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- 6y
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Intrusive thoughts are thoughts you don’t enjoy so if someone is gay they enjoy those thoughts so they aren’t isntrusive . No one think homosexuality is an illness but for someone who is straight those thoughts can be scary and it goes both ways gay people can have intrusive thought about being straight
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- 6y
I truly think you should have classified this post as a "trigger warning." Honestly, I think you are taking this further than it is, no one here says that homosexuality is an illness, having intrusive thoughts about it is (because people who are straight and get these thoughts are not implying that it is an illness, they just feel bad for getting these thoughts,so let them be if they dont feel fine considering being gay). Plus, you saying that you had intrusive thoughts about it and ended up being gay doesnt help anybody who is experiencing hocd, its great that youre able to express yourself now but there are people here who arent helped by that comment. You should be a little more careful when posting, at least mark it as a trigger warning!
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- 6y
i understand what you’re saying (i’m bi) but i think you’re misinterpreting it. for example, i know i’m queer (constantly questioning if i’m a lesbian or bi) but there are so many instances where i’m sitting here plagued by thoughts that maybe i’m straight and i’ve been lying to myself and pretending this entire time for attention. does that make sense? that form of OCD isn’t saying that any sexuality is an illness in of itself, the illness portion is the fact that they can’t stop questioning their sexuality even though they know what it really is.
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- 6y
As a fellow sapphy, This really should have been marked under trigger warning.
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- 4y
you had hocd and ended up being gay. are you joking.
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- 19w
Is anyone here actually gay and has/had sexuality or religious ocd? I don't have it at all haha I'm a lesbian myself without socd or religious ocd but I'm just curious: what's it like and how did you deal with the whole "biggest fear coming true" thing?
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I don't usually post on here because it could end up becoming a compulsion or could be seen as reassurance seeking but I think I just need a place to vent and to also get some encouragement and peer support. I am really struggling with my intrusive thoughts and feelings today. All of it feels extremely real and convincing. Right now, I feel thoroughly convinced that I have already identified as either a lesbian or bisexual. I have been diagnosed with OCD by both a psychiatrist and a psychologist years ago and I still feel convinced that it isn't OCD. I keep feeling as if I am just using OCD as a cover-up / as an excuse to deny my “actual” sexual orientation / to hide the “fact that I'm actually lesbian / bisexual”. I have been practicing ERP whenever my schedule allows but it's tough... ERP typically works for me but on days like today, it doesn't seem to be working and that makes me doubt if I have OCD or not. At the same time, I am also convinced that ERP isn't working and I am secretly in denial / struggle with comphet / have internalised homophobia (which makes it worse because my family is homophobic and most of my intrusive thoughts have been targeting that / using that as evidence). Feeling really scared and hopeless... 😞
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- 11w
Hello, so I’ve been struggling really badly with so-ocd where I am worried that I’m not actually straight when that’s what I’ve always thought and wanted to be. I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 2.5 years now, he’s my first boyfriend and I really love him so much and want to spend the rest of my life with him. I remember one time, before I had struggles with so-ocd, I had a thought along the lines of ‘what if I’m missing out on other men by staying with him’ and it didn’t really cause any anxiety but I felt quite guilty for thinking that. But I moved on. However, right now I’m in the depths of so-ocd it started back in March I believe, and today I had a thought along the lines of ‘what if I never get the opportunity to try being with a woman because I’m in a relationship with a man’ and that has really set me off today. I’ve had a meltdown over it, my chest feels heavy and it felt so real like I actually wanted it and I had a feeling of wanting to be gay even though that’s not what I want in life. Why is this happening to me and I feel so horrible for thinking this like it felt like it was me and not the ocd and that I’m just lying to myself and my boyfriend. I’ve tried scrolling on here to see if anyone has had a similar thought or experience and I am aware that this is reassurance seeking but I just need someone to tell me that I’m okay
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