Having a partner with no ocd/anxiety

Does anyone else have a partner with almost no anxiety/OCD. I guess opposites attract but my gosh it can you make you feel so alone and isolated in the relationship. Or more so just “less than”. The “crazy one”. I’ll even convince myself I’m not good enough for him because he has such good mental health. I’ve been honest about my ocd with him but I’ve never shared with him my intrusive thoughts that are taboo. Especially harm ocd because he literally has almost next to no anxiety (I’m jealous lol) Do you guys think it’s completely necessary to tell your partner everything about your ocd? Confessing is a huge compulsion of mine so it’s difficult to keep it from him but I’m afraid he’d think I am nuts. I am just not ready.

Username: Stay strong 🙌🏻💪🏻Stay strong 🙌🏻💪🏻

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y ago

🙋🏻‍♀️ , i would feel the need to confess everything, but i wouldnt bc i felt like he would leave me and i would loose him. When i had a complete breakdown and i started telling him things like "i cant do this anymore" or " i need to be in a psych ward" he was completely freaking out bc he thought i was fine. Long story short, i made him drag me to a psych ward, i got sent home and was told i needed rest, and got some meds. He took it upon himself to research... He was fully supportive in the best possible wayy he could. It def wasnt easy, and it def took a toll in our marriage bc i wasnt speaking about what was going on. But now its like we balance ourselves out. I kinda like that hes the non anxiety one. Imagine if we were both an anxiety mess .... Lol

Username: EFF_OCDEFF_OCD

Date posted: 2y ago

@Stay strong 🙌🏻💪🏻 What an amazing story. I’m glad he was a supportive understanding partner. I remind myself all the time they just bc my partner can’t always understand since he doesn’t have it, doesn’t mean that’s a bad thing. Everyone has a diff struggle in life and that’s just not his. What matters the most is that they are willing to stick beside you and support even if they don’t understand. I believe that’s what things like this app are for to remind us that we aren’t alone. 💖

Username: Stay strong 🙌🏻💪🏻Stay strong 🙌🏻💪🏻

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y ago

@Itsheathersocd Yesss! Exactly it just isnt his. And im okay with that, for a long time it made me angry but now i understand! This app really helps with not feeling feeling alone or misunderstood. 😊

Username: Cry me a riverCry me a river

Date posted: 2y ago

I’m struggling with confessing to it’s so difficult

Username: EFF_OCDEFF_OCD

Date posted: 2y ago

@Cry me a river I understand. Hang in there and try to resist.

Username: A. V.A. V.

Date posted: 2y ago

i suggest that you tell your partner that you have anxiety and ocd, since it's an important fact that may condition your relationship, but not try to relay on other compulsions. just tell them and answer their questions about your anxiety/ocd, so they can understand why you may look anxious or worried at times. but you don't have to do the rest of compulsions. i don't know if i'm explaining myself?

Username: EFF_OCDEFF_OCD

Date posted: 2y ago

@A. V. (he/they) Yes you are!! Thank you!!

Username: minutebyminuteminutebyminute

Date posted: 2y ago

Yes, I also have a partner who has very little anxiety and seems to have it all together mentally. I like that he's stable actually because I'm a mess. Occasionally it will hurt my feelings when he doesn't seem to understand or empathize. I don't think it's necessary to tell him about your OCD, especially if you struggle with confessing. If you think a relationship with this particular someone is worth the work, then keep doing the work to keep it up! I know that my mental health is a me problem and not something that he can really do anything for other than just support me when I'm not okay. I tell myself to go to therapy, do your own work. It's hard having OCD.

Username: EFF_OCDEFF_OCD

Date posted: 2y ago

@minutebyminute Sounds so similar to me and what I go through. He knows I have Ocd/anxiety but I’ve chosen to not tell him all my intrusive thoughts. It’s hard for me bc I used to always look for reassurance and confessing as my compulsion but the truth is, our partners can’t “fix us” especially if they don’t have it. And that is okay. They can support our recovery though and that’s as far as it goes in our relationship. I just tell my therapist everything I don’t want to tell him and I’ve learned that I don’t have to tell him. It’s been freeing to learn that I don’t have to confess to my partner but I have my bad days where I have the urge to tell him literally everything. Ocd is indeed difficult!

Username: minutebyminuteminutebyminute

Date posted: 2y ago

@Itsheathersocd This is really good because we recognize what we are doing and struggling with. Some people don't even know so at least we can stop ourselves from going overboard and seeking reassurance. It's hard when it's literally the only thing that makes you feel better but it's actually bad for you.

Username: MentalHealthMatters!MentalHealth...

Date posted: 2y ago

My husband seems to have great mental health no anxiety, definitely no ocd. Yet he's surrounded by many who have mental illness oldest son adhd, middle child autism and me his wife ocd. I don't confess my ocd thoughts to him because they're not real but rather there intrusive. So I see it as... confessing? Confessing what? False thoughts? Nah I don't think so... it's the ocd mental disorder acting out if wack again there just intrusive false thoughts so I just continue on.

Username: EFF_OCDEFF_OCD

Date posted: 2y ago

@Jingle bells This helps so much. You are right. Why confess something that doesn’t matter

Username: sillygoose1012

Date posted: 3y ago

Has anyone told their s/o about their soocd or rocd? I don't really want to tell my boyfriend details about what I struggle with because I don't want him to feel insecure or inadequate but I also know he is curious about what I mean when I have OCD because he knows I'm not a very organized/clean person which most people think OCD is. We are open with me taking health and I don't want to withhold how I feel but I can't outright tell him my struggles. Any advice?

Username: rosecoloredgirl

Date posted: 3y ago

need help or tips? i've been spiraling because i have confession compulsion and i have this fear that once my boyfriend finds out the themes of my OCD, he'll leave me. he loves me and tells me he'll always be by my side but before i kind of confessed that my mind kind of has his followers memorized because of compulsions i've performed before and he admitted that it slightly turned him off because "damn that's something else" but it wasn't a dealbreaker... can't help but think if he thinks that's something else then he is definitely gonna be turned off after he finds out about my POCD especially now it kind of involved his younger nephew or about Harm OCD or Pure O Really need help to overcome this. I have this urge to confess to him and try to make him understand to get that reassurance from him that even after knowing these he won't leave me but I also don't want to bc not a lot of people will understand or be comfortable about it esp we've only been together for a few months

Username: kmorigz

Date posted: 3y ago

Does anyone have any advice for sharing their obsessions with their significant other? I struggle with relationship and sexuality OCD. My boyfriend knows I have OCD, but we have never discussed it in detail. I think he is trying to respect my boundaries and I am terrified he won’t understand my obsessions and/or will take them personally. As a result I feel like I am hiding this horrible secret, and it is causing me so much anxiety. I want to talk to him about it, but I don’t know how to bring it up in a way that won’t hurt him.

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