ROCD and crushes/attraction

Hi, my ocd is starting to make me think I have feelings for a male coworker I barely interact or talk to 😔 Keep in mind I love my bf and he has a significant other too. I have no actual urge to cheat or be innapropriate (Even if we were both songle, I'm strongly against workplace dating anyways) l'm not sure how to deal with this appropriately. Any advice or suggestions. This is also my last post on here.

Username: zragonzragon

Date posted: 1y ago

The only advice I can give is to just continue living your life the way you are, but maybe keep interactions with this guy to a minimum so your brain is less likely to dwell on him. It's normal to find people attractive, even if you're already in a relationship. Remember that relationships aren't about finding some perfect match soul mate. It's about having a companion that you can see yourself being comfortable around and having fun with for the rest of your life.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

You know your own values and morals. You said you love your boyfriend and are against workplace dating. That’s your answer right there. The thought popped into your brain, it freaked you out since it’s not something you want or enjoy thinking about. The more you try to push it away or think through it to see if its true the more it will persist. You need to have the mindset of well, maybe I do have feelings for this guy.. maybe I don’t, no way to truly know. Once you can kind of make peace with that it loses its power over you.

Username: tgrace22tgrace22

Date posted: 1y ago

Yeah just trust your values

Username: FactsOverFearFactsOverFear

Date posted: 1y ago

Maybe my opinion is the outlier here, but you can still be attracted to someone else while you're in a relationship! As long as you don't cheat, there is nothing wrong with thinking another man is attractive!

Username: Fabulousfaerie00Fabulousfaer...

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

*male coworker has a sig other

Username: Youcanheal

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

Relationship OCD

Has anyone ever had an intrusive thought that they have a crush on someone else while they’re in a relationship? I had an intrusive thought about one of my co-workers who is female. I don’t believe I am even gay but for a moment I had a small panic attack that I had a crush on her. I know I love my boyfriend and want to be with him but now I feel like I betrayed him by thinking about someone else like that even though it was an accident. I know I can’t say anything to him about it because I’m pretty sure the crush isn’t real and it would just make things weird between him and I. Anyone have any suggestions or can relate to this?

Relationship OCD

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

ROCD

I just wanted to ask a quick question. I love my partner and have ocd but whenever I feel pretty or try to dress nice, an instant image pops in my head of another guy at work. This makes me feel like it’s proof I like that guy but I have no interest what so ever, I love and am obsessed with my partner. What is happening, and is this normal?

Username: xX_Xx

Date posted: 1y ago

Questions about OCD

So I’m 17 & I’m curious as to how OCD effects you’re relationships & interests &/or crushes you get on people. This feels a little silly thing since it’s not that big a deal & feels like such a teenager problem, but I thought maybe other people might understand if it’s an OCD things. Whenever I start to take an interest in someone I quickly start to feel obsessed & all I do think about them, it’s been like this pretty much my whole life It; used to bother me & make me feel like I was crazy but now it doesn’t bother me so much. However I’ve started a new job a developed a little crush on one of managers who’s just a couple years older than me; that’s not a big deal but it’s frustrating me how much he’s on my mind the last couple days. I also feel like I’ll get random crushes on people I don’t actually I have interest in but all of a sudden I’ll be obsessed with them & feel like I have a crush on them but pretty much have no interest in actually pursuing anything with them. Are these OCD things? Both the becoming obsessed with crushes as well as feeling like I’m interested in someone even if I don’t & then also becoming obsessed with them? I just wanted to vent a little & get some opinions before I head into work today. I’m still fairly new to OCD, I’ve started to realize it affects a lot of aspects of my life but not sure on everything yet.

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