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Everyone is different. For some it takes years to "get over" their illness.es and for others it takes months. It depends on many factors so don't feel bad. You're valid and it's not because you "got over" your ocd in 2 months that you didn't have this illness before (or maybe you still have it but you're just having a good period)
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Welcome to the next stage of recovery: learning to deal with the anxiety that comes when you realize you’re not anxious at the old thoughts and that bothers you. Sit with this new layer of anxiety (anxiety about not having anxiety.) you got this.
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This has been happening to me,no anxiety. I havent had therapy nor medication and I havent done ERP so it worries me I never had rOCD and it was all a lie
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shaz since March practically! I was having some intrusive thoughts in February but in March everything got worse and I started to pay a lot of attention to them until I felt like I couldnt even get out of bed because of how bad I was feeling. However it has been like three weeks since my anxiety decreased and is nearly gone and I have been worrying about these being my true feelings. I even thought I wasnt performing any compulsion anymore but I have been posting a lot to see if this is normal so I guess I have been asking for reassurance. Also I have been creating scenarios to see how Id feel so I guess Im still in this cycle, but sometimes I feel good and thats great for me but not all the time because I get really scared thinking that the anxiety is gone because I never loved him and I just hate that but youre right. Ive been trying to think about the fact that love is a choice, and I have to work to get better
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If i didn't have this illness and i thought all those thoughts about my bf... Does that means it's my true feelings.. ?
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Ohhh i got it. Sorry I read it wrong. Thank you for replying
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Yes we got this!!!! Btw how long have u beem having ur Rocd for? @xmariax. Plus love is a choice. Even if it's your true feelings, your choice can alter those feelings and fall in love with him again. It's possible :) if u fell in love before with him, you can do it again, and again, and again. It's alright. My bf tells me sooo many times it's ALRIGHT shaz!!! He'll lecture me and I'll laugh then he'll laugh too and say u never listen. All your thoughts are NORMAL. You are normal. And I'll feel better and confident. He's my therapist lol. I love him. <3
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@pureoflife. Honestly first i did got anxiety that it's not rocd. Then i was like frick it, if it's not anxiety. I'm not gonna ruin my whole day cuz of this. So yeah I'm not feeling anxiety even now. Idk if that's wrong... But i really love him and wanna be with him. I wanna fall in love with him over n over again..
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I guess I'm a exception or i might still have rocd, but i suffered from it for almost 2 months and I'm not having compulsions, no anxiety. I'm like whatever happens, happens. And I'm religious lol, so I always tell myself that God won't do anything to hurt me or jonathan ( my bf). I'm so done with this.. I'm tired. Tired to the point where I don't pay no mind to my thoughts. I focus on loving him. My bf said focus on me, my heart. Don't focus on what you feel. And be natural, don't force anything and the love will come rushing back. I'm waiting for it and working on it. That's my goal now. I asked for reassurance too. But then i was like frick it. Enough is enough.
