so i have tik tok and i comment on videos sometimes. well some random stranger started like arguing and disagreeing with me about something in the comments and every time something like this happens it affects me so much and i don’t know why. like i feel sick and like i’m an awful person and idk why it makes me feel like this. like i don’t even know this person. has anyone else had similar experiences? idk what to do
Yes I have I jus try acknowledge that I don’t even know that person well and it’s not worth my time nor Energy.
@Brian :) that’s a very good point, thank you!
Yes I have had people argue with me, make fun of me, or try to spam my posts with negative things. It has definitely affected me a lot in the past. I don’t comment on things as frequently any more. I’ve heard an analogy that the internet (especially social media) is like screaming into a void. You can’t control how people take things nor can you control what people will say. I try to either not engage, because it will probably go no where, or not take it personally. Some people spend all their time roasting others.
@LavenderGreyhound this was very helpful, thank you!
Everyone isn’t going to agree with you and you won’t agree with them, that’s life. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you or the other person are right or wrong just that you view the situation differently. You have to learn to accept this.. we can’t control others thoughts or feelings… it’s actually a good thing that we all don’t willingly accept what each other say but it’s about how we go about discussing this with others. It shouldn’t devolve into personal insults etc —- some people will argue with you or comment nasty things for the sake of it or because they’re not happy. Block and restrict comments if you don’t want to engage in a discussion/disagreement. People not agreeing with you doesn’t make you an awful person, it’s just a part of life and how we all evolve and grow.
@thrutheweather thank you! i will work on accepting that more for sure!
Recently, I had a really bad bout of ROCD, but when my boyfriend came to visit for the first time in a while it settled down a bit because I was happy to see him, and things have been pretty good since then. But this morning I saw a tiktok about a girl complaining about how her boyfriend doesn’t do that many little things, which is a very minor problem I have in my relationship, and everybody in the comments was telling her to leave him. It was extremely triggering, even thought I’m very happy with my boyfriend and he treats me well. I wish I had never watched that tiktok.
On TikTok, I get called ugly so damn much, and people are just fucking rude and I'm not sure what they expect to gain from it, bc yes, it sucks, but I don't really care. Yes I post goofy videos of me doing voiceovers of cringey songs, I'm having fun, and showing my confidence, ppl really wasting a second typing out "💀" which, I don't even know why, like, if ur having a bad day, sorry but it's not my problem. It does piss me off, but I'm keeping my head high, Kinda sucks cos my friend hardly ever gets hate comments and I get them every day. :/
I’ll be on TikTok/instagram scrolling and suddenly there will be posts like “if he does this he is probably cheating”….”this is a huge red flag and you should leave”…. “No matter how loyal he seems there will always be another girl”….etc. these posts trigger me very badly and lead me to checking memories and my partners past mistakes and I panick when videos talk about stuff my partner or I have done… and the comments are even worse :( it’s always people sharing their stories and saying “not to trust him if he___ blah blah” and it sends me into a spiral of searching if my partner is bad. Are people on TikTok just saying things for attention and scaring people or is it all true?
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