I feel numb towards my partner? I know I dont want to leave him but I havr no anxiety anymore, and I just feel numb and a little weird towards him. I want this to stop

I get that way at some point during every relationship I’ve been in. I start to get complacent and not unhappy but it feels like there’s nothing. I usually just bail on the relationship at that point but with my current boyfriend I’m sticking it out and slowly working past it. It’s help a lot to talk to my therapist about my relationship also to write down all the things that are good about the relationship. Try to go out and spend time doing things with him that bring you joy. I’m not sure if the overall numbness goes away but I know in the moment you can find happiness with your significant other.

That’s 100% normal when recovering from OCD. I know that doesn’t make it any easier to go through though. Recovery has many stages. When we’re anxious, getting rid of the anxiety is all we want. Once we’re not anxious anymore, we realize NOT being anxious can be even scarier/harder. It takes awhile for real feeling to return. The thing is, just like suppressing a thought makes it more likely to happen, trying to will a feeling makes it less likely to happen. OCD is one big paradox. Give yourself permission to feel numb. You’re doing exactly what you need to and you’re doing great. Even if it doesn’t feel that way right now. Good luck ?

pureolife what worries me is that I havent done anything!Literally. Im not in therapy and I havent done ERP. 2 weeks ago I felt fine for like 3 days but suddenly I started to get worried about not having anxiety and it evolved to this. Yesterday I was with my bf and as I was hugging him I thought to myself that I didnt want anybody else, but then I imagined I was hugging any other boy just to see how Id feel compared to him. So even then I think I was doing a conpulsion. Today I just woke up and I felt rrally numb and even felt like he was a stranger and that makes me feel bad because I dont want it to be that way. I want to feel normal with him again; I know that I dont want anybody else but even though I know that my brain somehow tries to trick me into believing that maybe I do.?

I know exactly the feeling and thoughts you’re going through. I don’t know why but I feel like my brain is trying to trick me out of happiness. The advice I have for you is to try to push through it. And maybe consider therapy, it’s honestly so freeing to be able to openly talk about even the littlest of worries with someone that can help process and tell you why you are feeling this way or how to deal with it. For me just trying to stay positive about my relationship helps. If you are feeling numb with then maybe take a break mentally and spend some alone time reflecting on what used to make you excited about the relationship. Or if you are feeling numb when you aren’t with him, send him a text or makes plans. Make something to look forward to.

The thing is that since my anxiety is gone I have started to believe that maybe I dont have rOCD and that scares me. I havent been diagnosed by a professional but I have many reasons why I believed that I have it. However, now since the anxiety has reduced Ive started to believe that if I go to see a professional they will not take it as serious because Im not having the anxiety anymore and Im just having the thoughts.

Just take things day by day and honestly do not dwell on it too much, especially at once. For OCD the more you dwell and stress about it the more you worry and the worse it gets. Try, even though sometimes it seems impossible, to direct your mind to something positive. Try to find the good out of every obsession and try to not give in to your compulsions. In this scenario, don’t lose hope in your relationship. I know you’ll be able to work past these numbing and hopeless feelings

Therapy is good for people who also don’t have anxiety or other disorders. I actually have never talked about my OCD in therapy. But it is still very helpful and lightens the loads of things I stress about. Everyone expresses OCD in different ways, a really common thought is that it isn’t OCD at all.

If you’re not doing therapy or ERP or anything, why not start? Seems like you need to do something. Maybe start with a book on Pure O. Or find a local support group. Worrying and testing yourself won’t help. I can tell you that much.