I am 30 something and at time I get into the moods of feeling down and nervous about aging. I know that I am not old (yet) and that there is nothing that can be done about aging, but I cannot help feeling like this at times. I would also worry at time about aging when I was in my 20s. I also understand that there are positives of getting older. Idk, I guess I am just ranting about how I am feeling.
I’m enjoying going grey. I’ve never dyed my hair and I’m looking forward to the new look.
@Newb82 I try think that 30s is till young. Also, how each age has there positives and negatives. Such as when you are a teenager you might still not be able to drive or work, and you did not have the same knowledge as when you are older. When you are older, you have more knowledge, and for the most part have more peace with yourself.
@Anna,hi! Enjoy now. That is the trick.
I got really depressed when I turned 30. I don't know if it was in my mind, but I saw a huge shift in my physical health, mental health, physical appearance, and personality after I turned 30. It's like suddenly I started worrying about everything and the "What if I'll never be able to do this or that because I'll be too old?" In reference to marriage, kids, a career. I feel like if you don't achieve what society wants you to achieve by 30 that you are somehow "behind" or "not good enough." Just my opinion, but I get how you feel!
Hi fellow sufferers Now I really feel like an old person…. Except that even though I’m 60 I still feel great, and in my mind I am not a 60 year old. Most people are shocked when I say how old I am cuz luckily I work out and take care of myself. Good genes def help. But here’s the thing. Like you guys I get bummed when I think that the clock is ticking only more since I actually am older. I sometimes obsess about the time I have left and when someone does die my first thought is… how old were they?. What does it mean to me for days left to live and enjoy….. wish I could say it gets better. The good news is I’m here to share w all of you. I don’t know how much of this is ocd or just the human condition Anyway just felt like bring an ocd person I would throw my 2 cents in. No guarantees in life as they say except well you know…. Uggggh. The joys
@vgb Thank you, I agree with what you wrote but the worry is there time to time for me. I know that aging cannnot be stopped and there are positives and negative to each age.
I relate somewhat to that. So much of my perception of the world was skewed by OCD, so at age 32 when I learned I have OCD, it felt like I missed out on the first 30 years of my life and need to make up for it somehow
I felt this post. I feel like OCD make me miss out on SO many things with time and people that I'll never get back. It's still making me miss out on things, which really freaking sucks!
@Anonymous I feel the same. I am trying to forgive myself for all that I missed out on. I’m trying to make choices now for me and not ocd….but it’s hard because there is a significant level of depth too. But your life is not over and there is still a lot of living to do!!
Also in my 30s and I feel like this too sometimes, kind of like my life is half over and what have I done with it? I think it might be somewhat related to OCD, because it makes uncertainty harder to handle and stops me from assuming the best (living to 100) whereas I feel like most people without OCD assume they’ll live as long as possible. I feel like nothing is guaranteed and I could easily die in my 60s or 70s. Sorry that’s so morbid. I just try not to think about it too much. On a lighter note, do you have more gray hairs than you expected in your 30s? I can’t believe how many I have already! I thought I’d have until about 60 before that started, but no 😅😂
So many gray hairs! I have to go to the hair salon every month to get them colored
@Migratory_Bird I am however looking forward to being all gray so I can dye my hair bright colors more easily💙💜💚🧡 right now it’s too dark and I don’t want to bleach it
If you are obsessed about this and it distracting you from living your life, consider using ERP for this thought. We all think about it but not to the point where it interferes with living unless OCD is kicking in or there has been a recent loss. I’m 57 and I think about it now and again. To me 30 is young with lots of time left. To an 80 year old I’m young with time left.
@Erin P Hi Erin! That was refreshing!! What erp can I do from r this???
@Erin P And thank you!!!!!!
@vgb It is probably best to start with an ERP therapist or book/online resources so that you can do baby steps to deal with the thoughts. But ultimately an ERP script will be useful - here’s a link https://www.shalanicely.com/aha-moments/erp-scripting-for-ocd/
@Erin P Thank you! And I like what you wrote
@Anna,hi! You’re welcome. Good luck. You got this.
Do u guys have anxiety about getting older ? It feels like time flies and i'm only 19 but it's like i'm scared of wasting my youth bc of anxiety and ocd and not knowing who i am. So i'm kinda obsessed about how old am i and am i enjoying my youth enough and that i'm scared of getting older
I'm literally just hanging out with my sister and having a good time and I realized "I'm not gonna be young like this forever" and that I'm not immune to death or aging. I'm living just to slowly watch my body die. I'm already going to be 15 this year. I've already passed so much time and I feel like it's going to be so quick and I'll be dead. What if I like living more? What if there's nothing after death? What if it's just black and everything is for nothing. It kinda makes me wish I wasn't born so i wouldn't have to deal with this. it's so stressful. Every moment that passes I'm just getting closer to something I can't control. It's so scary. I can't do this. I physically cannot accept one day I'm going to be gone absolutely forever. I'll have to leave everything. Two minutes ago I wasn't as close to death as I am now. I'm cant handle this.
I’m turning 20 this year. I feel like I have so much limited time of being “young” which I never thought about before this. Growing up is so hard and I don’t know if it’s turning into ocd or not
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