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I want advice
How do I get over an ex that I was with for a whole year?
How do I get over an ex that I was with for a whole year?
Time and experiencing life.
My wife divorced me after 35 years of marriage. I was devastated at first but then I met a woman that I fell madly in love with š
@Anonymous Aww
Hey. I was in your situation and it was hell. I understand. If u need any support with this pop me a comment on one of my posts whenever I post and Iāll do all I can to help. If it was recent hereās what I recommend: ā¢let yourself feel. Donāt numb any feelings. Let it all out ⢠Order yourself your favourite food. And try and enjoy it ā¢surround yourself with family and friends as much as you can. And although it may not seem it right now. It. Will. Get. Better. I promise. š¤
I was devastated after my first relationship. I didnāt believe it at the time, but I had a dear friend who constantly encouraged me that things were already slowly getting better ā eventually I leaned into the idea that even when it feels like hell, every MINUTE, every day, you are a bit closer to healing and not feeling this way. And it was true. I just kept saying ātomorrow will be betterā and eventually it became ātoday is okay, tooā
Maybe make a list of your values and the things you haven't done due to ruminating about the ex? That may inspire less fixation on her.
OCD played a massive role in me feeling fixated on a situation that I technically had no emotional attachment to anymore. Itās important to recognize what aspects of it are OCD related, and use your ERP tools to overcome compulsions. If you do feel youāre experiencing regular grief over your relationship, it can also be helpful to consult a mental health counselor to address those issues separately. Take so much care <3
@EmmaKN Amen
My partner broke up with my about 10 months ago. It came out of nowhere, and I got no explanation before they ghosted me and blocked me on all forms of contact. I have been horribly struggling since then with this obsessive need for closure. For a while I continued to try to reach out to them, on my own accord or through other people, but it just kept ending with more blocking. For months, I was going through the relationship and the breakup in my head over and over, picking it apart to try and figure out what went wrong, but without a conversation with my ex, I couldn't get anywhere. I am definitely doing much better now. the compulsions to reach out to her and the spiral obsession with figuring out what went wrong have both lessened. but they are still present, especially when I sleep. I really just want to be rid of the whole situation, but i want to do it in a healthy way without locking up my feelings. i really am at such a loss though. i still want answers and i still miss my ex in a lot of ways, but at the same time, the though of running into them scares the shit out of me. ive heard some horrible things about them since then, and how they have been spreading rumors about me behind my back. the situation cant seem to get any worse and it just keep happening. and it makes my ocd triggers so much worse too. idk, i will take literally any responses and any helpful advice.
My ex best friend started dating my ex boyfriend. And me and the boy are in the same church so this is awkward. My heart is broken, not because heās with someone else but the fact that itās with her. I look back at every moment the three of us spent together and just wondering if they liked each other when me and him were together. Iāve lost all self respect, I keep stalking them on social media and Iām so mad at myself because I know that Iām letting them hurt me more but I canāt help it. I also still have my ex bsf location and I checked it today and saw that she was at my ex bfās little brotherās baseball game, this hurt because me and him used to do that together, also me and his family are still close because of church so I have a soft spot in my heart for his little brother. I just feel like my whole world is upside down, Iām so confused. Iām trying so hard not to resent them, I try and remind myself that they are still Godās children. But I still find myself full of bitterness. Iāve been processing everything for about a month and I have tried tons of things to heal: put all of the items he gave me in a box, go to a rage room, visit the temple, journal, pray. Each of these things have helped a ton, but I still have a lot of pain. I know that this is all part of Godās plan but itās still painful, I just need to remember that this pain is temporary and will help me grow as a person. I just wanted to share this and maybe get some advice on how to heal from a broken heart. I know this isnāt really OCD related but I just really needed to share this.
Does anyone have advice for dealing with a breakup. This hurts so bad and my brain is torturing me. OCD makes it so much worse. Itās been a month already. I need to start letting go but canāt stop. Any advice for letting things go .. ?
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