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Is it bad to get anxious about your partner
Is it bad to get anxious about your partner
why do you get anxious about your partner? Do you have some bad thoughts in your head?
No it's just he isn't texting me for a month cuz he's busy I trust him I called him he declined and he was active and that's when I got anxious idk why I think it's the first time
@11/27/21 I completely understand you I would be anxious too, but you know sometimes he was busy, then you can talk about it later🤷♀️
@manuh ⋆ ˚。⋆ He's not gonna be able to talk for a month or 2 ita been a week
@11/27/21 I wouldn’t be with someone who can’t talk for a month. Unless he’s gone in the military there’s no reason he can’t talk for an entire month. You deserve sooo much more than that. You’re worth a 5 min phone call everyday ! If not more! No such thing as too busy, my friend! Stick up for yourself
@Justmesadly He's doing it to get his life together I know it's not by choice I trust him I love him
@Justmesadly Trust me if you knew everything you would understand I don't deserve him I'm a bad girlfriend because of this ocdb
@11/27/21 You’re not a bad girlfriend bc you have ocd, don’t ever say that!! I don’t know the whole story but no ma’am don’t say that! You’re a great human. That’s even worse if he’s not talking bc he’s getting his life together. That’s so selfish of him and you’re so much more worthy than that! You don’t not talk to someone bc you’re getting your life together, especially if you love them.
@Justmesadly Trust me don't say that about him you know nothing about him I can't even be able to enjoy talking to him no more because of those rocd bro I don't even show care about his health the way I use to I'm so horrible I wish I wasn't like this I'm tired
@11/27/21 He’s likely triggering your ocd by showing that he doesn’t care about you the least bit by ignoring you for a month?! Ugh my heart hurts for you. It took me months to realize how shit my ex treated me and it wasn’t even as bad as that! I am sending good vibes that you realize your worth. If he’s selfish enough to ignore you I hope you’ll take that time to heal yourself and manage your ocd ! You’re so strong and so worth it
@Justmesadly Trust me he's not like that
@Justmesadly Please stop saying that about him it's making feel like it's true and I have to break up eoth him and I don't want that
@11/27/21 I feel like I'm having a break up argue now I'm so annoyed I font want to I feel so fucking annoyed I feel like I have to and it will let all these thoughts and pain go I font wanna do that
@11/27/21 Hunny that has nothing to do with ocd. This is him being horrible but it’s always going to be your choice who you’re with!
@Justmesadly You saying that is making me feel like I have to break with him it's getting me annoyed you said like my doctor when he told me I don't actually love him
@11/27/21 He's a good person I swear he's a good person he treats me so well when he can trust me he's amazing I really wish I didn't have ethics ocd thing
@Justmesadly I love this boy I love this boy with my whole heart he's my baby bro he's my everything no matter what I feel at the moment I love him he means the world to me no matter what I have a choice I wanna be wirh and I'm gonna be with him we are all human we all mess up we all have those days and that's why I choice to love him yk what having this conversation with you made me realize that I do love him thank you he may not treat me well all the time but he does somw times same goes for me I'm gonna also choice him no matter what
@11/27/21 keep calm! of course you love him, only you and him are in this relationship! but of course I also think you should talk to each other every day at least a little on the phone!
I’m at a loss about what to do. I’ve been with my partner for about a year. I’ve wanted to be with him for 3 years and now I finally have him, I got out of a really toxic 11 year relationship about 4 years ago so I’ve had plenty of time to heal, things where going so great at first in our relationship and I’m still very much happy with him, I love him more than anything, but the past 5 6 months I’ve been having a constant fear that he’s gonna cheat or watch 🌽behind my back any chance he gets , I know that’s a touchy subject for some, but me personally it just makes me feel that I’m not attractive enough,or feel like I’m not good enough, I’ve never found evidence of cheating, and I’ve found 🌽 in his history once but I told him how I felt and he told me he understood how I felt and wouldn’t do it again,and I know the constant asking everyday and needing for reassurance with it is putting a tear in our relationship, I just want to fix it. Does anyone have any advice on how to redirect my brain whenever I start overthinking about it when I’m not around him? It just puts so much stress on me when I’m not around him cause I’m just constantly in my head about it.
Does anyone else get intrusive thoughts where they feel like they’re secretly toxic to their partner without realizing? So much so that they fear their partner wants to leave them? I’ve been having a bad flare up lately since I switched meds and it truly makes me feel like I’m an awful or toxic partner. I love my boyfriend endlessly and I want to be a great partner for him, I just get scared that I am actually being terrible to them. I used to constantly say sorry but now it’s in my own head most of the time.
I feel so bad I overthink abt everything my bf says and does. I think that if he doesn’t say x y z when I want reassurance then he must’ve stopped caring or is tired of me. I know it’s not the truth and he gives me NO reason to think this way. This is my first healthy relationship and I want to be in each others lives forever. I love him so much and I’m trying my hardest to manage these thoughts but I’m so anxious. It’s so draining I feel helpless and like I can’t go a day without checking his social medias. I want us to be the best versions of ourselves for eachother but idk where to start or how to manage this feeling.
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