Help, would anyone please mind reading my past two posts? Im having an extremely difficult time and could really use some support.

I can't find them. What happened?

Okay, so It's obvious you've put a lot of effort into fixing and maintaining your relationships and so far so good because relationships are work and they're no walk in the park. But when you give someone all your understanding and compassion and then be repayed with pain, there's the need to set some ground rules. Now the thing is love is irrational, you don't think straight when you're in love, you do whatever to make things right, but you don't have to forget that love isn't always supposed to hurt, it has to feel good too. Everyone has their stuff to deal with but in a relationship you always have to be open about which direction you want to go in. I think you should have a serious and open talk about your relationship in general, and all the problems between the two of you and then eventually work through them. But there's need to be effort even from his side otherwise it won't work. I don't know how he might have broken your trust, but either way trust is key in a relationship and he needs to work on that. And if you feel like you want a little break go for it, it won't hurt as long as you are both honest to each other

Don't worry :) it's normal to feel this way, I know because I too am like this. But just do whatever feels right for you. If you love him and he truly loves you back you should work through it and face all the problems one by one. Remember someone who truly loves you would though hell and back with you

Then he's definitely being a jerk. I don't want to generalize, but someone who wants the relationship to keep going is too willing to work though the things. It may also be frustration if he still loves you and wants to be with you otherwise he's being insensitive

Okay, bear with me here. I was with my ex for about nine months off and on. He broke my trust in several ways but never directly cheated on me. With my "just right" OCD I've continuously tried to solve/fix/understand things for over a year as well as get back to our relationship. He wants to be with just me, but there's just so much pain there. Also, he's not very direct and I know he's going through his own stuff but I'm just so damn confused. I feel like my life has been consumed by everything between us whether or not they're good. Words of wisdom?

I have a really bad coldsore. Even though I'm extremely cautious about washing my hands and have a whole compulsion routine I still have intrusive thoughts that I will somehow give myself genital warts. Does anyone else struggle with this? Sorry if it's tmi.

Thank you so much for your advice. We did a break in the past it didn't end super well. I ended up feeling shitty about myself. I just don't want to waste my twenties if I'm going to get fucked over again. But I don't want to miss out on something great.

Sorry about the language

What if theyre willing to work on things but give you crap for it too? Is that normal frustration or him being a jerk? Neither decision feels right.

Thank you notfortalk