My fam says my fears are not their problems and that they can’t help me anymore. Mom just said she’s done and that I need to leave the house. I know they’re right. But now I feel like I have no one.
Thank you everyone for being so kind and loving. My parents are extremely understand of ocd, but have always taken a “tough love” approach in trying to help me, and this time, it just was too much. However, she felt very bad about it and has apologized profusely. I just don’t want to ruin our good relationship and ocd is really trying to get in between us
I’m so sorry, while it’s horrible that your family said that honestly the best thing you can do is leave the house, i know what its like for your fears to keep you trapped in your house but remember avoidance is a compulsion and will only make your fears more prominent xx
@Abbie. Sorry just btw I’m assuming by “leave the house” your mum isn’t kicking you out just wanting you to get out more
@Abbie. She was telling me to leave bc I’m in college and was home for the weekend and was excited to spend some time with her but she said I have made her weekend miserable and exhausting from talking about something I’m worried about.
@iamworthy I’m sorry that you’ve been made to feel like that. Are you seeing anybody about your OCD? - you need to see a professional, family and friends can offer support but it takes an emotional toll and does affect your relationship with them sadly.
@iamworthy Oh my god that’s terrible im sorry, ocd is such strange disorder because it’s so hard for those who don’t have it to fully understand it, if you need to let out your worry’s I’m happy to listen x
Your mum sounds like she’s being really horrible
I’m also her to help and listen :) have you tried talking to a therapist at you college
While it can be hard to deal with a family member with OCD, it is NEVER an excuse to make them feel like a burden or that they are a problem. Your family shouldn’t have made you feel like that period. It doesn’t matter. Love and support shouldn’t be conditional. It is okay for your mom to feel frustrated and overwhelmed but it was not okay to tell you to leave. She could’ve expressed her need to take a break in a way that was more productive and less abandoning. Do you have anyone else that supports you? Have you seen someone on-campus for your OCD?
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I’m sorry to hear that you’re having trouble with your family understanding and accepting you. Just know that you are not alone! OCD is taxing on personal relationships. I don’t know anything about your mom, but even the most loving people will have off days and not be able to support! The best thing you can do is try and get the help you need from professionals and support groups like this one! I know I that I’ve burdened a lot of loved ones with my OCD behaviors. It feels good to get help!
I’ve been going through this rough patch for the last four months, and I can already feel an even worse one coming. I just feel scared. And on top of that, I’m going to stop therapy. After everything with my current therapist, I just don’t have the strength to keep trying anymore. I feel hopeless. My head hurts so much, and it’s hard to keep going when everything feels this bad. I just want to cry, hope this feeling passes, and maybe try again if it ever lets up. But right now, it feels like nothing will ever get better. I don’t feel like I can ask for help. I hate that it took me so long to realize this wasn’t the therapist for me. I was too scared of being dramatic, so I let it go on for far too long, and now I feel like I’ve just become a burden-like. I hate that I let it get to that point, especially when I was paying for this. I just want to give up. I feel broken down, and I don’t even want to be okay anymore.
I don’t know if it’s worth it to keep going. I have so many diagnoses, so little support, and constant struggles with finding the right medication. My immune system is weak, I have multiple deficiencies, and I’m dealing with so many physical health problems on top of severe OCD. It’s just too much. On top of everything, my family treats me so not okay. Every single day is a fight just to keep going—to wake up, to eat, to take care of myself even a little. I’ve lost over ten pounds in the last two weeks from how depressed I’ve been. And instead of support, all I get is blame. My family constantly throws my struggles in my face, calling me selfish, as if I’m choosing this. I am trying so hard to push past all of this. But after five long months of severe OCD, anxiety, depression, panic disorder, and everything else making life unbearable, I am exhausted. And to be called lazy? Selfish? *Worthless*? How am I supposed to keep going when the people around me refuse to see how hard I’m trying? I don’t want this anymore. None of this suffering feels worth it. What am I fighting for just to be treated this way by my own family? To be yelled at for the look on my face, when my face reflects nothing but the stress, panic, and despair I’m drowning in? Am I still supposed to smile for them? This isn’t fair. No one should have to live like this. I don’t deserve to be treated this way, I’m really trying to keep going, but I just want everything to end.
So I was at a family thing yesterday and my ice was bothering me and I kept washing my hands and my family noticed and started making fun of me for it and it was like non stop it made me feel really alone especially since they clearly know something’s up but they just make it worse instead of at least trying to help😕
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