My fam says my fears are not their problems and that they can’t help me anymore. Mom just said she’s done and that I need to leave the house. I know they’re right. But now I feel like I have no one.
Thank you everyone for being so kind and loving. My parents are extremely understand of ocd, but have always taken a “tough love” approach in trying to help me, and this time, it just was too much. However, she felt very bad about it and has apologized profusely. I just don’t want to ruin our good relationship and ocd is really trying to get in between us
I’m so sorry, while it’s horrible that your family said that honestly the best thing you can do is leave the house, i know what its like for your fears to keep you trapped in your house but remember avoidance is a compulsion and will only make your fears more prominent xx
@Abbie. Sorry just btw I’m assuming by “leave the house” your mum isn’t kicking you out just wanting you to get out more
@Abbie. She was telling me to leave bc I’m in college and was home for the weekend and was excited to spend some time with her but she said I have made her weekend miserable and exhausting from talking about something I’m worried about.
@iamworthy I’m sorry that you’ve been made to feel like that. Are you seeing anybody about your OCD? - you need to see a professional, family and friends can offer support but it takes an emotional toll and does affect your relationship with them sadly.
@iamworthy Oh my god that’s terrible im sorry, ocd is such strange disorder because it’s so hard for those who don’t have it to fully understand it, if you need to let out your worry’s I’m happy to listen x
Your mum sounds like she’s being really horrible
I’m also her to help and listen :) have you tried talking to a therapist at you college
While it can be hard to deal with a family member with OCD, it is NEVER an excuse to make them feel like a burden or that they are a problem. Your family shouldn’t have made you feel like that period. It doesn’t matter. Love and support shouldn’t be conditional. It is okay for your mom to feel frustrated and overwhelmed but it was not okay to tell you to leave. She could’ve expressed her need to take a break in a way that was more productive and less abandoning. Do you have anyone else that supports you? Have you seen someone on-campus for your OCD?
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I’m sorry to hear that you’re having trouble with your family understanding and accepting you. Just know that you are not alone! OCD is taxing on personal relationships. I don’t know anything about your mom, but even the most loving people will have off days and not be able to support! The best thing you can do is try and get the help you need from professionals and support groups like this one! I know I that I’ve burdened a lot of loved ones with my OCD behaviors. It feels good to get help!
Feeling like a burden to my family today. I’ve been speaking to them about possibly leaving my current cbt therapist to start therapy with nocd, however they seem very frustrated with me for wanting to switch therapists and for not being all happy and bubbly all the time. We don’t have much money so therapy is a big decision for us, I can tell my family and my friends are getting fed up of me :(
My family literally is always against me and doesn’t understand my ocd at all. They are all so stubborn and don’t make an effort to even empathize with me and always make me the bad guy. I’m just so tired of no one being on my side and my family saying all these derogatory things to me. Even if I make a small mistake, it is the end of the world for them and they all gang up and won’t speak to me properly for days as a result. 😔
Basically I told the wrong people my intrusive thoughts and they now have pushed me away. My two cousins won’t talk to me (for this and a host of other reasons). I just miss my family. I wish I never told anyone except my therapist. I could use some support.
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