What do you guys do when you do something wrong? I don't know if it's ocd but when I do something wrong I just can't let it go, it was months ago now but I think about it everyday and it's just consuming me. And I don't even know if it can be guilt/shame ocd because I actually did the thing
I’ve been living with the guilt band shame for a year. It’s really time consuming and it’s been affecting my health. I became obsessed and depressed. I wanted to make myself suffer for what I did. It’s really hard. But we’re human and sometimes we don’t make good decisions. all we can do is learn from the mistakes make amends and be a better person. Don’t look back. As hard as it is. I’m still struggling. They said they forgave me but I can’t seem to forgive myself.
I struggle big time with real event ocd focusing on several mistakes I have made. I’ve been struggling since before COVID. I feel like I need punishing and can’t seem to forgive myself. I think because I made so many similar mistakes that makes me particularly hard on myself. But I’m practicing techniques my therapist has given me and have some books to read. I’m a little better and hope for more progress. Wishing you the best in your recovery.
Ruminating over real events doesn’t help or change the mistake. Life is a journey and hopefully we are learning to be better people. U can’t change the past but u can be a better person in the future. You are still going to mess up but try to learn from it. There was a man in the Philippines who was doing a group Bible study in a prison. In that prison he came across the man that murdered his grandson. The man started talking to the murderer about the Bible. The murderer studied the Bible with the man. He was baptized and they are brothers in the faith. That’s forgiveness right there!!
I understand this; in even the smallest of situations I have burdened myself with guilt. Something that changed my perspective was actually a TikTok my friend sent me where a therapist was talking about how we don’t always have to be the best or most quality people because we are human and that’s an impossible standard, so when we have moments where we mess up, it’s really okay. I realize that OCD convinces us we are the exception to things like this too, but that’s something you have to try to recognize is just your OCD clinging to something negative. Here for you :)
Accept that I’ve messed up, apologize to anyone I hurt, and do better next time.
It’s important to remember that experiencing OCD about a real event doesn’t mean you have to treat it any less than just OCD. Remember past mistakes through an OCD lens is distorted. If a loved one was confiding in you about a mistake, you’d be far less likely to judge them as you do yourself.
I completely know what you mean, it's like my ocd is really beating me up about it and taking up so much time but I just feel like I deserve it. I know I'd never do it again but I cant seem to let it go
real event ocd sucks:( its my main theme
There are my pasts which I am not proud of and make huge mistakes.......now after so long suddenly these memories are coming back to me.....getting a worse anxiety...and feeling shit about myself...I don't think so I can ever forgive my self It turns me to a bad person...I don't know what to do.....how to live anymore..Is this even normal in OCD....or it's not my OCD...I don't know how to correct my past..
So I cant remember if I've ever asked this here, but has anyone ever done something awful that their ocd convinced them to do and now can't let go of the guilt? And I dont mean like terrible terrible things but like lying to someone, cheating, or something else that can cause heavy guilt. If so, how did you get past this? I feel like I'm not sure how to forgive myself when my moral code is so high.
I made a huge mistake in the past. Going into it I didn't know at the time how bad the mistake was until a long time later. I so badly wish I could go back and fix it and change it. I hate myself and I feel like I deserve to die. I talked to my parents about it and they told me that I need to just let it go and stop beating myself up and that I've punished myself enough but I can't seem to shake it off and move on. I'm a Christian so I do believe Jesus died on the cross for our sins but why do I feel so bad. I feel so guilty. I would NEVER make the same mistake again knowing what I know now. Do I deserve a second chance? Is it possible that OCD can make it worse than it actually is? I need help 😭
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