Ending university
My mental illness is getting so bad... Should I end my university? It makes no sense anymore...can't concentrate on nothing It makes me just more nervous...
I was struggling also but I didn’t quit. It took me about 6 years to graduate but I’m glad I did. Was even placed on academic probation twice. Graduated with a 2.5 gpa and somehow landed high paying job a couple months out of school. So just take your time if you need to but don’t just quit. Maybe take a gap semester and take a mental health break.
I’d you stop going to university, then what will you do? Staying home and not doing anything will only make things WAY worse. So, you need to be in intense treatment and possibly a full time job—or part time job—to justify dropping out. Doing nothing will make things worse. But if you can, try not doing so many classes per semester and drop one or even two classes next semester, so 3 total? Maybe 4 total. Not sure how many you’re taking now. Then you can also do OCD treatment.
Agreed. Quitting real commitments to better yourself or your future will only add an existential element to the hurt
Definitely with Nica, quitting will just give you more time to ruminate on the anxiety. I'm taking it slow on work and school and it really helps me stay focused on something other than my OCD. Your university should have an accessibility resource center that you can talk to about your mental health and they can make sure you can still qualify for scholarships/funding with a lighter load.
I understand. In the past 4 years I watched my gpa go from 4.0 to less than 1.0 with academic probation. It was especially sucky because I was always the “smart kid” in high school and put a lot of my worth into my grades. However, ultimately, I just couldn’t do life at school anymore and so I dropped out for the second time 😅 to take another gap semester. That said, I’m not giving up. I hope to be healthy enough to return to a different university with better mental health resources in the Spring 🤍 I wish you the best of luck friend as you figure this out. Whatever you choose you’re not alone and there’s a lot of strangers like me who understand and support you!
Do you think your mental illness is affecting your grades and/or your ability to pass?
Thank you guys for your valuable advices :)
Speak to your tutors and try to get some sessions with a mental health counsellor at the university. Once the university understand your circumstances or get your diagnoses from your doctor/psychiatrist they should be able to offer you additional support. I’m not sure where you live but you should be able to request a letter from your doctor/psychiatrist to give to your university. They’ll discuss any adjustments they can make for you ——- you need to be in therapy. If you can’t afford private (I’m presuming you’re in the UK because you said university) you need to contact your GP and have them give you a referral. Don’t be too hard on yourself… a lot of people struggle and are struggling at the moment. I’ve noticed universities increasing mental health support across the country recently. You need to reach out and get help then you can make an informed decision about whether leaving is the best decision. You might be able to take a gap year etc so get help and discuss different options with your therapist and the university then make a decision but if you do leave you need to continue receiving help/therapy. You’ll need to volunteer/work etc to get yourself out there so you don’t sit around doing nothing as it’ll make your mental health worse. Having rest days is completely different and it’s ok to stop and take breaks but you’ll need to do something if you leave to keep yourself occupied.
Thank you guys for the advices! It's just so inefficient how I do it right now... So much stress I need so much more effort for every thing And all together (work, studying, anxiety disorder) it's much too much at the time...and just makes my anxiety worse
I am from Austria and yes we also have psychological support for students I ll reach out to them, thank you for the idea...
@OliviaP See if your university offer scholarships, bursaries or hardship funds. This should help alleviate some of the stress.
I just think my mental health is a priority
I am struggling a bit with school lately. I end up studying until everywhere between 6 and 9 pm most days, and it is making me miserable. I am considering doing school part time, as that is an option available in my country, but I am afraid of “giving up”. I am also scared I’ll end up with too much time on my hands. What do you guys think? By doing it part time I’d be able to rest more and probably work more on my mental health. However, I would have to spend more time in school, and I feel like I would be a failure. Also, all my friends would graduate before me.
I don't know how to do it anymore. I have these constant urges to replay and revisit certain moments (where I think I hurt someone) and analyse them. I also want to confess to everyone I know... about everything. All I feel at the moment is disgust which has been growing more and more for the past weeks as I've been constantly feeding on tremendous levels of shame and disgust. I wonder how I could ever act on an urge and hurt my brother (even I never would intentionally because I love him more than my life, and because I don't want to be a person that causes pain to anyone in any way or shape). I wonder how I got here. It all started with thoughts. But it all ended in a huge, huge disaster with me as a monster in the centre of it. I'm really tired. I'm also scared because I'm convinced I will fail ALL my exams, therefore I will not be able to complete my second year at uni. Everything is getting worse and worse, and I barely have any energy left. I know I sound dramatic, which I apologise for, but I honestly feel like this is the end for me.
I have decided to drop out of college now. It’s finally clear to me that it’s the only thing I can do now. I feel like such a failure tho but luckily I have the best and supportive parents that agree with my solution. I am going to lie to the people in my class and roommates about it, I just have to say I got sick or something because it’s so embarrassing to me. I suffer from depression, intense anxiety (hocd and social and generalized). I have personality problems and I look forward to go to a therapist and start recovery and start to be myself and healthy again, because it’s a very long time since I was myself and completely mentally healthy. What do you guys think about my decision? I struggle a lot with quitting college but I don’t think the program was for me anyways so that’s a good thing. I am 19 years old and I have many years to decide what I want to do, don’t I?
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