Lying

Does anyone else with ocd lie a lot? I found myself lying when I first started ocd treatment to try to make everything seem like I had a picture perfect life when I don’t. And it just went from one lie to another. Now I feel extremely guilty. I am much better now but I still feel that guilt. I don’t wanna lose my best friend. I know shes figured a lot of shit out. She’s a genius (literally). But she’s never treated me any differently. She holds me accountable which is one of the many many things I love about her.

Username: ragtimehippyragtimehippy

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y ago

OCD treatment is tricky. I figured out that I was lying because of my OCD. I was ashamed to have the symptoms that I did so I only told what I thought my therapist and people around me wanted to hear. I’m not a therapist, but I feel like the guilt is another symptom of OCD. I have tremendous amounts of unreasonable guilt about real events because of OCD. OCD is the one lying to us.

Username: Ebenē Simmons Ebenē Simmons

User type: NOCD Alumni

Date posted: 2y ago

Yes this is something I struggle with as well. When there’s guilt & shame we tend to try to cover up, and that inadvertently causes you to lie compulsively - at least with OCD. The lying attempts to rectify, re-create, or explain your reality, or ideal reality, or whatever OCD tells you to do. More often than not, that is not an agreement with the truth of the matter so the lie attempts to bridge the gap.

Username: Rhys34Rhys34

Date posted: 2y ago

@Ebenē Simmons You’re very right. Some of the things I’ve said/claimed have been the farthest thing from the truth.

Username: Catperson10Catperson10

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y ago

No I had the opposite issue. I thought I had to be 100% honest all the time and would overexplain myself because people deserved all the info. It was the worst part tbh. I'd reword what I said over and over and over. And if I didn't word it right I'd re message people. I also had 0 boundaries and that was very detrimental to me. So I think either extreme is bad for us. Definitely bring it up in ERP im unless that's a huge trigger for you then might need to work up to it. But both of us it's ok to not answer certain questions and gave boundaries over who gets what info.

Username: Catperson10Catperson10

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y ago

I mean have* boundaries

Username: cheeseburger puppetcheeseburger...

Date posted: 2y ago

I am guilty of this as well 😪

Username: sks2011

Date posted: 4y ago

So I cant remember if I've ever asked this here, but has anyone ever done something awful that their ocd convinced them to do and now can't let go of the guilt? And I dont mean like terrible terrible things but like lying to someone, cheating, or something else that can cause heavy guilt. If so, how did you get past this? I feel like I'm not sure how to forgive myself when my moral code is so high.

Username: froggy123

Date posted: 4y ago

Anyone else have OCD about real life events and have lots of guilt over them? I know I shouldn’t but every time I seek reassurance from people (I’m trying to not do this) they tell me not to worry about it but my OCD tells me that they’re lying. Lol.

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Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 2y ago

new obsessions

every time my OCD finds something new to obsess about I feel like it’s the worst one yet. I used to think feeling like i don’t love my partner is the worst but turns out feeling like i cheated on him is so much worse. especially because it’s not cheating OCD but real event OCD. I somewhat entertained things with a friend a couple years ago (assumed he was probably into me and didn’t stop it/ liked the attention??) and even drunkenly fell asleep on his leg once. and i have talked about it with my bf but not the detail about sleeping on his leg (i’ve told him other arguably worse things (no kissing or anything like that)) and we’ve gotten past it. this was someone who i definitely never had feelings for and never wanted anything more out of than attention. but now i feel overcome by guilt and anxiety and i replay the scenarios over and over in my head. i feel the constant need to confess every last detail i remember but i read that confessing can be a compulsion? ugh anyone else dealing with real event OCD have any advice? I can’t see my amazing NOCD therapist anymore due to insurance issues :/

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