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Ending university
My mental illness is getting so bad... Should I end my university? It makes no sense anymore...can't concentrate on nothing It makes me just more nervous...
My mental illness is getting so bad... Should I end my university? It makes no sense anymore...can't concentrate on nothing It makes me just more nervous...
I was struggling also but I didn’t quit. It took me about 6 years to graduate but I’m glad I did. Was even placed on academic probation twice. Graduated with a 2.5 gpa and somehow landed high paying job a couple months out of school. So just take your time if you need to but don’t just quit. Maybe take a gap semester and take a mental health break.
I’d you stop going to university, then what will you do? Staying home and not doing anything will only make things WAY worse. So, you need to be in intense treatment and possibly a full time job—or part time job—to justify dropping out. Doing nothing will make things worse. But if you can, try not doing so many classes per semester and drop one or even two classes next semester, so 3 total? Maybe 4 total. Not sure how many you’re taking now. Then you can also do OCD treatment.
Agreed. Quitting real commitments to better yourself or your future will only add an existential element to the hurt
Definitely with Nica, quitting will just give you more time to ruminate on the anxiety. I'm taking it slow on work and school and it really helps me stay focused on something other than my OCD. Your university should have an accessibility resource center that you can talk to about your mental health and they can make sure you can still qualify for scholarships/funding with a lighter load.
I understand. In the past 4 years I watched my gpa go from 4.0 to less than 1.0 with academic probation. It was especially sucky because I was always the “smart kid” in high school and put a lot of my worth into my grades. However, ultimately, I just couldn’t do life at school anymore and so I dropped out for the second time 😅 to take another gap semester. That said, I’m not giving up. I hope to be healthy enough to return to a different university with better mental health resources in the Spring 🤍 I wish you the best of luck friend as you figure this out. Whatever you choose you’re not alone and there’s a lot of strangers like me who understand and support you!
Do you think your mental illness is affecting your grades and/or your ability to pass?
Thank you guys for your valuable advices :)
Speak to your tutors and try to get some sessions with a mental health counsellor at the university. Once the university understand your circumstances or get your diagnoses from your doctor/psychiatrist they should be able to offer you additional support. I’m not sure where you live but you should be able to request a letter from your doctor/psychiatrist to give to your university. They’ll discuss any adjustments they can make for you ——- you need to be in therapy. If you can’t afford private (I’m presuming you’re in the UK because you said university) you need to contact your GP and have them give you a referral. Don’t be too hard on yourself… a lot of people struggle and are struggling at the moment. I’ve noticed universities increasing mental health support across the country recently. You need to reach out and get help then you can make an informed decision about whether leaving is the best decision. You might be able to take a gap year etc so get help and discuss different options with your therapist and the university then make a decision but if you do leave you need to continue receiving help/therapy. You’ll need to volunteer/work etc to get yourself out there so you don’t sit around doing nothing as it’ll make your mental health worse. Having rest days is completely different and it’s ok to stop and take breaks but you’ll need to do something if you leave to keep yourself occupied.
Thank you guys for the advices! It's just so inefficient how I do it right now... So much stress I need so much more effort for every thing And all together (work, studying, anxiety disorder) it's much too much at the time...and just makes my anxiety worse
I am from Austria and yes we also have psychological support for students I ll reach out to them, thank you for the idea...
@OliviaP See if your university offer scholarships, bursaries or hardship funds. This should help alleviate some of the stress.
I just think my mental health is a priority
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