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I feel this all the time
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Does your boyfriend have anger issues and get annoyed easily with stuff?
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Hahaa funny you say that but yea. I mean not extremely. But he doesn’t understand my mental health. It’s hard to deal with for me, its a line of confusion because I have health issues that he is INCREDIBLE about. More than any other boyfriend, more than a lot of family members. So understanding, supportive, always wanting to learn more whether that be me explaining or him looking it up on his own. However in regards to mental health..that’s a different story. Not that I have much to compare it to because most people in my life, including every other boyfriend I’ve had, have never understood my OCD, or my almost debilitating depression.
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Then he may be willing to go to counseling with you
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Look at the root of why you feel this way? Relationships are hard
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How long has this been going on? If you have been in the relationship 8 months or less just get out! Not worth it you’ll thank me later. If you’ve been with him a long time I’m assuming there are more than a few good qualities he has as well which is keeping you around. In which case talk to him more seriously about this issue and suggest he seek counseling. If he is never up for that think long and hard about if you want to deal with that 5 years down the line
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How old are you? I will say this.. the hardest thing you will ever do.. is be true to whatever faith you have and then also, relationships and having a child. Some people just are not there. He may be too prideful for help to see things through... even if it’s needed. You have to remind yourself though, that you DO see an issue and that you aware... that is a key to survival in a relationship and its mature. The hard part is some people can’t always see that... one day they will but... it may take time to be on YOUR level. Love is so important in this... not the butterfly kind but the kind where.. you’d love them if they lost a limb. He may not be emotionally mature enough for you...
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You can do this!!!!
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If he does- he’s not your lifelong mate.... and you know what? If he isn’t then guess what? ThanK GOD because that means there is something BETTER FOR YOU because you DESERVE IR
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It
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Yea you are exactly right
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Thank you. I hope he stays or really does love me cause I really want this to work out
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If it does not, there is something better for you. Just remember that.
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Well he’s got anger issues. And gets annoyed with me easily and mad at me for no reason. He says he loves me but also he doesn’t know why he acts the way he acts.
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Well we have been together for 1 year and 3 months
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And he isn’t going to do counseling ... maybe someday he will.... but not now .... it’s not like he’s angry alllllll of the time. But like when he is angry it just kills the mood. For the most part I know how to handle it, and he gets over it fast. But like .... sometimes I wonder if I make him more annoyed or happy
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Well I’m 24 and he’s 40 !!!!!!!!! He should BE mature
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But he’s not
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Yes he should. That says a lot.... I will say... this is difficult but ... you have to do what’s best for YOU
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I know I do But like I think he really does love me . Cause I told him about my OCD and how scared I am and he says that I should focus on myself and get therapy, which was a hard thing for me to do. And he said that he wants to know how to handle it so he can help me
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And I was like wow no guy has ever been there for me like he has
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Yea I hope so. Sometimes I think he might break up with me tho because I think he sees me as unsuccessful in a way. I had to delay getting a job for a while because of my mental health and also school And he thinks highly of me so he always tells me to keep busy and support myself. And I’m trying so so hard to find a good job and love myself But it so fucking hard and scary because of my flare ups
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Thank you. I just pray that it’s not too late and that he thinks I’m some kind of failure for taking too long to find a job. Or graduate college
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maybe i dont want to accept the factvthat i lost feelings, maybe i never actually loved my boyfriend and i hust wanted a relationship , i dont want reasurance, but in very scared i dont love him, because it feels real. im scared
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My rocd is making me disconected from my boyfriend thinking he is cringe and that i dont know him or i dont like him for real, making me question the times i was happy thinking i was pretending and i was just thinking i am happy and in love but i wasnt… when i think abt my boyfriend i cant feel happiness… im scared. Yesterday we talked he said he is happy when we talked he sais how happy he is and that if i dont feel the same i should not panic (hw knows about my thoughts) i am so sad, i dont want to be like this forever, im scared
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I don’t understand why I don’t feel happy, why my mind keeps making me think so negatively about him. Nothing makes me feel joy anymore. I keep thinking that he’s stupid, that I don’t like him, and when he speaks kindly to me, I feel nothing. The worst part is that I feel completely numb, like I have no emotions at all. And that makes me think that maybe I really don’t like him, that I will eventually reach a point where I realize my worst fear is true. I keep fighting with him because of my attitude. I treat him badly, and I know it’s because of my thoughts. I can’t see the good in anything. Today, he told me that I would be better off without him because I always seem so sad. He moved to my city for university just to be with me, and instead of making his life better, I feel like I’m making it worse. The thoughts don’t stop, even when I’m with him. I see people posting about how they feel calm when they’re with their partners, but I don’t. I can’t look at him without having intrusive thoughts, and I can’t even kiss him. Today, he told me that he doesn’t feel loved by me anymore, that I treat him poorly. I am constantly afraid because I feel nothing when he says things to me, because I don’t feel like I care. When I look at pictures of us from when I was in a better place, I feel like I was a completely different person. I start thinking that I’ve “matured” and that’s why I don’t feel anything anymore—like maybe I only liked him because I was young and naïve. Everything he does and says irritates me, but he loves me. What if I’m only with him because I don’t want to hurt him? What if I’m just used to him? I feel scared all the time. I don’t understand what’s happening. He keeps trying to apply logic, but it doesn’t work on me. So many times, he has tried to make me feel better, to tell me that I still care about him and that I don’t need to feel love all the time. But my heart breaks when I see how attached he is to me while I feel like I don’t feel the same way. I feel like I’m hurting him, and I don’t know how to get out of this dark place . He keeps trying to apply logic, but it doesn’t work on me. So many times, he has tried to make me feel better, to tell me that I still care about him and that I don’t need to feel love all the time. But my heart breaks when I see how attached he is to me while I feel like I don’t feel the same way. I feel like I’m hurting him, and I don’t know how to get out of this dark place
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