Cheating ocd

I would suggest two things: One, try to handle this yourself for the most part. Let the thoughts in, let them run around and give you anxiety, and then breathe them out. Look, I can’t tell you with absolute certainty your partner isn’t cheating on you, but I can tell you that it isn’t your worst case scenario. Your worst case scenario is that *you’ll never know if your partner is cheating on you*, because OCD thrives on insecurity. If he tells you he’s cheating, you’ll get over it (though it’ll be painful!!) but living in this blank space will give you anxiety. Unfortunately you can’t ask him every second to tell you if he’s cheating, so just let the thoughts sit. They’ll get easier! Two, I want you to tell your partner IF YOU’RE COMFORTABLE. This isn’t normal worries; this is OCD. You have to be careful with it. Don’t ask him if he’s cheating. If he doesn’t know you have OCD, explain it; then either way, say: “My OCD is trying to convince me you’re cheating on me. I don’t know if that’s true, and don’t tell me if it is. It’s not going to help. This has nothing to do with you and everything to do with my OCD. I just wanted to let you know.” He should support you without reassuring you and maybe this’ll give you some comfort. Also remember that you’re allowed to be genuinely suspicious if your partner is cheating on you—real fears can coexist with OCD—but these are OCD fears and they’re irrational. Treat them as such! You’ll be okay, though it may not seem like it. Just let yourself breathe. You are doing incredible.

Thank u so much I’m trying to say to myself “oh this is a silly thought, anyways” but ocd makes it like it’s real and needs to find certainty but I know it’s my ocd playing up because it knows that it’s my biggest fear and how good me and my bfs relationship is. I know he is a loyal man but my ocd is like how do U know and all of that bullshit. he knows I have anxiety but not ocd only one person does and that’s my aunt I don’t really like telling people because it’s so personal and it’s so misunderstood sadly, I just rather keep it to myself for the time being. in the future when I feel more comfortable I will tell more people about my ocd. I am dealing with my thoughts better but sometimes they catch me unexpectedly and that’s when I go down and downhill anxious spiral. Thank you so much this really helped !

This was a helpful thread. It’s a new theme that’s popped up for me recently with my now husband and I’m like I HAVE NO REAL REASON TO THINK THIS