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Something that’s helped me is ditching the labels... across the board with all of my ocd. We see everything so very black and white, but everything for everyone is a spectrum. I have had all of those same thoughts and feelings and once I said, hmmm I’m a little bit more of this way on the Kinsey scale, not labeling it bi or gay, it helped me not freak out and become more comfortable with passing thoughts... sexuality is SOOO fluid no matter how straight you are. I have no desire to be with a woman and am happy w my boyfriend, but if I get slightly aroused by a lesbian kissing scene in a movie, I acknowledge that in that moment, something about it was appealing, the taboo of it or the sensuality, who knows but i let the thought pass and later apply that sensation towards the person I love. Hope that helps a bit...
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- 6y ago
I actually gave into it on Monday and tried to come out to my boyfriend as bi!! He saw right through it, I’ve been at my wits end so I just saw it as a way out of all this pain!! On a plus side he told me that if I was bi it wouldn’t bother him at all
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@Laurie my boyfriend said that too. And I told him I’d be bothered with being bi just bc I would have to date girls too and it makes me uncomfortable, and I find tons of girls pretty casually, but when I talk to my friends and get constant weird sensations in my body that feel like attraction idk what to believe.
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Me neither @Brookenoel, the idea of being with a girl doesn’t appeal to me at all! I struggle with the sensations too and can’t tell the difference between admiration and attraction anymore it makes me so confused.
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We will get thru this together ??
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@Outgoingocd ditching labels doesn’t really help for me. Same with the sexuality is fluid thing bc people get me confused with it, I know I can be aroused by same sex scenes bc it’s sex and no matter what I’ll get a sensation, but when I’m actually involved in it I’m super into men and things like that. When I see a super cute guy I used to swoon and I’m able to on my good days , then some days it kinda gets me with just my thoughts and anxieties. I do wish I could just be head over heels for my boyfriend again. Would make thing better
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I am with you there! Going through the same things
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I feel the same way, you all are not alone!
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@Outgoingocd thank you, I know I like men as of now which I couldn’t say months ago even with the anxiety. But my mind always goes to “do I know I’m lesbian now” “what if these are real attractions” etc
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- 6y ago
@outgoingocd YASSSS! I couldn’t agree more with you on the statement about the Kinsey scale, BUT my ocd still makes me obsess over where I’m at on it & what if it just totally flips ? Now that I’m typing it, it seems silly.
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I hear ya... just remember the butterflies are just another type of anxiousness lol your ocd is totally just blocking you right now, once your anxiety calms, you’ll be in a more confident place again. Good luck!
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- 21w ago
Pocd feels real again and I can’t tell if I’m actually attracted or not. can’t believe it got this bad again. I used to be able to go “no I don’t like that, go away” and now it feels like I do like it and want it, and it’s starting to linger longer so it feels more real. I’m avoiding checking but I’m so scared that what if it’s true. Is it because I have not been doing my exposures? I’m not sure, but every time a 14 year old person comes to my head, I keep hearing something go “they’re attractive” and it sounds like me so I panic, and it makes me even more scared because I’m not feeling bad about it??? I saw some kid at Walmart that had long black hair and my brain kept saying shit and no matter how much I say I don’t feel that way, it won’t shut up, i want to check 1000 times to make sure. But I know it’s not worth it. I’m trying so hard
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I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
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I’m 25 and never ever thought this before my soocd relapse. I have a bf of 5 years. Never been a high libido kinda girl. Don’t get me wrong I do get turned on by my bf but not like every day you know? - That had always been in the back of my head, is this normal and ok? But my ocd has latched onto the most scariest what if EVER. My brain is now saying How do you know you won’t prefer to sleep and kiss girls if you haven’t tried it: and it’s that unknown that is scaring the shit out of me. I DONT AND NEVER HAVE wanted to sleep / kiss a girl. But now my intrusive thoughts is all I think about!!! I don’t want I don’t want I don’t want??? So why does my brain think BUT WHAT IF??? I know ocd thrives off uncertainty which is why I think this is happening? But I don’t wanna find out or work it out because all I want is to be with my bf and marry him!! Is this just the epitome of OCD?
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