Why reassurance is bad it’s make me feel safe and not crazy and not alone why is it bad

Depends on how you're defining "reassurance"! For lots of people with OCD, asking others for reassurance ("am I really a murderer?" "do you think I'm a pedophile?") is a compulsion to get rid of anxiety caused by their intrusive thoughts. If you have a compulsion to seek reassurance, the reassurance you get won't last long and definitely won't solve or cure your OCD. Even if somebody reassures you by saying "your thoughts aren't real", you will still have the thoughts because they come from OCD and not from your own consciousness. Does that make sense? I'm not sure how to explain it ?

Can i ask a question but it’s out of context

Yep, go ahead

What if allll my this horrible thought really horrible thoughts are true but i will not act upon it. That makes me not a good man? I really feel that i dont have ocd and i just imagine and think bad i really feel that all this thoughts is from mee deep inside and i really don’t care sometime to have all of these thoughts i just dont know ..all i know is inwill not act any of these thought..but is thinking bad is a bad thing itself?

I asked that because I’m really lost trying to identify whither i have ocd or not..

Listen: you cannot control your thoughts. If you know something exists, like murder or terrorism etc., your brain is capable of making you think about it whether you like it or not Every person on the entire planet "thinks bad". Even the Pope. Even the Prime Minister. Even your parents. It's part of being human. It's out of your control. And it doesn't mean anything about you. That's just the way our brains work! I sometimes have intrusive thoughts that tell me OCD isn't even real! That doesn't mean those thoughts are true. And it doesn't mean I think OCD is fake! It's just something random that comes into my head.

You should go to a doctor and ask for a diagnosis - nobody on here can diagnose you, but if it's important for you to know then you should go to a professional and ask ?

But thoughts about having sex with mom dad or a dog .. thoughts when i see a curvy girl and i compared it with my mom’s body are soo weird right?

They are weird, but everyone's brains are weird. If you don't like the thoughts, then ignore them

My doctor don’t listen he just give me meditations i have only 15 mins to talk to him!

Okay. Is there someone else you can go to - an OCD specialist - who can help you?

Then you don’t think that I’m a bad person because i think of that?

Noo in my country there is no ocd specialist..mental illnesses is not taken as a serious problem in my country. Plus i’m still young and can’t effort money for the therapist and my parents know nothing about this

You're asking for reassurance!! I have never met you, and nobody is fully good or fully bad. We all think horrible things and we can't always help it. I think you should find some help if you can, to help yourself see past the intrusive thoughts.

And ah that's fair enough. Perhaps look online to check if there are any. Also, there are useful YouTube channels you could look at. Chrissie Hodges is a good one; so is Ali Graymond.

Thank you and I’m sorry if i keep searching for reassurance i just need to feel safe..thank you

That's alright, you're welcome. Good luck!