- Username
- JBird88
- Date posted
- 5y ago
I feel this all the time
Does your boyfriend have anger issues and get annoyed easily with stuff?
Hahaa funny you say that but yea. I mean not extremely. But he doesn’t understand my mental health. It’s hard to deal with for me, its a line of confusion because I have health issues that he is INCREDIBLE about. More than any other boyfriend, more than a lot of family members. So understanding, supportive, always wanting to learn more whether that be me explaining or him looking it up on his own. However in regards to mental health..that’s a different story. Not that I have much to compare it to because most people in my life, including every other boyfriend I’ve had, have never understood my OCD, or my almost debilitating depression.
Then he may be willing to go to counseling with you
Look at the root of why you feel this way? Relationships are hard
How long has this been going on? If you have been in the relationship 8 months or less just get out! Not worth it you’ll thank me later. If you’ve been with him a long time I’m assuming there are more than a few good qualities he has as well which is keeping you around. In which case talk to him more seriously about this issue and suggest he seek counseling. If he is never up for that think long and hard about if you want to deal with that 5 years down the line
How old are you? I will say this.. the hardest thing you will ever do.. is be true to whatever faith you have and then also, relationships and having a child. Some people just are not there. He may be too prideful for help to see things through... even if it’s needed. You have to remind yourself though, that you DO see an issue and that you aware... that is a key to survival in a relationship and its mature. The hard part is some people can’t always see that... one day they will but... it may take time to be on YOUR level. Love is so important in this... not the butterfly kind but the kind where.. you’d love them if they lost a limb. He may not be emotionally mature enough for you...
You can do this!!!!
If he does- he’s not your lifelong mate.... and you know what? If he isn’t then guess what? ThanK GOD because that means there is something BETTER FOR YOU because you DESERVE IR
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Yea you are exactly right
Thank you. I hope he stays or really does love me cause I really want this to work out
If it does not, there is something better for you. Just remember that.
Well he’s got anger issues. And gets annoyed with me easily and mad at me for no reason. He says he loves me but also he doesn’t know why he acts the way he acts.
Well we have been together for 1 year and 3 months
And he isn’t going to do counseling ... maybe someday he will.... but not now .... it’s not like he’s angry alllllll of the time. But like when he is angry it just kills the mood. For the most part I know how to handle it, and he gets over it fast. But like .... sometimes I wonder if I make him more annoyed or happy
Well I’m 24 and he’s 40 !!!!!!!!! He should BE mature
But he’s not
Yes he should. That says a lot.... I will say... this is difficult but ... you have to do what’s best for YOU
I know I do But like I think he really does love me . Cause I told him about my OCD and how scared I am and he says that I should focus on myself and get therapy, which was a hard thing for me to do. And he said that he wants to know how to handle it so he can help me
And I was like wow no guy has ever been there for me like he has
Yea I hope so. Sometimes I think he might break up with me tho because I think he sees me as unsuccessful in a way. I had to delay getting a job for a while because of my mental health and also school And he thinks highly of me so he always tells me to keep busy and support myself. And I’m trying so so hard to find a good job and love myself But it so fucking hard and scary because of my flare ups
Thank you. I just pray that it’s not too late and that he thinks I’m some kind of failure for taking too long to find a job. Or graduate college
I just feel like I don’t care anymore. I’m so exhausted of swinging between constant thoughts and numbness. I just don’t feel like I can sustain the feeling of love. My boyfriend will find someone else. I know he thinks he loves me but I know he could also love again. He’d be fine if I just disappeared. I just hate myself and don’t want anyone to love me. There’s always going to be other people in the world a person will have a connection with so he could move past me just fine. No one connection means anything.
No ‘what ifs’ anymore- just direct statements sometimes ‘you don’t love him’ sometimes ‘I don’t want to be with him’. I can’t see any hope of feeling better- I don’t even know if this is OCD. This isn’t how love is supposed to feel- how do I know if my partner just isn’t the one? I did have really intense anxiety but could still feel that love and desire to be with my SO but now- it seems to be fading away. No more anxiety, intrusive thoughts feel a bit muddled up rather than loud, aggressive, specific thoughts. Help :(
Oh guys, the worst has happened and I simply cannot wrap my head around it. My bf has depression and has been pushing me away for a few weeks (even months) and he finally broke down. He broke up with me and says he needs to focus on himself in order to get better. He says he still loves me but he is not in love with himself, life or anything anymore and can’t give himself to the relationship. I feel like I’m dying. Slowly and painfully.
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