I literally cannot. I feel the most severe stress/anxiety/panic all day at work. I think it’s because each deal has the ability to make or break me $15,000. And so I’ve developed a lot of job related OCD, and I’m constantly stressing about what will happen, if I said the right thing, if I did the right thing correctly, etc. Any advice please, It’s hard to stop crying rn
I feel you. There's no pill solution for OCD or any mental/emotional condition really. I wish there was but what you can try is practice being present in the moment. Realize that the pressure you are putting in yourself is really about the future. What's gonna happen? And believe me I understand this very well. This is where we can practice stillness, mindfulness and being in the moment. Take a few minutes when you feel really anxious and close your eyes and focus on your breathing. Whatever though comes to mind let it be there and don't try to resist it or argue with it. You'll feel some anxiety but the point is to be ok with the uncertainty and the anxiety which basically means accept the fact that you don't know what's going to happen but even if it is something hard you can cope with it if it comes. And let me tell you that more than 90% of the things we worry never happen. The thing is our focus is in the future and we start to catastrophize. We can't really control the thoughts that come in but we can choose to ignore them or put our attention someplace else. This is a process which takes Time, Patience and Practice (TTP). So be compassionate with yourself as you would with someone who's hurting or struggling. Tell yourself that even if the worst scenario comes you will be able to go through it and survive. After all we all have survived hard things and right now we are surviving OCD. Hope this helps and encourages you. Virtual hug 🫂
@herdel25 Thank you💜. It definitely is a mindfulness thing. Its just with OCD it’s so difficult practicing being mindful…..well at least I’m aware of that, so I guess that’s a start right? I’ve just really been trying- and some days I’m able ti be better at being mindful than others, but other days not so much. Like today. Thinking and compulsing just really hurts, it’s so painful omg
@Anonymous I understand. Some days it's hard for me too. But it's about practice. Keep at it believe me we are getting good at it even if some days doesn't seem like it. Remember it's about the journey and not about the destination. Be encouraged that you have awareness now and even if it's hard you also have the willingness to ask for help, listen and practice. So practice with no pressure. You don't have to do it perfectly or be perfect yourself. Accept your struggle and where you are in your journey and show yourself love and compassion in it. The battle is not getting rid of thoughts or anxiety. The battle is to learn to be loved right where we are and how we are and learn what that means in our journey. So keep at it!
@herdel25 Awe thank you, this made me tear up. Definitely the courage I needed to hear this morning. thank you so much again
See a NOCD therapist and get started on exposure response prevention ASAP. Maybe you will lose $15,000, you have to be able to live with that uncertainty.
@Don’tCheckMate I’ve already started implementing ERP, but it’s really hard to stick to it, because sometimes I genuinely can’t tell if my stress is valid or not, because my job is quick paced, and so I just fall into an OCD spiral without even realizing it. Do you understand?
I’m so glad everybody has a comfortable job where they can pay for therapy. But I’ve realized my ocd has gotten worse at the job I’m currently at and I don’t want to quit because the job market is never hiring and I always have bills to pay like every freaking week on top of that I’m still in college. I think being stressed is making my ocd worse.
Hi! I’m new to the NOCD community, but I’ve been dealing with OCD since I was 12. I’m almost 29 now, and my biggest issue is health anxiety. It’s gotten to the point where getting work done is nearly impossible because i can’t stop spiraling. I’m lucky that i work remotely, but also makes it easier to be in my own head… Asking for advice - how do you all deal with the intense anxiety and are able to make it through a 9-5 work day? Any suggestions on how I can actually be productive? Thank you!
Does anyone have OCD regarding always feeling like you are not good enough at your job? I'm 58 years old now I've had OCD since childhood. Every job I've been at I never felt as good as my colleagues. I am a nurse but I worked at that for 15 years I had a breakdown of sorts in 2017 and went on disability. I now work part time as a a swim instructor for kids. I always was afraid of killing someone when I was a nurse. Then I tried dog grooming but I was afraid I would do it wrong and hurt the dogs. At least now the stakes are lower. But my OCD is the same. I work with colleagues who are about 40 years younger than I am . I am afraid of teaching certain classes bc I feel like I wouldn't do as good a job as someone else. I know I can do it but it's like I have a fear of not giving them their money's worth. I've been at my current job for 2 years . I've gotten very positive comments from my managers but I can't seem to believe them. I feel a lot of shame bc I lost a lot of my life to OCD and I am at an age where people are starting to retire after long and successful careers and here I am working at an entry level job. I'm planning on trying to get out of my comfort zone and teaching some of the classes I'm afraid of .it's really hard. I'm always scared what if I lose my benefits and had to work again as a nurse how would I do it.
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