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Thank you, this is a new one that just started for me. Thanks for the hope best of luck to you and your relationship!
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Yeah cause it’s more so cause you’re like ocd is making you wonder how much you love him if at all.. ya know
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I also focus on the positive things he says, "he's here for me, he's excited about our anniversary in 2 weeks". Focus on the positive facts. His actions, his words, it helps to reinforce his feelings about me and he's by my side no matter what
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Thank you so much Dylynn
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You're welcome! Idk if you can reach out to people on here, but between me, you and Shaz, we can become a great support team, since we are working on the same ocd.
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Ayyy I'd love to, as I'm new in all this and really need support and I'd love some companionship with people who are going thru what I'm going.
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I think that’s a great idea!
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I Agree! So grateful to have met you ladies and we all know exactly how each other is feeling it’s incredible ??
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Oh my gosh yes. This is what I'm currently going through. It is a tough journey, but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel since I've started working on it
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Thank you! If you could use some tips and strategies, I'd be more than willing to help.
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Yeah actually what helped you get over it
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Oh man yeah I get that too!
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And it's like only me who wants their bf to cheat lol. I've never seen anyone suffering rocd think this way.. i absolutely hate this... Then I'll think things like oh i hope he gets other girls attention.. which disturbs me....
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I told my husband last week that I knew he was talking to another woman. I even stated I was okay with it, because I'm so lost in my head, that I understood he needed a level headed person to communicate with. After stating those words, it tore me up. So I get up and walk around my block when I see him getting on his phone. Work through my mind that it's an intrusive thought and he's not talking to anyone
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Omg no I deal with that too. The whole crying bit. Really all you can do is dig deep not when your in an anxious state and decide if you want to be with him or not. Like it’s super hard but imagine your life with out them...
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Cari, no he's not. My brain sees it that way. He's getting worse out on proving it to me, and I see it, to where I realized my ocd is out of control
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Same here. It's been wonderful talking with you ladies, we're not in this alone. There are others whom are going through the same thing and I can see this as a great way to start focusing on us. Definitely needed companionship for us! ?
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?? definitely! Nothing is impossible for us. Stay strong and fight thru it. Idk if we can share personal information on here but we should definitely make a support chat group or something like that.. just an idea. But yeah i loved talking and opening up to you guy. Thank you for listening and talking. Lots of love. <3
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YES my is so bad I know he is at work and I would call and text him until he rwsponsw
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I do! But then this monster in my head tells me that it's good that he's cheating. You'll get ur escape and leave him.. idkk what's real at this point because I'm just confused.
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You do!!???
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So he isn’t actually talking to anyone right?
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Yeah. Today we had this huge disagreement and I kept on saying break up breakup. And my bf was like calm down, take that anger and sadness out of you, and tell me what you want. And i cried and said this relationship. Then after I'm done crying, my mind goes like dang it! U had ur chance to escape... And suddenly I'll regret that why didn't i just break up... Or everytime i cry, my mind will tell me that I'm just acting to cry!!!!. Oops lol that got off topic but is this normal or rocd related? Because I'm self diagnosed so I don't really know.
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Does Rocd make it nearly impossible to forgive your partner for anything. Whether it is big or small? My situation is so gray area where there’s something my bf did that I feel like I’m not okay with but he did this when we were first dating (not bf and gf yet). I ruminate all day about it bc I don’t want to lose him and see a future with him and I know he loves me so purely. But I also feel like I’m going against my morals here bc I do feel betrayed by what he did. I try to forgive him by diminishing my feelings and telling myself “he never did anything physical with a girl or went out with another girl while we were together” but still feel so hurt that he even messaged another girl while us dating. He’s given me an explanation and has proved how much I can trust him so I’m just completely stuck on whether I should forgive something I know I would’ve never done to him or leave him even though the only thing he’s done wrong was before us becoming official. I’ve broken up with him countless times over this situation bc I feel like I “can’t live with it” but then immediately when we break up I want him back and I kind of understand his explanation and reasoning. I don’t know what is ocd and what is my real intuition anymore. I genuinely think it’s both. Are any of you guys in the same boat?
