Mother and OCD

I have OCD and a while back I sent my mother an article explaining what OCD was like for people with OCD and she still doesn’t get it. Every time I have an off day she says I’m letting my OCD win or she will say that I should schedule my worrying for later. Sometimes she will even say that I like having OCD because I like feeling like a victim. I have told her time and time again that OCD doesn’t work like that but she keeps trying to relate it back to her as in she tries to say that she was anxious once too but then she just decided not to be anxious anymore and she got better. She is also the reason why my OCD got so bad before I decided to get help since she told me just to not be anxious anymore. It’s really hard because whenever I have off days she seems to make them worse.

Username: NicaNica

Date posted: 2y ago

If she doesn’t want to understand, then don’t talk about your OCD with her.

Username: Kejonida Kejonida

Date posted: 2y ago

@Nica The problem is is that she sees it sometimes so I can’t always stop her from seeing it

Username: NicaNica

Date posted: 2y ago

@Kejonida No, but you can tell her when she says something that if she doesn’t want to understand, then you won’t be sharing what’s going on.

Username: ivrecivrec

Date posted: 2y ago

I think most people have no idea what OCD is like. I still get people who “have” OCD in their mind because they like thing’s organized. The intensity of OCD is hard to explain. I told my husband when an intrusive thought gives you the same hart pounding feeling like after you just avoided a car accident, that is close to how OCD can feel. Now repeat that if the thought comes back again and again. If you have an off day, I find just looking to see if I’m tired, stressed, not feeling well etc and try to correct that if I can. OCD seems to take advantage of those days. Mom may be trying to help and has no idea how.

Username: Jj8dominate Jj8dominate

Date posted: 2y ago

I hate when people do that. I just want to grab their frontal lobe and say take this shit. They have no fucking idea!

Username: Stacy QuickStacy Quick

User type: Therapist

Date posted: 2y ago

I am so sorry to hear this. This can be so hard. I hope you have other people in your life who can support you in this. It is such a tough disorder. Please know that there is hope and help. Would she do a family education session through NOCD? We do offer these.

Username: Jaishree Jaishree

Date posted: 2y ago

Hi, Stacy quick Can you please give me more info about the family education session. My daughter has ocd, she's seeing a nocd therapist. I try my best to help and support her. Ocd is such a horrible disorder, seeing my daughter go thru it, is so hard. To the poster, Im sorry your going through this and not having the support of your mum Try telling her to Google about the disorder, when she learns what it's about and how it affects you, she will definitely want to help you All the best

Username: Natalie🤍Natalie🤍

Date posted: 2y ago

I feel for you because my mother is exactly this way. She’s no longer in my life but back then when I would try to explain what was happening she accused me of just being normally anxious and dismissed everything else.. it’s very tough because parents are supposed to be that support system for you and when you don’t have that you can feel pretty alone and lost but I want you to know that you have this whole community who really validates what you’re going through and we are going through the similar battles.💕Only you know what you’re going through and are feeling it so don’t worry about what your mother or anyone else has to say !

Username: Mai

Date posted: 6y ago

I told my close friends about my OCD a few months ago and they were really supportive at first however there is this one girl who is really horrible about it. She tells me regularly that I should ‘just stop’ and that if she had OCD, she would just find a way to turn it off which makes it seem as though I am making my problems up! As well as this, she will often laugh at me for doing my compulsions even though I have explained to her on numerous occasions what they are and why I need to do them. Does anyone have any ideas about how to explain to her why I am like this? I feel like I have tried everything! Any advice would be greatly appreciated ☺️

Username: Magzzz

Date posted: 3y ago

For the longest time I let go of my past mistakes and it didn’t bother me for a while and then all of a sudden it’s like my mind won’t shut up about it and I feel an intense amount of guilt again . Talked to my mom about it a long time ago and also my first therapist (haven’t talked to my current one about it yet) and I asked my mom today if anything that I brought up about my past that I should worry about and she pretty much gave me a lecture that I need to let it go and stop obsessing over it which is easier said than done when you have ocd but hey I can’t expect her to completely understand. I just don’t understand why one day I don’t think about it one bit and then the next I’m having a panic attack and can’t forgive myself because of my past. It’s so frustrating. Any advice? Anyone gone through Real Event Ocd and gotten through it?

Username: berryblood

Date posted: 47w ago

rough ocd day

lately i’ve been having pretty bad ocd days but today was definitely one of my worst days. i just feel like such an awful person and the ocd is really eating at me. i try really hard, or i feel like i do sometimes. i try to talk to my mom and she says she understands but she doesn’t- and i hate it. i can’t even get dressed in certain clothing or watch a show i like anymore without ocd interfering. my mind is all over the place and i feel so helpless. i just wish it’d stop.

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