I'm so Disappointed With Myself....can't rectify and make things better no matter what happens....😔

For me It's not about just real event I'm just full of bad habits and can't change myself...

@Have Some Chocolate 🍫 You can change bad habits

@Justmesadly Unfortunately i just don't why but I'm not able too.... It's been more than a year repeating the same mistakes and regretting over and over but nothing change....

@Have Some Chocolate 🍫 ***i just don't know why....

@Have Some Chocolate 🍫 You can change any bad habits if you want to. If you don’t put effort behind it you wont

@Have Some Chocolate 🍫 There could be other underlying issues maybe? Especially if you have a rocky childhood sand we’re neglected. You might lack structure and discipline which you can gradually learn and implement but if nothing works I’d look into executive dysfunction and neurodivergencies linked to it.

@thrutheweather I never was that much disciplined but i never used to procrastinate and practice other bad habits this much... It's too much since ocd and literally nothing helps.... And i didn't know that procrastination was related to ocd.... Now i wonder if i have adhd or not.... I don't know why can't i change i have enough regret and realization....

@Have Some Chocolate 🍫 It’s possible to have both but your body constantly being between fight and flight with High stress and anxiety has physical symptoms too. Brain fog, memory issues, fatigue etc - normally they’d recommend you treat the OCD and then you can work out if you have ADHD. I’m not sure where you live but it might be worth exploring ADHD more (don’t get obsessive with it!) read a few articles, a few videos and see if it’s something you align with. There are a lot of crossovers with ADHD, OCD, ADD & ASD. ——- please don’t be too hard on yourself! You’re trying whilst working through your OCD. Old habits die hard and might’ve been past compulsions you’ve not even realised. Write down what works in terms of discipline and what doesn’t.

@Have Some Chocolate 🍫 Please do not self diagnose because of others. Lots of people procrastinate or lack motivation, that doesn’t mean you have adhd!

@Justmesadly Whilst this advice is good it’s also ok for people to speculate about conditions they may have. No self diagnoses but if you feel you align it is something they should look into further with a psychiatrist.

@Have Some Chocolate 🍫 Focus on treating the OCD for now though… this is what you know you have and you’ll probably find that a lot of issues you’re having ease after doing some ERP.

@thrutheweather This is something this generation is obsessed with. Lacking motivation doesn’t mean you have a mental illness. Breaking habits are hard for everyone. If not it wouldn’t be a habit. That doesn’t mean you need to research and see if you have other mental illnesses. Most illnesses have many many symptoms so unless it’s effecting your daily life I think it’s best to just keep treating the ocd and doing your best

@Justmesadly It’s clearly affecting their daily life they’ve said that. You’ve made several unhelpful comments here. Making comments like ‘this is something this generation is obsessed with’ is one of them. Many people have never had access to information about conditions.. you’re on an app where many people found out they had OCD through NOCD’s Instagram and coming on the app. What you’re saying is really dismissive of a lot of peoples experiences. Many people don’t have the means for psychiatrist assessments - yes breaking habits are hard for everyone and so is motivation. Yes many illnesses have several symptoms… but you ARE allowed to explore if you could have other illnesses or another neurodivergence. What’s important is HOW you go about doing this. Exploring your issues is not self diagnosing. You’re pushing people away from trying to get help making statements like that. OP should treat the OCD like i advised but if the symptoms they’re having issues with still prevail they should speak to a psychiatrist about the ADHD they suspect they may have too.

@thrutheweather Ok

@Have Some Chocolate 🍫 This is the video I watched but he does end the video with treating OCD FIRST! - https://youtu.be/ntY-_dzZxC8

@Have Some Chocolate 🍫 Treat your OCD first! Here’s the video again. https://youtu.be/ntY-_dzZxC8 - I think you’ll find that a lot of the issues you’re having will ease once you start effectively treating your OCD with ERP. Also try not to live in the past.. we can’t change it! Onwards and upwards friend ❤️

@Have Some Chocolate 🍫 Try to move past trying to work out what’s wrong with you too! That can lead into obsessive researching etc. maybe you have something else, maybe you don’t but for now you know you have OCD and would like help treating that so you can go about your day to day life better.

@Have Some Chocolate 🍫 I’m not arguing with anyone. People are so silly and ridiculous! Nothing is wrong with you! You’re gonna be okay I promise! You’re not a bad person

@Justmesadly Okay.... It's ok Thanks...

@thrutheweather Actually i don't know the problem is i just can't start doing things untill last minute no matter what now this has been happening since quite a while... I had enough bad consequences for this... I even have realization of my mistake and habit and regret... But can't change myself..... And i can't focus on things (productive work) that well... That made me feel like what if i have adhd.... And tbh i can't really sit on a task for much long... I just can't... And it's not even about having any distraction... There's no distraction still i just can't get to my work.... And i can procrastinate by walking through my home doing simply nothing.... Not just cause i don't want to i really want but don't know why but feel stuck and can't start or sit with the work.... Now this has been this bad that i can't even sit to study even before the night of an exam i already failed exams before cause of this i know the consequences very well.... But still i can't do the Action.... And it's so frustrating and depressing that I'm intentionally failing exams.....and almost feel helpless to do any change or anything..... I don't know i don't have other symptoms of adhd but these are just there making my life a hell... Not able to focus properly... Can't complete a task and i procrastinate a lot..... And nothing is helping me to stop these.....

@Have Some Chocolate 🍫 I struggled concentrating too and I haven’t got to the bottom of it myself. I’d recommend for now trying different study techniques, setting up your own reward systems that motivate you and give you a boost when you’re becoming less engaged. Again keep treating your OCD but if you’re able to speak to a therapist/psychologist/parent about these concerns. They should be able to offer advice or help you work out what’s going on. Find a comfortable space to study too… you don’t have to study sat at a desk. My tutor used to do her work sat in bed. Some people sit on a cushion on the floor. Find what works best for you. - note taking whilst studying, writing down keywords, summarising things in your own words can help you.

@thrutheweather Thanks but currently the problem is I'm not able to speak with a Professional... So gotta manage all of this own....