bad it does it job sometimes. Stay strong everyone
Trigger Warning: Suicide I’m 21(Female) just for reference Anyone else struggling with OCD so much to where you feel so isolated, confused, burnout, suffering & in astonishing emotional pain & agony. I promise yall aren’t alone in the feelings. I promise you there is someone going through similar, obviously our lives aren’t identical, but our struggles can be very similar. It’s even harder dealing with trauma, split parents, abusive parent(s), a sick parent at the same time as all of this. It feels like God or the universe just WANTS you to struggle. Like it’s punishment for something you did as a kid or teenager. I’m dealing with all this exactly. Sometimes I just want support. So I hope this message can be support for someone struggling too & hope it helps them be able to breathe a little easier & gives them strength to go on another day. I just would like to mention if you have access to therapy take advantage of it. The therapists are not there to judge you but I promise it’s a them issue & you’re not a horrible person. When I used to think of suicide often I started to think less “doomsdayish” & realized that I wont know how my life will turn out if I just give up. If you give up you won’t ever know. Whether your situation will improve, & all the fear in your heart just gone. You could miss out on that freedom and happiness you’ve been waiting for in this current life we are living. One last thing I want to point out that I’ve thought about is that we don’t know how many more people are out there struggling with this. I think they’re maybe afraid of judgement. Basically what I’m implying is I feel like there are so many others out there who don’t want to speak up & are struggling with this. Everything on their conscious being afraid to even write it down. I just feel in my heart that there are others who keep these issues to themselves. I think I feel it in my heart because that was me once. Feeling like my story was different, afraid at thought of even telling a stranger(therapist) who could judge me. I did not want to be perceived badly. I’m 21 years old & wish I had the courage to speak up sooner I feel like I could’ve started seeing the light at the end of the tunnel sooner but that’s okay. Speak up for you, you do not have to wake up in fear everyday or contemplate suicide everyday. Even if it feels like you’re your only cheerleader. Sending a virtual hug to all because I know what it’s like to just want to be held & told that everything is going to work out. you never know what others are going through, be the person who isn’t afraid to extend your heart to others, try & breathe a little more, take care of yourselves, remember you aren’t alone no matter your situation, stay strong To the suicidal person reading this, you’re resilient & strong. Sending a virtual hug❤️.
I wanted to share with you guys some of the things that have helped me in the past few weeks! If you’re open to it, maybe try a few and see how you feel! First I would really recommend leaning on God. If you’re not a believer you may be skeptical but if you’ve never tried to read the Bible, prayer or even just talking with God, I would recommend so much! My relationship with God has gotten so much better through this terrible illness and in turn I have noticed a lot of positivity, I feel substantially better since I’ve been trying to bring this to God instead of worry about it myself. If you can give your worries to God and learn to have faith that he is with you, loves and forgives you. You have a great step towards recovery and even just a more positive life. Next, try going outside! I know it sounds kinda dumb but I mean it! Some of my best days started with just going outside, reading a book and or listening to music. I went out and tanned, ate some fruit with some lemonade and read “Girl Wash Your Face” it was a great book! I would spend HOURS and it helped me so much! Take a walk, hike, etc.! This leads into the next thing…READING! I recently bought the new book “don’t believe everything you think” and the workbook and it is amazing! This also applies to reading your Bible and other books, specially ones targeting self help and things like that! Another thing is fitness! Try out the gym, I know there is days that you just can’t bring yourself to get up but in those days, make yourself go to the gym! Even if you just go walk on the treadmill or bike! Anything is better than nothing! Keep yourself active, I promise it will make you feel better! Find a good podcast! I have been listening to (The OCD Stories on Spotify), sometimes I’ve even listened while I was going to sleep and let it play through the night! Go on YouTube and follow Chrissie Hodges, NOCD and look for other people who help! Go on instagram and follow Chrissie Hodges, NOCD, iocdf, sincerelyocd, recoverocd, letstalk.ocd, my lovely ocd and there are so many more! Find good music! Again I’m going to bring up worship music some of my favs being ( I Thank God, Move of God, Hard fought Hallelujah, The Truth, Made for more, Thy Will, and there is so many more!) if you would like I can share my playlist! But overall music is so helpful and if you are not a believer or want something different I would recommend songs by Katy Perry, Lady Gaga, Kesha, Rihanna, Demi Lovato, Kelly Clarkson, even Billy Joel, Queen, Beck, and things of that nature that are gonna get you PUMPED UP! Lastly, hang out with PEOPLE! Don’t let OCD rule your life, put your ocd in a box best you can and go live your life! Get lunch with a friend, join a bible study, go get a massage, even just meet up with a friend and talk in a parking lot while shoving your face with fast food! You NEED interaction as much as you don’t want to! I know some of these are hard, some is triggering or you’re nervous that you’re gonna spiral, but step out of your comfort zone! That’s the way to get better! Do things that make you feel uncomfortable, the things that are unknown, the things you used to do before this! You can still live and love your life you don’t have to keep just “surviving”! And this isn’t a fix all, trust me I still have my days where I’m like nope I’m staying in bed and crying, but you need to push yourself! No one is coming to hold your hand and walk you out of this, you have to want to help yourself too! And you can do that! I know it’s scary and uncomfortable but you got this! We’re gonna kick some OCD butt! I hope you find this helpful and I wish you the most luck! Comment if you have questions and whatnot! 🫶
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