Does anyone feel like they have to confess everything of their past to there partner and more recently it’s been intrusive thoughts. Needing or feeling like I have to confess.? I feel guilty if I don’t or feel like I am hiding something from him. I hate this feeling?! How do I get thru this?
You shouldn’t feel guilty about past mistakes. This is our first time experience what life is it’s not like we got a free trial before life so of course we would mess up and make mistakes. The best thing you can do is be a better person now and forget the past. If God has already forgiven you then you should forgive yourself as well
I feel like I need to tell him everything - and we really don’t!! It’s our lives and nobody is entitled to that information other than us. So hard to accept and come to terms with I still struggle
Yes I feel the need too but it’s not coming from a genuine place it’s coming from anxiety. We are all imperfect and all of us with OCD tend to over punish ourselves for our past for things that are super small and most likely irrelevant to our character/persona
I feel that! I don’t think it’s healthy. So I would love to know if there’s any advice for this.
Yes this is definitely OCD dont let anyone else tell you otherwise
@KindHeartedTaurus I am so sick of ocd and I am so frustrated trying to get into therapy. I am really having a rough time
@Bnsg4927 I hear you :( It totally sucks, but know that the best way is to acknowledge you’re having these intrusive thoughts, doesnt matter the content whether it’s the need to confess or ocd telling you that you’re a bad person. They’re just 1s and 0s and you’re never going to solve it so the best thing to do is to sit through it, shrug your shoulders and give grace to yourself despite these feelings. You won’t feel better right away but know that it counts as taking care of yourself. You got this :)
@KindHeartedTaurus Thank you. I am trying my hardest. It’s been a rough day
@Bnsg4927 I’m with you on that. I’ve been going through the same thing today actually. I feel like it’s something I need to confess but I just know deep down it’s not worth it and everytime I have confessed things I look back at it and think yea I rlly didnt need to say anything
I am single but currently my biggest obsession is that I can't date because I would feel like that. I'm terrified bc of it. I have one particular memory with some bits I'm not even sure happened and I feel that I would have to tell a bf that to be honest with him but I desperately don't want to and I am avoiding dating bc of it :(
@Hopeforthefuture That’s where I am at it’s a fuzzy memory and I don’t even know if it’s real or not but it gives me massive anxiety and panic when it pops up and then I try to figure it out and it keeps going and going. I am sorry you are having to not date because of it :(
@Bnsg4927 I'm glad to see I'm not alone in this 😔 it's so hard. I want to date and I have before with this obsession but it wasn't as bad then and we didn't date long. I felt so guilty not telling him. We broke up (for unrelated reasons) but after that I thought I couldn't date again 😔 or especially never marry because I would feel so guilty having someone commit to me forever while I'm "hiding" something. I hate ocd. I just want it to go away. Its crushing me
It’s real event ocd
I feel like I need to confess everything to my wife. This week it’s gotten me in a lot of trouble, there’s more I feel I need to confess but I know it’ll hurt her. How do I just not!
I have been really really struggling for the past 3 months and haven’t been able to stop intrusive thoughts/ rumination and confessing. It’s making me question my entire life, my relationship and even who I am as a person. It’s mainly effecting my relationship, I am so afraid that I did something or think things that are definitely hurtful to my partner. I know my brain is contorting my own memory and making things seem so much worse. I also know I haven’t done anything bad, all my things I’ve confessed about have been considered “normal” and I’ve been told that “you’re normal, you didn’t do anything wrong”. But I have felt this intense sense of guilt and shame and it doesn’t go away, I can’t even be a normal person anymore. And I keep searching for “just one more thing I need to tell” and I don’t want to keep searching my brain of every time I’ve said or done anything that I can distort and make seem 1000% worse. I’m isolating myself and just feel like I’m a bad person. I keep confessing my thoughts, feeling, urges, etc. to my partner and while I know I would never do any of these I feel like my ocd is trying to convince me that maybe I would because “why else would you think it or feel guilty” and that makes it so much worse. I really need guidance on how to handle this. What do I do to stop feeling like this and heal?
I’ve been feeling the compulsion of confession again. I hate confessing things to my boyfriend I don’t want him to carry the burden. I’d rather hurt than him hurt. But I feel I did something wrong and he needs to know. Like I need to be punished or something. I may be over reacting to it but I just feel guilty and I had a panic attack when I woke up yesterday. I would never cheat on him. Just making guys laugh I feel like I am doing him wrong or flirting. And then when I notice it I just feel awful. I just want to be liked and noticed not romantically but just as a human. I don’t know why I act like this and feel the need to tell him as if I slept with someone. I think it’s attacking my biggest fear which is losing him. Does anyone have experience with this?
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