Scared. Help me

This post reminds me so much of myself when I was in my early twenties. This is what helped me: Radically de-center men from your life. Release the need for male validation. Some of the replies to this thread (and no hate to them) but they reinforced the idea that you need to make yourself more appealing to your partner so he'll always prefer you. No matter how hot or cool you are, there will always be someone hotter or cooler. Realizing this freaked me out originally and made me feel worthless, but then I realized that partnership is the radical commitment to someone when both of you are well aware there are other people out there. Partnership is choosing loyalty and love over temporary excitement. I had a revelation when I realized that women I thought were the epitome of hot and cool would get cheated on. Love is not dependent on what you look like, so no other woman can be a threat to your relationship if you have the type of partnership that is going to last and be rooted in love. As women, we are conditioned to view each other as competition for the male gaze. This only serves to further the patriarchy. Please, surround yourself with women. Join female-only spaces where you can heal jealousy and sisterhood wounds. When I started doing this, my entire life changed, and I no longer really cared if my partner was in the same place as an attractive woman because I had immense love for myself and I knew my partner did too. What you are experiencing is such a common experience to feel as a woman! Let older women guide you through it and heal with your sisters :)

From a guy’s perspective here I think it’s usual for a guy to find his gf to be the most attractive and beautiful girl ever, that other girls who are known to be pretty don’t even matter when you’re in love and have a gf. I think your ocd is hyperfixated on this and honestly the best thing to do is relax tension in your body and pretend you don’t care. Let the negative thoughts about this come into your mind but just let them sit there for a second then be on their way. Tonight may be hard at first but eventually you won’t care about him being around your friend, because you’ll see it doesn’t matter.

Yes don’t be jealous or insecure. Instead look at your own qualities. Enhance your best features and be confident. It will make you more attractive to him. If you should insecurity or jealously it will push him the opposite way. You have to appear confident and happy to be around to draw someone closer. I’ve made this mistake lots of times. Show him your carefree happy side. People are drawn to happy people that are confident. Hope that helps. Please love yourself. X

Believe in God and be confident, if he was meant to be with you, he will never like another girl over you If not, then you will find someone better

Good advice from everyone. Love ❤️ yourself. If he doesn’t care about you keep it moving.

Thank you all!! I was scared of it but when we went out this weekend it forgot about it and it wasn’t even on my mind. I also wasn’t scared about it because he was really attached to me and did his best to get to know my friends in a really nice way. I love him so much and I even feel bad for feeling this. I was this night also really confident and talked to all my friends and was really happy and I hope he saw that too.