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I'm 18, and been in a relationship with my man for nearly 2 years. I started living with him around 2 months ago, and all I do is think about if he's cheating. We were long distance for a year and a half of our relationship, maybe seeing eachother once every month or two. I decided to move in with him, and ever since all I can think about is if he's cheating or watching porn. When he's in another room I think he's doing something wrong, I have to check on him every ten minutes to ease my anxiety. I didn't have this problem before moving in. Granted he has talked to some girls on his phone, even having his ex on his phone (didn't do anything bad) and he is porn addicted though he is getting better for me. It's gotten so bad I want to leave him. A couple days ago I broke up with him and it absolutely broke my heart, I couldn't bare it so I gave him a month to show me he can do better, and for me to work on myself. If I'm still unhappy with us I'm going to leave. I love this boy more than anything. I'm scared to be without him, this is my first real relationship. At this point I refuse to even sleep until he is sleeping. I don't want to start over, I don't want to leave him, but I really can't take this pain it's causing me. It's all I think about. I've convinced myself so many times that he's cheating, but I know he wouldn't. I question whether it's anxiety or intuition. Maybe I just know deep down he really is cheating and I just don't want to believe it. I don't know. I don't think he would do that, but at the same time he's really into women. I hate that he looks at other girls in a sexual way, it bothers me so much, and we talk about it often, but with it being an addiction it's difficult. He has gotten a lot better since we have talked about it. He understands I have an issue and is usually happy to talk about it over and over and promise me over and over that he's not cheating. He allows me to have his phone whenever I want and everything, I have no reason to think he's cheating, but I can't get over it. It's not fair to him either. How do I deal with this? How do I stop hurting so much?
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Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love, however if you are living with Relationship OCD (ROCD) this can be a very triggering day. Relationship OCD is essentially, the fear of being in the wrong relationship, not truly loving your partner, or not being loved by your partner. This makes you doubt the true nature of your relationship and makes you believe that your entire relationship is based on lies. It can make you feel like a bad person and not worthy of love. ROCD will make you believe that you need to leave the relationship just to find some peace. When we think about ROCD we often think that this only applies to romantic relationships, however ROCD can impact friendships and family relationships as well. ROCD will attack whatever relationship is most important to you. As an ERP therapist some of the most common obsessions that I have seen include “Is my partner ‘The One’”? “Maybe I am meant to be with someone else”. “What if my partner cheats on me or worse I cheat on him/her”? “I find X attractive. Should I break up with my partner and be with X”? “Do I even love my partner? What if they don’t love me?” This list could go on and on. The basis of all of these intrusive thoughts is fear and doubt. The compulsions associated with ROCD are vast. The most common include checking feelings to make sure you really love your partner, avoidance behaviors, reassurance seeking behaviors both from your partner and from others and ruminating on the relationship in the hopes of figuring out if this is the “right” relationship for you. ROCD, as in most theses in OCD, wants 100% uncertainty that this relationship will work out with no conflict or compromise. The problem is this is unrealistic. All relationships will have some level of conflict and compromise in them. There is no “perfect relationship”. Most of us have grown up with fairy tales where one true love will come and sweep up off our feet. Life and relationships can be messy and complicated, but they are worth it and are a key aspect of what makes us human. The fact is ROCD makes you doubt everything and will take the joy, excitement and contentment out of the relationship. The good news is that treatment is available, and it is possible to have a long, happy, fulfilling relationship despite ROCD fears. It does take time, perseverance and patience. Treatment using Exposure Response Prevention has been proven to lessen intrusive thoughts. You will learn to manage your expectations of the relationships while leaning into your fears and learning to accept the uncomfortable feelings. By doing this, you can bring joy and contentment back into you life and your relationships. I'd love to hear about how ROCD is showing up for you. Share your experiences in the comments below or ask your questions about ROCD and I will respond to them.
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