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How do I get over an ex that I was with for a whole year?
How do I get over an ex that I was with for a whole year?
Time and experiencing life.
My wife divorced me after 35 years of marriage. I was devastated at first but then I met a woman that I fell madly in love with š
@Anonymous Aww
Hey. I was in your situation and it was hell. I understand. If u need any support with this pop me a comment on one of my posts whenever I post and Iāll do all I can to help. If it was recent hereās what I recommend: ā¢let yourself feel. Donāt numb any feelings. Let it all out ⢠Order yourself your favourite food. And try and enjoy it ā¢surround yourself with family and friends as much as you can. And although it may not seem it right now. It. Will. Get. Better. I promise. š¤
I was devastated after my first relationship. I didnāt believe it at the time, but I had a dear friend who constantly encouraged me that things were already slowly getting better ā eventually I leaned into the idea that even when it feels like hell, every MINUTE, every day, you are a bit closer to healing and not feeling this way. And it was true. I just kept saying ātomorrow will be betterā and eventually it became ātoday is okay, tooā
Maybe make a list of your values and the things you haven't done due to ruminating about the ex? That may inspire less fixation on her.
OCD played a massive role in me feeling fixated on a situation that I technically had no emotional attachment to anymore. Itās important to recognize what aspects of it are OCD related, and use your ERP tools to overcome compulsions. If you do feel youāre experiencing regular grief over your relationship, it can also be helpful to consult a mental health counselor to address those issues separately. Take so much care <3
@EmmaKN Amen
How do you guys get past the anxiety? I feel like my thoughts are the only thing that control my mind. So often I feel like I should just leave my partner even tho I love them so much because I just feel like these thoughts are too much. I over analyze everything. I feel so stuck and defeated. I just want to be normal. I feel so toxic for the thoughts that I have
When my boyfriend and I are apart, it honestly feels like I've lost all feelings for him. I start questioning everything, wondering if I even love him at all. Then, when we're finally together again, the memory of those earlier doubts creeps in and completely ruins the moment. I get so caught up in overthinking and analyzing my feelings that I can't even enjoy being with him. It's like I'm constantly second-guessing myself. The worst part is, sometimes later, when we're still together, I do feel the love. But then the anxiety kicks in again! I start worrying that I'm just faking it because I had those doubts earlier in the day. It's this endless cycle of questioning, doubting, and overthinking, and it's exhausting. I'm really struggling to stay present when we're together, and it feels like this constant cycle is preventing me from truly connecting with him. We have been together for three years and we love together, and I just started feeling this way about a month ago; itās been almost every day since. One day, I randomly thought about breaking up with him. Our relationship is healthy, especially compared to my previous toxic one, where I was anxiously attached for two and a half years. My boyfriend is very supportive of me. I have talked to him about my doubts and everything Iām experiencing, and he continues to support, care for, and help me through it all. I am very grateful for that. One aspect of my current relationship that I would like to improve is our communication, but we are both willing to work on it together. I often find that my overthinking leads me to question whether I really want to try to fix things or if Iād rather just continue as we are. This creates a constant push and pull in our relationship. Has anyone else experienced something similar? Any advice on how to break this cycle and just be present in the moment? I'd love to hear from anyone who's been through something like this.
How to stop overthinking my boyfriend is cheating? Heās cheated before yes.. only once!! (not physically cheating BUT Cheating is cheating I get it)ā¦. Iām still trying to heal and not be so insecure and self doubting myself like I did something wrong or that Iām not enough.. he hasnāt done it again since that day but I still overthink and still feel like I need to check through his social media accounts but I still have this fear but itās like I know heās not?? Idk if this makes sense I just need some friendly advice!! Please be respectful!! ā¤ļøā𩹠I want me and partner to move forward but I constantly keep thinking about it.. that was the one bad thing heās did in our relationship..weāve been together for almost two years
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