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- 25w ago
I'm really struggling atm w what I think is rocd. I know for an absolute fact that I love my boyfriend 100% with all my heart. I'm only 15 but I know that he's the person for me. We've been together for a year and a few months and I've been in love with him since I was 11. I'm almost 16. We've never had an argument, he's so incredibly supportive and he's very aware of the whole situation. I've been having horrible thoughts for about 6 months now that I'm not in love with him anymore. Obviously this upset me so so much but at the beginning I knew it wasn't real and I miss when my biggest issue was how to tell him and not upset him. Luckily I have the kindest most loving boy and he completely understood me and he is the only person who can fully comfort me. At the beginning I knew the thoughts weren't real but 6 months later and they're all i can think about I'm believing them and it's horrible. At one point about 3 months ago I came to the realisation that love is a choice, I loved being around him qnd kissing him and being his friend, and qt 15 that's basically all a relationship is. Since coming to that conclusion, and also telling myself that even if the thoughts were real and I really didn't love him anymore, then I would again because of who he is, and the sheer fact that I want to love him, the thoughts have changed into what if I dint like him and now I've convinced myself that I don't even like him and I don't want to love him again, and that's the worst part of it all because I believe it. He knows I believe them, and he's only 16 but he's handling it all so so we'll. He says that he knows that the thoughts aren't real, even if I don't know because he's got an outside perspective, but it's okay if I don't realise it because he'll wait for mw as long as I need. Some days I overthink so much I refuse to kiss him, and he's handled that so well, he'll always ask me if I want a kiss or a hug beforehand if I'm having q bad day, and he's gotten into the habit of watching Disney films with me ro help calm me. I don't understand why I don't think I want him in my life anymore. I miss feeling like i love him. I do have therapy, and she says that the thoughts aren't real qnd she knows this because of just the way I speak about him. My mum said she knows that they're not real, ans his mum says the same. For about 5 days last week the thoughts were gone. I felt like I loved my baby again. I was so so so happy because I loved him again and he was so proud of me. Then the thouhjts came back. I dint want this to be too long, im so sorry of you're still reading. Just any tips on how to love my baby again? I'll do anything except break up with him. I love being a part of his family qnd I miss how it was, but I'd much rather be so so sad ans scared all the timw with the thoughts then not have him at all. I've had very intrusive thoughts before but nowhere as bad as this. Maybe the intensity of the thoughts is mimicking the intensity of the love I have for him? I just want to love my jude again, my lovely boy :(
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- 19w ago
Hi everyone, I’m struggling with what I believe is ROCD, but it feels so real and overwhelming that I don’t know what to trust anymore. I wanted to share my thoughts and experiences, hoping someone can relate and maybe help me feel a little less alone. Lately, I’ve been feeling completely disconnected and numb toward my boyfriend. I don’t know if I love him, and I’m constantly questioning my feelings. Sometimes when we’re together, I feel like I don’t want to talk to him, or I find him annoying, boring, or even cringe. Then, I feel immense guilt because he’s a loving and caring person who doesn’t deserve this. I have these intrusive thoughts that say: • “You don’t love him.” • “You’re just pretending.” • “You’re fed up with him.” • “You want someone else.” Sometimes, it doesn’t even come as a question like “What if?” — it comes as a statement, which makes it even scarier. And because I feel numb or indifferent when these thoughts come, it feels like they must be true. I’m also terrified that this isn’t ROCD, that maybe I’m not experiencing anxiety at all, and that these thoughts reflect how I truly feel. This fear is paralyzing and makes everything worse. I feel trapped, wondering if I’m just in denial and avoiding the truth. When I’m with him, I get caught in mental compulsions like: • Checking my feelings constantly to see if I feel love. • Comparing how I feel now to how I used to feel. • Seeking reassurance by thinking things like, “If I didn’t love him, would I feel this bad?” • Replaying memories to convince myself that I care about him. • Reading posts about ROCD to feel better, but the relief never lasts. I also feel like I’m ruining my relationship day by day. I get irritable and rude, and I know it hurts him, which makes me feel like a horrible person. I worry that I’m pushing him away and that one day he’ll give up on me, and it’ll be all my fault. Sometimes, I have moments where I feel happy to see him, and that confuses me even more. I recently saw him for a few minutes while I was out with my friends, and I felt joy seeing him. But when we’re together for longer, my mind gets flooded with doubts and fears again. I hate myself for feeling this way. I feel like I’m failing him, and failing myself. I’m scared that I’m in denial, that I don’t really love him, and that I’m forcing myself to be in this relationship. The numbness makes me feel like I don’t care, but deep down, I want to care. I want to love him, feel happy with him, and just be normal. But my thoughts keep telling me otherwise, and I feel trapped in this loop. If anyone has gone through something similar, or has any advice on how to manage these thoughts and compulsions, I’d be so grateful. I just want to know that I’m not alone, and that there’s a way through this. Thank you for reading. 💔
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- 13w ago
My rocd is making me disconected from my boyfriend thinking he is cringe and that i dont know him or i dont like him for real, making me question the times i was happy thinking i was pretending and i was just thinking i am happy and in love but i wasnt… when i think abt my boyfriend i cant feel happiness… im scared. Yesterday we talked he said he is happy when we talked he sais how happy he is and that if i dont feel the same i should not panic (hw knows about my thoughts) i am so sad, i dont want to be like this forever, im scared
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