I’m meeting with my therapist Monday and I’m really afraid that she’ll tell me to break up with my partner because of my thoughts. I’m afraid of these thoughts never going away and this feeling of anxiety coming. I just can’t seem to feel happy in my relationship due to my intrusive thoughts.
That sounds very scary. And it's okay to be scared, to he worried, and to be anxious about the unknown. Practice some grounding techniques and take things a moment at a time. There is one thing I have learned from therapy is, your therapist may or may not state their opinion about what they feel is best for you and they will always help you obtain your goals and assist in guiding you to a healthier life. It is always your choice if you think or want to end a relationship. And if you set that boundary at the beginning and put in the hard work, they will be there with you every step of the way. Stay true to yourself, put in the work, and you'll do great! It'll take time and one day you'll be where you want to be. Hang in there 😁
don’t worry if anything they’ll help with decreasing the intrusive thoughts without having to sacrifice relationships that are important to u . intrusive thoughts don’t hold any weight 💖
If you’re meeting with an OCD therapist on here, the goal is to treat your OCD. The good news is, ERP is designed for that. In my experience, ERP lessens the anxiety associated with intrusive thoughts, causing me to not focus on them so intensely (no longer very anxiety producing), and subsequently my mind just starts to just settle down. The result for me is more clarity on the reality of the situation, not what my mind is saying is happening. That took a lot of consistency and vulnerability in the beginning, both working with my therapist and doing ERP at home. Over time, I got more freedom from OCD than I previously had. I hope you stay on the path of recovery working with your therapist!
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If they are not an ERP therapist you may or may not have to explain about the intrusive thoughts being unwanted and extremely anxiety provoking.
Yesterday was so good, I had my first session with my NOCD therapist. Then today comes and I’m in a whirlwind. Nothing feels real everything feels so fake. I have intrusive thoughts slipping into my head every second. They aren’t even what ifs they are now statements. The fact that they are statements rather than what ifs or questions make me feel like a horrible person. Instead of what if I don’t love my boyfriend. Or what if I don’t want to be with him. It’s I don’t want to. And I don’t. It’s causing a lot of anxiety. And then I think well is this bothering me enough? Do I feel scared enough? Does the thought of you leaving him bother you enough? What if it doesn’t? What if I do leave? What if what if what if. I feel crazy.
I’ve been going through extreme distress because of my urges and intrusive thoughts that surround my boyfriend. He’s amazing and I love him so much but i have such a strong urge to breakup with him. This urge gets to the point that I have had multiple panic attacks where I am crying, shaking and throwing up. I have talked to him about it but I dont want to keep hurting him. I really want these thoughts to stop, so I can continue normally with my boyfriend and feel connected again. Any ideas?
hi so i am pretty new to discovering ocd and trying to figure out why i am feeling the way i am feeling. i’ve never been diagnosed with ocd and honestly thought my anxiety was just super bad until it started affecting the way i saw my relationship. i’ve never had this bad of anxiety in my relationship and around november of last year is whenever i started noticing the cycle of repeated thoughts of “should i break up with him?” ive been with my boyfriend for almost two years. yes we’ve been through our ups and downs and our relationship has overall been such a beautiful relationship (super healthy compared to old ones) we love each other deeply and communicate and just overall find ways to help improve our relationship healthier and i’ve had a doubt here and there throughout these years but since last November i started feeling disconnected with him a little. i started to question sometimes if i really loved him. other times i told myself and asked myself if i should break up with him. if we really loved each other. i started focusing on his features a lot more. to the point where these thoughts around him made me feel so extremely uncomfortable. i’ve done all my research trying to figure out if I love him or not and trying to find reassurance and other people stories to see if they feel the same way I would also see how I feel whenever I was around him and it got to a point where I overall just felt very disconnected with him and a lot of different forms. I sometimes will forget about these thoughts and I will go out through my week throughout my days and I won’t even think about them and then something good will happen actually and it will trigger that immediate thought or sometimes we’re not even doing anything we’re just hanging out and being together and that will trigger the thought of wanting to break up with him and it makes me extremely uncomfortable and it makes me panic gives me anxiety and it just stresses me out because I know it’s not true, but my brain has tried to fully convince myself it is. I was doing really good and I figured out how healthy I wanted this relationship to be recently and because we’ve been so stressed on talking about our relationship and moving on even further and growing together, it started coming back and now I’m very very anxious again. I also have this type of anxiety of obsessing over things such as my health. When it comes to my gut health to my skin I have a very bad habit of having perfectionism not only within, my body face and everything around what is myself. I have a lot of anxieties, and I always thought it was just very severe anxiety until when I was researching why I was doubting my love for my boyfriend I heard of ROCD and I was super curious to know if I even have OCD, I brought it up with my psychiatrist and she doesn’t think that I have any. I have so much anxiety over this I feel like it’s physically and mentally controlling my body from how much it’s overwhelming me. I don’t know what to do. I keep convincing myself it’s not even RCOD and maybe I truly don’t love him but I have no other proof or feelings that that could be true. It’s just a thought that circles in my head and no matter how many reassurance I give myself it will come back within an hour, if someone could please give some advice I will have my own therapy session here soon and I’m very excited to know how I can overcome this
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