I am so scared that my best friend is getting tired of me. I don’t want to be angry at her for no reason, I am not sure if there even is a reason or I am over analyzing everything. I am so scared that we are drifting apart.
Why do you feel like your best friend is getting tired of you? Is there a reason or are you just obsessing about it?
@Drew777 Idk, she had gotten a lot of new friends. Which I think is great! It just had been me and her so it is taking some getting used to. Anyway I keep comparing how she acts with them vs how she acts with me. I am not really a texter. But she texts them often. Which is probably my fault. It is more healthier that we are talking to other people or getting new friends! But it just makes me so insecure that I obsess over it. Like when we are alone together I feel such pressure to be entertaining that I just can’t say anything at all. And I over analyze how she acts with me. If she is not happy then I think she is having a horrible time. I am just scared that I am sabotaging our friendship by thinking this way ya know? Sorry I ranted lol but thoes are my thoughts.
@Anonymous I understand how you feel. It can be tough when you're good friends with someone but then suddenly a bunch of new people enter the situation who you don't really know and you feel overwhelmed and anxious to compete with them. It can be difficult to go from being a group of two friends to suddenly being a big group of multiple friends. Are you friends with her new friends too? I do think you're being too hard on yourself though. I don't think she is having a horrible time with you at all, I just think you're obsessing about it. Don't push yourself to feel like you have to do anything differently than what you would normally do. Just be yourself with your friend. How long have you two been friends? I don't think she'll stop being your friend out of nowhere for no reason, people don't typically just get bored of other people. I'll be in prayer for you friend! God bless! :)
@Drew777 Omg that is 100% how I feel. Yeah it’s just a whole new situation and I am just feeling self conscious and stressed about it. I am friendly towards her friends, I am trying to also come out of my shell a little and talk to some people in and outside that group. It’s a bit nerve racking but I am liking some of the new people. Yeah we have been friends for so long. She is like a sister to me. I don’t think so either she is not the type of person to just drop someone. I did just text her about everything that I was feeling and she was really understanding about it. She said that we should hangout more. And that she cares about me a lot and is not getting board of me which is good lol. Thanks so much for the help. I literally feel so heard and understood. I am just gonna keep being myself and she what happens. Thank you so much! Take care of yourself!
OCD can make you feel hyper-sensitive to anything you perceive as negative, so anything that you may take as criticism (even if it is not meant to be) OCD can latch onto and run wild with. The key is to allow the thoughts and feelings to be there. Maybe she is getting sick of you, maybe she isn't- OCD wants certainty- I worry that you sending the text is reassurance seeking, which is a compulsion, and though it may feel good at the moment if she gives you a "good" response- the anxiety will only decrease temporarily, until the next time OCD latches ahold. Have you done any ERP? There is nothing wrong with addressing the relationship and working through things that are bothering one another- but try and ask yourself is this me or the OCD doing the talking? Best wishes your way. Also, remember even if the worst-case scenario for you is true- you can get through it. You are likely a whole lot stronger than you think.
@NOCD Therapist - Stacy Q. Thank you so much! This comment really helped me. And yes you are correct it may have been a compulsion but honestly I am not sure. It got me and my friend talking which is good. But yes I am doing ERP and I am going to start doing practices that involves these types of thoughts because I do also think my ocd is making me paranoid. Thank you so much for the kind words
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@lonerjayv3 I wrote her a long text detailing how I am feeling lol. I am going to wait till she is not busy to send it. I am really scared. But I think that it is probably best to get it off my chest. I have been holding this in for a while
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