R*pe ocd please help

My friend had a similar situation. Personally I think it is tricky what defines rape or not. Here I don’t know if it is rape or if it is, but I do know that what he did was not okay. What my friend did is that she talked to the guy about it and how it really upset her. The guy tried to guilt trip her again so she left him. Maybe try talking to your bf about how you really feel. Relationships are supposed to include trust. If you talk to your bf and he seems like he doesn’t rlly care about how u feel it that ur over exaggerating maybe take a break from the relationship. A real nice guy would put you above his hormones.

If you don’t think he r@ped you then he didn’t r@pe you

I struggle with stuff like this sometimes. I think that based on how you’ve described your anxiety here, you’re really afraid of not being able to let yourself be happy with this partner, and you’re not actually afraid of this partner. Obviously you can always change your mind if he does turn out to be bad news, but this sounds like a relatable OCD thing to me. “Is my bf a bad person” anxiety can be an extension of the “am I a bad person” anxiety.

The fixation on the word and if it is r*pe or not is where I think the OCD is rearing it’s head. AND, as others have pointed out, that doesn’t mean his behavior was completely okay. Both can be true. At the end of the day it’s about how it made you feel about the situation, about yourself, and about your relationship. Did it bother you? Do you still feel safe being intimate? Did you feel safe in that moment? Have you talked about how you felt? That is what matters. Defining something as r*pe or not, or someone as a r*pist or not does not necessarily hold any value, what holds value is what that word means to them. For example, I have many friends who I believe have been r*ped and do not refer to it as such, or see that person as a “r*pist”. That’s fine for them, it’s how they view it, and that’s okay. I know this is confusing and must feel really scary. You aren’t alone❤️

I’ve been dealing with the same thing as well. Though he never stuck it in he just grinded on me. I know OCD sucks but you can get through this

I have never thought this deeply about this moments until I had this theme .

So... my ex did the same to me. But it was he wanted to do that and he got overly excited and rammed me. Ugh. I was bleeding after. Not fun. I didn't consider that r*pe. However; he did in fact R*ape me one time. I specifically said no. I said no a few times and he kept going. Normal sx. But still I said no. But he overpowered me. So if you said no in the beginning and he does it anyways that is r*pe. If you said sure let's try it and you changed your mind and he still was like just a tad bit more it's boarderline but he stopped when you truly said no. So I don't think it is. If coresion was indeed r@pe then it happened to me every single night for 2 years :( but after my ex I do have some issues in bed.