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Time and experiencing life.

My wife divorced me after 35 years of marriage. I was devastated at first but then I met a woman that I fell madly in love with 😍

Hey. I was in your situation and it was hell. I understand. If u need any support with this pop me a comment on one of my posts whenever I post and I’ll do all I can to help. If it was recent here’s what I recommend: •let yourself feel. Don’t numb any feelings. Let it all out • Order yourself your favourite food. And try and enjoy it •surround yourself with family and friends as much as you can. And although it may not seem it right now. It. Will. Get. Better. I promise. 🤍

I was devastated after my first relationship. I didn’t believe it at the time, but I had a dear friend who constantly encouraged me that things were already slowly getting better — eventually I leaned into the idea that even when it feels like hell, every MINUTE, every day, you are a bit closer to healing and not feeling this way. And it was true. I just kept saying “tomorrow will be better” and eventually it became “today is okay, too”

Maybe make a list of your values and the things you haven't done due to ruminating about the ex? That may inspire less fixation on her.

OCD played a massive role in me feeling fixated on a situation that I technically had no emotional attachment to anymore. It’s important to recognize what aspects of it are OCD related, and use your ERP tools to overcome compulsions. If you do feel you’re experiencing regular grief over your relationship, it can also be helpful to consult a mental health counselor to address those issues separately. Take so much care <3