- Username
- nivfa
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Intrusive thoughts are thoughts you don’t enjoy so if someone is gay they enjoy those thoughts so they aren’t isntrusive . No one think homosexuality is an illness but for someone who is straight those thoughts can be scary and it goes both ways gay people can have intrusive thought about being straight
I truly think you should have classified this post as a "trigger warning." Honestly, I think you are taking this further than it is, no one here says that homosexuality is an illness, having intrusive thoughts about it is (because people who are straight and get these thoughts are not implying that it is an illness, they just feel bad for getting these thoughts,so let them be if they dont feel fine considering being gay). Plus, you saying that you had intrusive thoughts about it and ended up being gay doesnt help anybody who is experiencing hocd, its great that youre able to express yourself now but there are people here who arent helped by that comment. You should be a little more careful when posting, at least mark it as a trigger warning!
i understand what you’re saying (i’m bi) but i think you’re misinterpreting it. for example, i know i’m queer (constantly questioning if i’m a lesbian or bi) but there are so many instances where i’m sitting here plagued by thoughts that maybe i’m straight and i’ve been lying to myself and pretending this entire time for attention. does that make sense? that form of OCD isn’t saying that any sexuality is an illness in of itself, the illness portion is the fact that they can’t stop questioning their sexuality even though they know what it really is.
As a fellow sapphy, This really should have been marked under trigger warning.
you had hocd and ended up being gay. are you joking.
It’s ridiculous how much people discussing HOCD bothers me. I know it’s a form of OCD, which I understand is out of the person’s control. I know mental illness is not a choice. I have OCD, so I get it. I get invasive thoughts about being hetero, so it makes sense that it works the other way too. I know the people who have HOCD aren’t necessarily homophobic. It does kind of make me feel like my sexuality is a worst case scenario, though. I can’t help but think “people are as afraid of being like me, as I am of heart attacks”. Idk. It just almost feels like people are saying “oh no what if I’m gay” “don’t worry, you’re straight. You’re okay because you’re straight” (which I know isn’t the case). It could just be because of the lack of positivity I’ve seen surrounding the queer community lately, though. I’m not trying to call out or invalidate people with HOCD though, I know it’s something that they don’t enjoy, and it’s something they suffer with just as much as I suffer with my OCD. Sorry, just needed to get that off my chest
I’ve never heard of HOCD. When I read about it, it says “fear of being homosexual when you are straight or vice versa,” yet it’s still called “homosexual OCD.” I’m a lesbian and I am having a hard time wrapping my head around this concept because honestly the symptoms sound kind of homophobic? Constantly FEARING you might be gay? I’m trying to think of it from other people’s perspective and trying not to be insensitive, it’s just that when I was questioning my sexuality it’s because I was actually gay, and the symptoms sound a lot like someone just discovering their sexuality but being struck with fear and hiding it. Thoughts?
Any tips on not taking other people’s ocd personally?? I’m a lesbian with SOOCD where I obsess over being straight/attracted to men. It’s been beneficial to use this app and look at posts from others with SOOCD because it gives me some perspective. However, it’s uncomfortable to see the fear that people have over the idea of being gay because I already feel like being gay is wrong/gross/scary and my brain takes those posts as “proof” that being gay is wrong so I’m horrible. I know that this is NOT a rational thing to think but my obsession on this topic are so intrusive I just can’t help falling into that train of thought. Essentially. I feel like this app is a double edged sword so I’m unsure of if it’s even worth it to continue looking at it.
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