Yesterday I seen a post my mates girlfriend posted on FB. I noticed on the pic some of her thigh was there, she has tights on I think. Anyway I kind of felt some arousal! I think she is an attractive person and I would never cross that line or anything as it's my mates gf! But why did I feel some arousal. Is it normal make biology or maybe it's OCD and feeling on edge by looking lol. Flipping mind!
ITS OCD questioning whether it’s ocd is reassurance seeking which unfortunately makes ocd worse.
I don't think it's OCD... it just sounds like a normal biological response and doesn't warrant any further thought.
@krikri_ You’re right about it just being biological what I meant is the further thought you mentioned. Which op is having.
There is a wonderful book out there called Come as You Are that outlines how arousal is merely a biological response to a sexually relevant stimulus but is completely separate from desire, interest or wanting. Now they often come together but they don’t need to. You can feel arousal in response to something sexually relevant like an exposed thigh and have no accompanied desire to interact with it
Well that’s your sexuality assuming you are straight based on your male profile picture. Yeah I definitely one thing thought of old my friends boyfriend’s was attractive but same I would never cross that line. It did feel unloyal to my friend but we talked about how I thought he was cute before they were even dating and she knows and said that’s fine because humans are attracted to other humans but it is up to my choice if I make a move on him or not. Attraction is something you can’t control
POCD TW I was scrolling through Instagram and saw a picture of a little girl and suddenly I had the urge to kiss or touch her or something it scared me a lot and I started scrolling faster to get away from it BUT I felt a groinal response and it felt SO real like butterflies and twitching and itching and everything maybe even vaginal lubrication and I had the urge to masterbate and scrolled back to make sure I don’t desire this and I felt calmer when I didn’t feel anything looking at her again but I still feel anxious and kinda aroused during the day thinking back to the situation I don’t know what to do it feels so real the urges and everything ?
a little concerned. i’m not gonna freak out and come on this app all anxious and nervous i’ve made that mistake one too many times. but, i was watching tik toks and there was this one that this girl said she would rather scissor with a girl and i genuinely got turned on and in my head i was like (TMI 18+ AT THIS POINT)… “yeah i want that omg” and it turned me on but at the same time made me very anxious. i just don’t believe that runs through straight girls’ minds if they see stuff like that. any advice? on like how to handle this? no one ever really talks about genuine arousal all that’s ever talked about it “groinals”. (which i do in fact believe are a very real thing)
I found myself looking at a girls legs most days for a while. She's 15, I'm 36 now, maybe I was 35 then as it was a few months ago or less. It started 1 day as I thought nice legs, then went on and on. However I felt bad about it as she's 15! It kind of latched onto me and I remember thinking I won't look today but then I did anyway? Now my problem is why. Did I think they are a good set of legs and is that normal regardless if she's 15 but then that's that or am I a perv or is it OCD making it an obsession, as I used to feel bad about it! Then came looking at her butt one day as she was wearing tight leggings, I even said to myself how could a male not find that attractive (as a way to rationalise maybe it's a normal biological thing?)as I think it was an attractive image? but felt bad again because of her age! Then 2 different days came the feelings of arousal (which I tried to halt straight away) and a few sexual thoughts which I also did not want and was feeling crap about straight away. This is something that is bothering me considerably now and I even remember feeling bad and thinking I never want to see her again (not in a bad way, just a normal way) cos I'm feeling guilty about this! I do have OCD and it's latching onto all sorts of stuff, so is my anxiety and ocd on this girl making this all seem out of proportion?
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