Why does everything online say distraction is bad?

I am also super confused by this… but I have kind of decided that distraction is okay sometimes. A lot of people will say “that’s just avoidance”, but for people who struggle with rumination, you have to stop it and get out of that frozen rumination state, usually by doing something else. I think maybe there’s a problem with framing something as a “distraction” rather than maybe as moving away from rumination? Not sure. But either way, you HAVE to get your brain out of that loop by doing something else! So I think it’s not bad all the time.

I also get confused about this but I think it depends on how you're approaching it. If you're using distraction as a subtle avoidance compulsion that's bad. On the other hand, I think if you're telling your mind "yeah I'm not gonna ruminate on that, I'm just gonna play some video games" and using it to prevent ruminating (rather than avoiding triggering thoughts and situations), it might be okay. Probably requires some serious meta-cognition each time to make sure you're doing things for the right reasons?

I totally get this! It’s difficult to figure out if I’m approaching it from an avoidance place or an “I need to get out of rumination hell” place lol. 😅 And then that can trigger OCD about “getting” it right and messing up my therapy and all the rest! So, moderation and trying to give myself space to make mistakes is my approach. Audiobooks are my go to for breaking rumination, but also for enjoyment and relaxation. If I’m obsessively listening and tuning out, and I know some intrusive thoughts and feelings have been popping up - I try to recognize there may be some avoidance happening and look for ways to allow my fears. But sometimes I’m doing my best, or I really do just want to finish my book - so I tell myself that’s ok to.